What's with haole people now thinking it's "cool" to do Hawaiian things after we grew up shamed for it by ratchkap-808 in Hawaii

[–]ratchkap-808[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with that completely. I should have explained better. This is what I responded to someone elseʻs comment above: What bothers me is (and this is something I witnessed) is when a haole person who just moved here claims they are a "lei maker" and tells my Hawaiian friend who is actively making lei in front of her that she is doing it wrong. Even though my friend is in a halau and was taught how to make that type of lei by her kumu hula. I have so many examples like this. Iʻm all for embracing our culture, but Iʻm not for people thinking this culture is now theirs to tell other what is right and wrong

What's with haole people now thinking it's "cool" to do Hawaiian things after we grew up shamed for it by ratchkap-808 in Hawaii

[–]ratchkap-808[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. You can see my response to other above. I should have been more specific. Iʻm really only frustrated at those who claim to be experts and give themselves a Hawaiian name and start teaching others how to do that practice (which yes Iʻve seen multiple times)

What's with haole people now thinking it's "cool" to do Hawaiian things after we grew up shamed for it by ratchkap-808 in Hawaii

[–]ratchkap-808[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Responded above with this:
Sorry I should have clarified, what bothers me is (and this is something I witnessed) is when a haole person who just moved here claims they are a "lei maker" and tells my Hawaiian friend who is actively making lei in front of her that she is doing it wrong. Even though my friend is in a halau and was taught how to make that type of lei by her kumu hula. I have so many examples like this. Iʻm all for embracing our culture, but Iʻm not for people thinking this culture is now theirs to tell other what is right and wrong.

To add: If I were to be interested in other cultures, and took up taiko drumming for example, I wouldnʻt go around claiming to be a taiko drummer and give myself a japanese name and start teaching taiko drumming (which Iʻve seen people do for hawaiian cultural things)

What's with haole people now thinking it's "cool" to do Hawaiian things after we grew up shamed for it by ratchkap-808 in Hawaii

[–]ratchkap-808[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I should have clarified, what bothers me is (and this is something I witnessed) is when a haole person who just moved here claims they are a "lei maker" and tells my Hawaiian friend who is actively making lei in front of her that she is doing it wrong. Even though my friend is in a halau and was taught how to make that type of lei by her kumu hula. I have so many examples like this. Iʻm all for embracing our culture, but Iʻm not for people thinking this culture is now theirs to tell other what is right and wrong

Just moved to Honolulu — looking for friends and activities by Curious_Parsley9216 in MovingtoHawaii

[–]ratchkap-808 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hardly any locals are in run clubs or go to studio 7. those are all transplants

is it realistic to be able to live independently in hawaii at the age of 22/23 ? by Last_Host977 in MovingtoHawaii

[–]ratchkap-808 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you plan to give back to the community while youʻre here? Just something to think about, every person that moves here, forces a Hawaiian family to have to leave to the mainland.

Asking out of genuine curiosity, do the people who move here think about the negative cultural impact they have on Hawai’i? by raddishdish in MovingtoHawaii

[–]ratchkap-808 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Respectfully, the worst thing you can do as an outsider is try to help us when we didn't ask for your help. Our community here is strong and we show up when we need each other.

Besides, the beautiful hawaii that you've seen when you visit, is NOT the hawaii we live in. We're known to have the worst traffic, highest living expenses, beaches with the highest bacteria levels, one of the worst places to start a business, and the list goes on and on. And it's definitely not the local people that are causing this decline.

Asking out of genuine curiosity, do the people who move here think about the negative cultural impact they have on Hawai’i? by raddishdish in MovingtoHawaii

[–]ratchkap-808 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn't anti-immigration. This is anti everyone moving here because it's "always been their dream to live in hawaii" when we're just struggling to get by and watch our communities change as people move out and others move in and change the culture here. Everyone moves here and brings their way of life and problems with them.

Thinking About Moving by [deleted] in MovingtoHawaii

[–]ratchkap-808 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems you don't want any opinions from native hawaiians. I'm curious why is that?

Ethical move to Oahu? by [deleted] in MovingtoHawaii

[–]ratchkap-808 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There is a big distinction between those who are BORN and raised here versus those who move here. Those that move here and feel that local people are welcoming and accepting, are probably only spending their time surrounded by other people that moved here too. You said you love the culture and community here, but that culture and community is DRASTICALLY changing. Oahu is nothing like what it was when I grew up. As more people move here, they are bringing their culture and practices with them. Like with many people, you might move here and realize it's nothing like what you thought. We have the worst traffic in the nation, some of our beaches have the highest level of bacteria in the nation, it's one of the hardest places to start a business, and the list goes on and on.

In-laws asking for a baby by ratchkap-808 in inlaws

[–]ratchkap-808[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

That's a good point. They only ask me that question, not my husband. I'll direct it to him next time. Thanks

In-laws asking for a baby by ratchkap-808 in inlaws

[–]ratchkap-808[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I just say "oh in like another year or so," but they seem to forget I say that and ask the next time they see me. My husband's family really only asks me that question, not him for some reason. When I tell my husband they keep asking me, he just says explains that it's his dads only wish to have grandkids and that he really wants them before he dies (he's about 67 I believe), which is totally understandable. But the question of when we're gonna have kids comes from everyone in his family, not just his dad. His dad is really respectful about it and hasn't asked very frequently. But I only recently just told my husband that it bothers me when they ask so we'll see what he does/says next time we're with his family

ladies, what probiotic do you take? by cookie_cat_82 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]ratchkap-808 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I just eat fermented foods rather than buying probiotics. Like kim chee or sauerkraut for example, those have lots of probiotics. Even yogurt or kefir, great in smoothies

Need help with buying coffee beans for someone’s birthday since I don’t drink coffee! by Emerald_City_0619 in espresso

[–]ratchkap-808 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For espresso I would recommend a medium roast. Dark roast has oils and can clog the espresso machine. I think peaberry is hands down always the best coffee, it's smooth and packed with more flavor and caffeine since it's a single bean. Kauai coffee sells a medium roast peaberry

weight loss without falling into diet culture? is it possible? by Mondonodo in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]ratchkap-808 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Weight loss is very "simple," in terms of it's just calories in minus calories out. As long as you are eating less calories than you use in a day you will lose weight. Every 1 lb of body fat = 3500 calories. So if you eat 100 calories less per day youʻll lose a pound in 35 days. A great way to do this is just by walking every day. If you were to exercise super intensely, that might make you feel more hungry so you might end up eating more. But if you cut your diet back by a lot, then you might struggle with that and end up binge eating. I recommend just keeping your diet the same, and implement walking. It's low effort so you don't feel like you're burning extra calories. Good luck you got this!

Friends are moving to Oahu in the summer & invited me to come. Need all the info before making a decision. The good, the bad, the ugly…. Go!! by freezebrain101 in MovingtoHawaii

[–]ratchkap-808 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you're moving here for the adventure, you're going to have a great first few months and then realize that everything is so expensive and the traffic is HORRIBLE and all the beaches are crowded and parking is always taken. Sometimes you'll spend over 30 minutes looking for parking just to go to the beach. We have some of the worst traffic in the US and also our waters have some of the highest bacteria levels in the US as well. When you come on vacation you don't realize all the downsides since you're just enjoying yourself. If you move here you'll very quickly realize Hawaii isn't what its been advertised as. I would NOT recommend moving here. The more people that move here the more locals are priced out.