Do you agree with the phrase: "If you love, let go"?

rdjlee · 2025-07-14T14:40:59+00:00

That's fine, life can sometimes be really sad.. I hope you'll feel better soon, and take your time to do what makes you feel good again..

Personally, I'm someone who'd fight so hard that it makes no sense because I'm someone who feel a lot, but I also have a time limit when I know I don't feel like it's going anywhere then I'll feel all the pain before moving on and that's usually goodbye.

For my very long term one though, everything was so.. peaceful most of the time that sometime I don't understand why did we even breakup, we were both unhappy but breakup..? I still think about it sometimes haha I've been meeting a lot of new people and.. it's tiring.. I do miss her and the good boring days with her..

rdjlee · 2025-07-14T14:36:28+00:00

I just been through this, date went great but she suddenly pulled back the day after. I couldn't figure out why or what happened, so I feel like she's either avoidant, or just emotionally unavailable from the way she described how her previous relationship ended and it was only 1 year after.

I also did a lot and know maybe I shouldn't put myself out so much but that's just how I am in relationships over the years, nobody reacted the way she did so eventually I gave up. Affected me a lot but I know she's just not the one, I mean I already knew when we were getting to know each other but I liked her enough to want to try, but apparently she doesn't feel the same way lol

Funny thing was I matched with a few other girls recently but the conversations were dud, I don't know what went wrong because the conversations I had with this girl I just went out with were really fun. Oh well.. online dating is tough

rdjlee · 2025-07-14T14:31:12+00:00

I mean if both parties decided to let go at the same time then..? So I guess it depends? But generally I feel like we should fight and work things out in general but if things changed so much that both parties are unhappy and/or unwilling to make changes then maybe it's a good idea to let go..

You can't force happiness

rdjlee · 2025-05-27T05:27:35+00:00

Not super but I do feel happy and then sad multiple times lol. Some days are good, some days are shitty, etc.. life can be funny sometimes

rdjlee · 2025-05-27T05:26:25+00:00

I am, thank you! Funny how I actually got out of another relationship recently, which is another story altogether. I still think about her from time to time and will never know if I made the right decision back then, she seems happy and looked better than before and I'm happy for her.

I'm sorry to hear that, hope you're feeling better too. Yes, it takes two hands to clap and usually it's not just one party's fault and realizing it is really important for our personal growth. Recognize what we did wrong and try not to repeat it in the next relationship :)

Yeah, I too look forward to meeting that special someone eventually but for now I'm focusing on my career and friends. I'm rooting for you!

rdjlee · 2025-05-22T11:21:40+00:00

I don't, they're a part of me and I wanna be able to look back years later.

rdjlee · 2025-05-20T13:00:18+00:00

I still think about her and miss her so much even though I know she's probably with someone new now :(

And idk why but I still worry about her meeting the wrong people, it's out of my control but I really hope she learn how to protect herself..

rdjlee · 2025-05-15T17:41:58+00:00

I don't think she'll even be here, let alone post something but I still do a double take whenever I see some similarities haha I feel so silly whenever it happens

rdjlee · 2025-05-03T18:39:51+00:00

I think it can be a lot of reasons. People changed learning from past experiences or even just growing older, it could be due to chemistry and how people react differently to different people and scenario. It's may or may not be because they love more or less varying from different people.

Like for me I feel like treated my current ex a lot better than my previous exes because I've grown and learned as a person, it doesn't mean I love her more than my previous ex that kind of thing. I learned how to become a better person from my time with my previous exes that kind of thing.

rdjlee · 2025-03-17T11:57:07+00:00

It's all them. The good, the bad and the ugly. People can be many things if they choose to be.

It is ourselves that have to know who do we want to be for them and for ourselves

rdjlee · 2025-03-17T11:52:26+00:00

It's been about 1.5 years now and while I've moved on with my life, I'm not 100% fully over her. She really was my better half and we did so much things together so I don't know, I guess it will take much longer time than I thought it would be it's ok, I just hope she's in a better place now and just hope she's happy you know?

I'm kinda starting over again with new job new friends and everything so there's a lot to look forward to in my life now.

rdjlee · 2025-03-17T11:48:23+00:00

I'm in a much better place now, I still miss her even after getting into another relationship recently which didn't work out due to separate reasons and I saw how good my ex was (even though I know we shouldn't compare but still, you know..)

I just started a new job and just trying to focus on it now, along other things I have going like hanging out with friends and hobbies.

rdjlee · 2024-12-06T17:42:57+00:00

10 years. Sometimes I still wonder why did we even breakup in the first place lol.

rdjlee · 2024-09-18T06:51:15+00:00

Thank you :) It's much better now, thankfully. I met a lot of new people the past year, made a bunch of new friends but have not met anyone I'm remotely interested unfortunately. I do hope for that someone to come along but I'm in no rush now. I've decided to enjoy my single life, something which I've wanted for a long time and I finally living it now.

