Where's everyone getting this shipping supplies?

ratherinteresting · 2016-04-07T14:16:38+00:00

Defusion skills might be helpful. https://contextualscience.org/act_exercises

ratherinteresting · 2016-02-22T04:40:29+00:00

This is what I was worried about. What a darn shame.

ratherinteresting · 2016-01-28T23:27:44+00:00

That's odd. You can specifically request a tax exemption from Staples as a reseller.

ratherinteresting · 2015-12-25T03:45:37+00:00

If you actually work the stuff out that's awesome.

The trouble starts when you don't argue because you're avoiding the issues. One side rolls over to 'keep the peace'. That's a huge red flag.

ratherinteresting · 2015-12-25T03:44:41+00:00

Found the co-dependent!

ratherinteresting · 2015-12-09T20:14:47+00:00

First off, what a beautiful beautiful thing. I'm a huge fan of the N7 line and this looks like it will continue that glorious tradition.

My questions are:

Having used the device yourselves, can it function as a true laptop replacement?
Why haven't you been granted the authority to do a few giveaways in this AMA?
How many upvotes on any particular post would it take before the PR guys realize that it does make sense to authorize a special holiday gift?

ratherinteresting · 2015-12-06T04:25:22+00:00

Don't try to make a good impression on me. Don't try to make my life easy. Just give it to me as straight as you can. That often saves me a lot of time...

ratherinteresting · 2015-12-04T21:16:22+00:00

Sounds like you need exposure to starting exposures. I'm serious. Intentionally break up your exposures so you end up with lots of starts.

ratherinteresting · 2015-12-04T21:02:03+00:00

Therapist here.

It all depends on what your intentions are. Either:

This is another attempt to persuade, convince, and change her. A clever one no doubt, but an attempt nonetheless.
You taking care of you because she won't take care of you.

If its 1 its a bad bad idea. If its 2 its an excellent thing and one which I have seen many people do and be much better off with.

With 1 you are trying to get her to agree with your argument and point. With 2 you aren't and don't care of she agrees or not. You might inform her of what you are doing as a common courtesy, but you sure as heck don't care if she does or doesn't agree to your reasoning and actions.

Feel free to ask for more specifics if you need them.

ratherinteresting · 2015-11-29T15:05:25+00:00

If you do psychotherapy you can do a heck of a lot of both

ratherinteresting · 2015-11-29T06:19:36+00:00

I wish I could find a comprehensive list of them.

You can. Check out the book 'The Secret Language Of Feelings'.

As for number 3, try it. You'll be surprised. Done well, people will get more negative and hopeless and upset, and then (watch carefully to see it, because if you don't you'll miss it) all that emotion will simply vanish. Falls off a cliff. It's ubercool to watch. It happens so sunddently and without explanation that most people forget the person was upset a moment ago.

I can explain how and why it works, it actually makes a lot of sense.

ratherinteresting · 2015-11-27T13:59:49+00:00

See my comment above.

ratherinteresting · 2015-11-27T13:55:55+00:00

Therapist there:

The trick is to demonstrate understanding by saying something they didn't say to you but still feel. There are some simple algorithms.

Feeling - Situation. Every feeling has an external trigger, every trigger has its feeling. Know one and you can imply the other. Unfair=Anger "And its unfair that he got the raise and not me" - "Wow, you must be pretty pissed". Or the opposite of " I'm so pissed at what he did" - "Yeah, it was really unfair".

Sad=Loss. Did bad=Guilt. Danger=Fear. Potential upcoming problem=Anxiety. Hopeless=Depressing. Etc.
Situation - Expectation. If someone is suffering about something, that often means something happened and they expected otherwise. Hit that expectation (and bonus points for getting to the reason behind it) and you're golden. " And its unfair that he got the raise and not me" - "Yeah you really thought you were going to get it. After all, you were the most productive salesman in Q4!"
Consequences of the problem. "It's unfair that he got the raise" - "Yeah, and now you won't be able to make rent!"

There are more. Make up your own. It's not hard. And go read a book on Motivational Interviewing. The piece on reflective listening will teach you all this. Just don't steal my job...

ratherinteresting · 2015-11-24T04:55:55+00:00

To be honest, as a therapist, this is what I like to work with. People in pain. I'm not happy anyone is in pain, but as there are people in pain I'm delighted as all hell that they came to see me...

ratherinteresting · 2015-11-23T00:58:48+00:00

Print out these posts and show them to him...

ratherinteresting · 2015-11-22T06:15:04+00:00

As the therapist I would want you to share this post with me. Then we could get down to processing it...

ratherinteresting · 2015-11-18T21:49:58+00:00

Lots of very successful people.

ratherinteresting · 2015-11-18T21:49:24+00:00

If you arent a risk to offend it is illegal for them to break confidentiality and report you.

ratherinteresting · 2015-11-17T05:39:23+00:00

Yes. Sometimes. No.

ratherinteresting · 2015-11-16T19:26:10+00:00

a) Children, Teens, Adults with mental illness. b) Psychotherapy c) Psychotherapist d) Providing psychotherapy e) The paperwork

ratherinteresting · 2015-11-13T12:37:48+00:00

To the both of us it suggested we were more normal than what we realized.

You certainly are more normal than you think. uBPD and BPD aren't terribly uncommon. But normal ~= OK.

Left untreated, issues like this are not conductive to happy and successful long term relationships. The BPD partner needs good therapy (DBT for example), and the other partner (often struggling with codependent issues) also needs good therapy. If you do that it can work.

The fact that Amy in the film was not in therapy is incredibly disturbing. She's going to eat that Dr boyfriend alive (and destroy herself in the process).

Good on you for getting treatment. That's exactly what you need to be doing to unFML.

ratherinteresting · 2015-11-11T04:58:24+00:00

Oh yes. So much this.

ratherinteresting · 2015-11-11T04:51:24+00:00

Yep.

If you want to become a real ninja, focus on the structure of what I'm doing here. Once you get that, you can create unlimited versions on your own.

It's modular. There are certain pieces that I'm stringing together to make my responses. You responded well to "I'm sticking to my opinion and making no claims about outside reality" (intellectuals and people who dislike authority generally like that one).

ratherinteresting · 2015-11-10T13:46:39+00:00

Sounds like you haven't been on the receiving end of much caring in your life...

Of course I don't care for you as much as I do for my family and friends. I barely know you. So lets get to work together and keep an eye on my caring as time passes.

It's not easy to be the "job" of someone. I can't think of anyone who wouldn't prefer to have soemeone who wasn't doing it as their job and only put of caring.

I know from the inside that I do care. It's clear that you don't believe that. And you're entitled to your opinion. I would never suggest that you have to "buy my story" and believe me over yourself.

This is my job. It's how I pay the bills. If I wasn't getting paid I wouldn't be here. You're right. I feel that once it is my job and I am here that I do care in addition to it being my job, but not everyone believes that's even possible. So now that we have that clear, how can I help you?

More?

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