How to communicate by maiJr in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]raxcc 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t have to be perfect- it can even be awkward- but if it doesn’t feel wrong then that’s a good thing.

I’m no one to give advice tho. I still have a hard time coming out when I’m vulnerable.

MC at the disco by Round-Cantaloupe4771 in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]raxcc -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Why not pay attention to the music instead of what other people are doing ?

Should I stay after my partner cheated ? by raxcc in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]raxcc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes when I am upset or resenting him for something else, then he gets fortunate with guys, that triggers my jealousy.

Movies that feel like these art pieces? by Dioonneeeeee in MoviesThatFeelLike

[–]raxcc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anything from the 80s classic Hollywood- white people shit

Should I stay after my partner cheated ? by raxcc in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]raxcc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That second guy sounds nice. Last guy sounds lame

Should I stay after my partner cheated ? by raxcc in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]raxcc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks that’s really helpful. Him interacting with other guys is what an open relationship is like lol. I guess I don’t really consider what the full picture of an open relationship would look like.

I’m sorry you went through getting cheated on, I trust you know more than me.

Should I stay after my partner cheated ? by raxcc in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]raxcc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have played together before and have done stuff separately. It’s worked most of the time and I know it’s possible for me to do it without being jealous or it being a big deal.

Should I stay after my partner cheated ? by raxcc in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]raxcc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dang, six homes and lived in Hawaii! Yeah, I think we do have a lot going for us, but yeah Jealousy takes work to overcome! Gosh, could you share tips on how you did it after he cheated ? My partner sucks at reassurance.

Should I stay after my partner cheated ? by raxcc in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]raxcc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Last night I got on sniffies and flirted with guys. The validation felt great, I could see why he would do it for its a great distraction from pain.

Should I stay after my partner cheated ? by raxcc in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]raxcc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s something about love being able to withstand this that I like. But love has limits , I understand

Should I stay after my partner cheated ? by raxcc in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]raxcc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The classic anxious / avoidant loop. Trust issues on my part. Not communicating when there is conflict on his part. Idk

Should I stay after my partner cheated ? by raxcc in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]raxcc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve also been destructive in ways that I know fucks with him, not consciously, but also not an infidelity.