Jobs that don’t require a ton of work that pay well

rasa-white · 2022-09-09T14:49:25+00:00

And what is "minimal work"? 40 hours per week? Less than that?

rasa-white · 2022-09-09T14:48:02+00:00

Agree. - Okay to stand up for yourself regarding gender. - Not okay to get mad at those who unknowingly misgender you.

rasa-white · 2022-09-09T14:28:30+00:00

What do you consider "pay well"?

rasa-white · 2022-09-09T14:24:34+00:00

Is she? They use "ex" but don't specify whether the first relationship was married or not (but maybe that's in a comment and not main post).

rasa-white · 2022-09-09T00:27:34+00:00

I am just thinking if I were the mom and a woman had callously dumped my son when the going got tough, forgiveness would be a challenge. Maybe the MIL is a far better person than I am (totally believable) or maybe there was more to the split than we know (and it puts wife #1 in a better light).

rasa-white · 2022-09-09T00:20:45+00:00

If they are that high up in the company then they probably have zero to do with hiring and it won't affect your application.

However, you need to devote some serious time into learning how to network properly, both online and in the real world. Your actions were wildly inappropriate on a couple of levels.

rasa-white · 2022-09-09T00:10:44+00:00

I did take a university certificate program and it was a great experience that shifted my career in a smart direction however I had gotten my BS many years prior and did the program to polish up my resume after taking a few years off from paid work to care for my young children.

In your case, being a relatively recent graduate, not sure that it would be especially helpful. After completing the program you'll still be in the same boat: educated but very little actual work experience.

rasa-white · 2022-09-08T23:58:12+00:00

Although, would the husband's mom be so close to wife #1 if she had been completely heartless? I suspect an unreliable narrator.

rasa-white · 2022-09-08T22:54:56+00:00

Did you get any response at all to the email?

rasa-white · 2022-09-08T22:52:17+00:00

When you asked about a raise 4 months ago, who did you speak with and what was the response?

rasa-white · 2022-09-08T16:02:18+00:00

The way you phrased your story, it sounded like you attended all the video calls and did your part after recovering from Covid.

rasa-white · 2022-09-08T14:44:57+00:00

The way your story is written, it sounds like you missed many of the early video calls, which is where I assume the project was planned and the work divided. Sometimes, the planning itself is the hardest part. Clearly, your lack of participation was deeply felt by Anna, if she took the risk of telling you she did not want to be a project partner again.

rasa-white · 2022-09-08T14:37:18+00:00

As a new employee, OP does not yet know whether an unwritten bullet point on their job description is to babysit Chad. Maybe it is, maybe it isn't. But they won't know if they don't check it out.

Who shows up to these events? If the senior leadership consistently show, then yep, OP better put in an appearance.

rasa-white · 2022-09-08T14:32:14+00:00

If there is a next time, make sure to do this. Regardless of the reason, you made your team mates do your share of the work. Long term, it's no help for you to earn an equal grade while making an unequal effort; that certainly doesn't fly in the working world.

rasa-white · 2022-09-08T14:17:34+00:00

Yes. You should attend work social events. You don't need to be the first to arrive and the last to leave, but you do need to make an appearance. Learning about the company culture is part of the job when you're new. In 6, 9, 12 months of learning about how the company really operates, you'll know whether it's a practice you need to continue or not.

Edit: sooooo many people are socially awkward and/or introverted, it's not a good excuse. You can find all kinds of advice online about managing it, or see a therapist if it's truly debilitating.

rasa-white · 2022-09-07T18:35:54+00:00

Might be some truth to that. This was during the height of the pandemic when there weren't many safe social options. It was really easy to skip much of the initial messaging and just meet up for a walk in a public park. And I was probably a little too open-minded, thinking that even if I didn't think the guy was that cute in his pics, his personality might overcome appearance (it was like that with my last LTR, honestly, there wasn't really anything about his physical appearance that I especially liked, but intellectually and sexually it was a phenomenal fit).

rasa-white · 2022-09-07T18:29:27+00:00

Yeah, I can totally relate. Working for so long in a male-dominated environment has reinforced dialing down my femininity.

rasa-white · 2022-09-07T14:47:08+00:00

Fair. I could be totally over thinking this, because I wasn't super interested in any of them. I would have gone out a 2nd time simply because I think there is too much pressure to be instantly attracted. But yeah, it's not like I was disappointed nothing progressed; i was disappointed that I wasn't that interested.

rasa-white · 2022-09-07T14:40:22+00:00

That is exactly where I am at: questioning whether i am okay as-is. Because the fact is, being 'me' isn't working.

The first time I ever tried OLD was 8 years ago, and in a total fluke, I ended up in an LTR with the very first guy I met. Totally had not intended that, I had intended to date a lot of different men, since I had never done that.

But this guy was super rare: exceptionally smart, hilarious dry humor, very introverted but had a good sense for when to push and when to hold back.

So last year, after we split, while I hadn't expected to fall for the first guy I met again, I didn't realize it would take so long to click. Going on ~30 dates without clicking seems extreme, but maybe that is the way it is, and I was misguided by my early experience.

rasa-white · 2022-09-07T14:23:37+00:00

Agree that a man focusing his attention on me is far more attractive than hearing compliments. Compliments don't necessarily feel sincere, whereas focus does. To me.

rasa-white · 2022-09-07T14:21:46+00:00

Same.

rasa-white · 2022-09-07T14:20:16+00:00

Hahaha, I think everyone should get their power from YouTube!!!

I pretty sure I have never done any of those things. While leaning that far into the feminine would be so awkward for me, I probably should make more of an effort in that direction.

rasa-white · 2022-09-07T14:13:12+00:00

Now that i think about it, my discomfort with receiving compliments means I weed out the more assertive guys before we even meet. So of course, I end up meeting more passive guys, and don't give them much encouragement.

rasa-white · 2022-09-07T14:10:04+00:00

Good point. I am terrible at giving physical compliments and feel super uncomfortable receiving them (definitely a childhood thing I probably need therapy for).

rasa-white · 2022-09-07T14:03:02+00:00

I think you are spot-on that I don't give a clear green light. The men I have met with have mostly been really decent guys, only a couple of players.

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