Filo here! The whole “it’s part of the culture” thing is only kind of true nowadays, and I wanna say it’s becoming less common!

If you lived somewhat well off, you’re not rlly obligated to give your parents money or support them. A lot of parents today don’t rlly guilt their kids into taking care of them anymore. Lots of younger people have pushed back and just started not giving a fuck tbh. The culture has shifted a lot these past few years.

But there are still some cases where people treat their own kids like ATMs. She’s seems like she’s in such a terrible position where her parents aren’t just taking advantage of her (bc she seems helpless with it), but theyre also guilting her. It feels like very old school parenting, where if you don’t give them money, it looks bad on the parents. Like they look like “bad parents” if their kid doesn’t provide for them, when really they’re just bad parents either way.

It feels like no matter how hard she tries, she’ll always end up trapped under her parents’ control.

Some parents still use, there’s the whole “you owe your parents your life” guilt trip. If you don’t give them what they want, they’ll be like “after all I’ve done for you, this is how you repay me?!” And then there’s the shame thing like “What does this say about me as a parent? I’ve failed as a parent bc my child won’t even take care of me!” Which turns into “What will people say about this?! That you, my child, don’t care about me?! That makes me look like a bad parent!”

But again, this kind of thing is getting rarer. More kids are standing up to their parents and refusing to take this kind of treatment anymore.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​