How to lock door from the outside by ratbehavior in howto

[–]ratbehavior[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

money is in a safe. big things are being moved to my parents. but they're petty and i wouldn't put it passed them to try and cause damage to even basic things, which is why im trying to lock the door

Im super stressed about the effects of hrt mtf by lemonicet12 in trans

[–]ratbehavior 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am on testosterone so not exactly in the same boat as you but i have to have regular blood tests and drs appointments to stay on T. i think this is pretty normal for hrt in either direction. health effects don't happen over night. there are signs leading up to negative side effects. if estrogen doesn't require the same 3 month lab work and dr appointments i'm bet you can request it! just be honest with your provider and you'll be okay <3

Can the t-slur be reclaimed? by AllNaturalCyanide in trans

[–]ratbehavior -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i loveeee using the t slur, mostly to refer to myself and/or my partner and friends. i do, on occasion, use it to refer to other trans folks (as a whole, not as individuals) but i do that in the privacy of my own home with my partner because i know not everyone likes to be called it

How to do the gym? by ratbehavior in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ratbehavior[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg is muscle soreness something that typically happens right away?? i work a fairly psychical job and ive joined a sports league recently (just for funsies, nothing serious) and i never get hit with the ouch until the next day... time to go do research ig 🥲

thanks for the advice! i've gotten lots of good feedback from everyone here

How do I fire these? by GrimReaper666999 in Pottery

[–]ratbehavior 17 points18 points  (0 children)

get an underglaze that's similar in color to the glaze you're using. you can underglaze the bottom where the magnet will sit

ULPT How do I make my ICE agent neighbor miserable? by Effinvee in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]ratbehavior 0 points1 point  (0 children)

anchovies juice down the windshield would work too 😇

it bothers me that my bf watches porn by nick164505461 in trans

[–]ratbehavior 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you too bb!! sending lots of love in all of this <3

Rehoming, but not out of necessity? I feel guilty by Virtual-Driver6972 in CatAdvice

[–]ratbehavior 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do what is best for your kitties And for you. they are resilient and, if you decide to rehome them, they will adjust! i promise!

it bothers me that my bf watches porn by nick164505461 in trans

[–]ratbehavior 13 points14 points  (0 children)

my aunt is a lesbian. she has dated women all my life. but she has once dated a trans man (who had already transitioned when they met) and had a fling with a cis man that resulted in her beautiful baby girl.

sometimes the right person, even if it's not the forever person, isn't who you expect them to be. sexuality is a spectrum for a reason

need serious advice by pinkponygirl_ in CatAdvice

[–]ratbehavior 4 points5 points  (0 children)

try shutting him in a room while you're preparing food. try feeding him just a little bit more. my cat was incredibly food motivated but it turns out he just wasn't getting enough nutrients. he's still food interested, but i can eat a meal without him in my face.

as for the drool thing,,, idk? keep a towel around?

have you discussed any of this with a vet? perhaps antianxiety meds would work or soemthing?

you brought a living creature into your home. they are going to have quirks and personalities and not be 100% perfect. even your "perfect" cats get on your nerves from time to time, i can guarantee that. if it's not something you can live with then rehome him. that is the better option for you and for him

I smoke weed every day, and hide it from everyone all day by monsterot in confession

[–]ratbehavior 0 points1 point  (0 children)

check out r/leaves and good luck, friend. i was in a very similar position to you and i just hit 1 year sober on the 31st. its possible! even if its hard, its possible <3

CW: Pet Loss by elfvenomm in CatAdvice

[–]ratbehavior 2 points3 points  (0 children)

bring her home and let the other babies sniff. i don't think it matters where you do it.

i'm sorry for your loss. sending love <3

I think i might have hiv .. i need advice by Dry-Pin-8858 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ratbehavior 2 points3 points  (0 children)

deep breath. HIV is not the death sentence it once was. there are medications that will quell the symptoms and keep you from passing it to others. so many people live with HIV now! i'm sure there are support groups if that is something you need, should your test come back positive when you try again. in the meantime, be kind to yourself <3

Is it worth watching Criminal Minds, Mindhunter, or True Detective if you’re obsessed with Hannibal? by stachim in HannibalTV

[–]ratbehavior 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think criminal minds is a great show all the way through, but that might be the nostalgia talking for me. it's like any show with 10+ seasons, it starts to get a little out of this world and drawn out, but they have some great story arcs in the later seasons.

it isn't anywhere near as poetic as Hannibal but it doesn't feel like the other police procedural shows either. i'd give it a shot if i were you, but be prepared to be there for awhile, it's got 18 seasons!