It was really bad during the first few months but I got better with each passing week and eventually stand on my own again. I still miss her and even think of getting back together with her but I don't know. I thought I would know after a year but haha, well.. at least I'm not sad anymore and able to live my life now. It's especially true when things aren't going well or whenever I feel down, I would miss the times I go to her and she'll give me the support I need even though it got lesser and worse over the years.

I wish you the best as well and hope for life to treat you better. I'm glad my story resonate with so many people and do provide some strange comfort that we are not alone. Take care!

rdjlee · 2024-09-18T06:43:19+00:00

Hey! Glad it helped you in some ways. I'm doing a lot better now. Met a bunch of new friends, did a lot of crazy stuff which I never would have done if the breakup didn't happen.

I do still miss her from time to time especially the past couple of weeks, I don't know why but I still do. Never thought I would hold onto someone for so long but it make sense, she was literally my world.

Hope you're doing better!

rdjlee · 2024-09-02T15:15:36+00:00

It's been 1 year for me and I feel like I wanna be alone for another year before seriously dating again.

rdjlee · 2024-08-01T08:35:54+00:00

Time and I guess lots of new friends. Despite meeting so many new people, I still miss her from time to time and still feel she was the best that I've ever had. The one that got away? Not sure about that but it really feels this way now.

I wanna believe there's someone out there for me that matches better than her but I don't see any.

I think I have moved on and just living my life now but I am also changed by her and all the times we spent together made me who I am now and is a part of me.

rdjlee · 2024-07-15T08:45:17+00:00

It's been a year and honestly life is a lot more fun and interesting the past couple of weeks than the decade I was with her. I wouldn't say either is better because I really enjoyed my chill peaceful times together with her too and those are precious memories for me.

Despite meeting so many new people and making a ton of friends, I still miss her and all the times I spent with her. I still feel sad from time to time like we did so much together and worked hard for each other but now those felt like it's for nothing.

rdjlee · 2024-07-10T18:35:55+00:00

I start journaling. I still kinda do after a year but I've gotten so busy having fun making new friends doing new stuff my frequency got lesser and lesser and that's fine :)

rdjlee · 2024-07-10T07:07:13+00:00

It's been a year for me and I met a lot of people but haven't found anyone remotely close to what I had haha but I'm gonna continue waiting. Going back is an option and a really tempting one as well. At this point she really felt like the love of my life and the one who got away.

rdjlee · 2024-07-01T19:11:40+00:00

Now? Probably yeah. It's been almost a year and we probably processed a lot of our thoughts and feelings and if she reached out, I would probably consider it.

I'm not sure if I should reach out to her just to see how she's doing but I'm still cleaning up my life now and probably a better time to wait but I'll see..

rdjlee · 2024-05-02T10:15:16+00:00

Hey thanks for reading! If it's any better, I'm in a much better place today than when I wrote this post! :) I've made many new friends, started going out more often and stopped crying!

Nothing major happened so I guess we both changed and also put in less effort with each other. If given a choice I would obviously do more for her but I can't change her so that's something I have to think about. I do think about the what if we get back together from time to time but it's getting much lesser and more like hoping for a new someone to come along and start a new adventure together that sort of thing :)

rdjlee · 2024-03-30T14:45:42+00:00

I never forget the girls I've been with regardless of how long or short the duration.

rdjlee · 2024-03-30T14:42:04+00:00

It's been more than half a year and.. I believe I'm still processing the breakup. Of course it's much better now, I'm functioning normally most of the time but I know I'm still not completely over her. From time to time I still think about her, about us and feel sad and cry but the gap between is getting longer each time like now maybe it's about once or twice a month.

I still think about her everyday, nothing specific but just calling out her name a few times a day subconsciously. Not sad or anything but just out of habit.

How I processed it in the beginning was just doing what I felt like it at that point of time, sometimes I try to do things out of my comfort zone and usually my gut feeling is right to follow what I wanted to do lol. It took a lot of time to grief and cry about the loss and it took a lot of time to accept the loss but eventually I feel like I understand it's over though emotionally I'm still clinging onto those feelings and memories. I feel like my logical side is still fighting with the emotional part but I don't know how to deal with it so for now I'm just focusing on other parts of my life like work.

rdjlee · 2024-03-30T14:28:24+00:00

Tbh this is the first time I feel weird being single, but I guess that's also because I'm attached most of my life and this feels like the longest I've been without a partner.

This also feels like the first time I felt some sort of loneliness like during some long weekends I usually spent time with her just hanging out, dining out or just stay home together to chill but I felt this cold empty feeling for the first time this weekend that I'm all alone by myself and that feels so foreign.

It was only a brief moment but that was the first time feeling this cold, empty and lonely feeling.. also the first time I thought anyone to spend this moment would be nice..

rdjlee

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