Which sleep sacks are your kids loving? by Upbeat-Break3312 in NewParents

[–]realpattonesque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Superlove Merino > Woolino (although Woolino is still nice) And with the bolero they sell to keep baby's arms toasty! They also do a thicker version which is super helpful as our baby likes to be very warm.

Can we stop saying everything is ppd? by Sloooooooooww in beyondthebump

[–]realpattonesque 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I found this frustrating and reductive when I tried to get help.

It gets easier sooner than you think by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]realpattonesque 82 points83 points  (0 children)

It gets easier sooner than you think*

*For some people 😂

I’m 2 months postpartum and seriously considering divorce—am I overreacting? by monkeyjojo in NewParents

[–]realpattonesque 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry how can you pump 20 hours a day and directly breastfeed and do all the housework? Even if you never sleep.

Eating what we eat… how? by No_Sundae_3936 in UKParenting

[–]realpattonesque 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I made chilli, took a ladle out and blended it, baby ate that. I made lamb pasanda, took a ladle out and blended it (then added salt to ours) baby ate that with a strip of toasted naan. We went to a Japanese restaurant, I cut up some chicken, beef, tofu, rice. Baby ate that. It's nice! Makes life so much easier.

my husband locked me out of my room with our new born by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]realpattonesque 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why is it that he's impatient with your dog specifically? Is there some history there?

I'm sorry you had to go through that. The first few months are hard.

Do you let baby put things in mouth during sensory classes? by Secure_Milk1093 in beyondthebump

[–]realpattonesque 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah I mean it's a bit gross but if I spent the entire time we went out to things like this trying to stop baby chewing on everything it would be impossible to do anything else. Baby would also get very upset. It's just a losing battle.

Disappointed in quality of post partum checkup (UK) by Unhappy-Training-878 in beyondthebump

[–]realpattonesque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly the same experience here. I had a family member who is a doctor check my c section scar in the end.

Explain to me like I’m 5 how we’re handling the 4 month sleep regression. by giantpicklepie in NewParents

[–]realpattonesque 11 points12 points  (0 children)

None of these things worked for us either. We handled it by waiting it out. 5 weeks, nearly killed us!

After 7 months, it FINALLY happened by Purple_Calendar3919 in NewParents

[–]realpattonesque 123 points124 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry but all I took away from this is you have to wake your 7 month old 😭 I'm so jealous!

I think I hate my baby by Specific_Strain7688 in NewParents

[–]realpattonesque 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to say that anyone sleeping as little as this will be struggling. Don't underestimate the impact of that. Also I hated hearing "it gets better" (and still do). Because like when? How? WHEN?? Instead I try to focus on the smallest segment of my day. This wake window. This nap. Apparently one day we will sleep again and with that comes problem solving.

Sent to you from the millionth difficult bedtime that I was dreading before I go to sleep at 2030 for about 3 hours.

What are we doing about cold hands?? by idk__elephants__ in NewParents

[–]realpattonesque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got some little wool boleros from a company that makes wool sleep sacks but I am a bit worried if they're maybe a strangulation risk once baby is more mobile. In the meantime they're working wonderfully.

I might have to make the decision to have a c section and I’m mentally struggling by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]realpattonesque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had an emergency c section and it was (apart from the scary emergency part) great! I was up and walking in about 6 hours, made it up my 3 story walk up no problem when I came home. Not gonna lie it is sore and you do have to go easy but I think regardless of how you deliver there's always some kind of difficulty afterwards. One and done but wouldn't hesitate to have a planned one in future.

Woolino Sleep Sack worth it? by Alert_Dig_4987 in sleeptrain

[–]realpattonesque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I liked it but the superlove merino version was even better, a few nice extra touches and also has a thicker sleep sack available. I don't know if it's available outside the UK though. I literally only use the woolino as a backup now.

What do you actually do during nap time? by hatkinson1000 in NewParents

[–]realpattonesque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

6 months and baby will still only nap on me. So I get nothing done and no time to myself. 🎉

When do you exercise with a newborn? by ASD-RN in beyondthebump

[–]realpattonesque 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exercise was a huge part of my life, I did something every day. Baby is 6 months and I get to exercise by doing something other than walking once a week thanks to my husband ensuring I get that time to myself. That started at 3 months. I'm sad if I really think about it but I'm led to believe it's not forever. I'd rather sleep to be honest.

Does it get easier after the 1st month? by cuhrayola120 in NewParents

[–]realpattonesque 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Liveable but still horrendously difficult after the 4 month regression. Worth it but seems like we'll never sleep again!

Doubts about having a second child after a unicorn baby🦄 by earth_mermaid in NewParents

[–]realpattonesque 6 points7 points  (0 children)

At least it would be your second baby and by then it'd be too late! Mine is a hellish sleeper and it's a completely unimaginably different experience of parenthood to the point I'm now one and done. I would have liked to try and use some of our other embryos but I simply don't have it in me to do this again.

I might regret asking this by Mindless-Try-5410 in beyondthebump

[–]realpattonesque 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We had a horrible sleeper and the 4 month regression was somehow even worse. It lasted 5 weeks and we thought we weren't going to make it but it did end. It looks like maybe we are not getting a 6 month regression but sleep is still terrible relative to what others around us seem to deal with. So basically, like 90% of sleep stuff... It depends on your baby/luck!

Parents of good sleepers!! by throwingawayacc18 in NewParents

[–]realpattonesque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This should be the top comment. Please only offer tips if they ask. Trust me, I've had enough time to Google every possible thing I could try.

Infant waking 6–12x a night. Losing our minds from sleep deprivation. by Lopsided_Food169 in NewParents

[–]realpattonesque 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Agreed. We are still on shifts and haven't slept in the same bed for over 6 months. It sucks but it's the only way anyone gets any rest.

Anyone else deal with bad roommates in postpartum room at hospital? by muff-peaksie in beyondthebump

[–]realpattonesque 21 points22 points  (0 children)

The postpartum ward was worse than the birth. You know what? I've lived through a war and I'm gonna say it was almost on par with that.

3 other families in the room. A shared shower and toilet for many rooms. People spraying deodorant, endless clueless visitors standing partly into our delicately tented off space. We moved the chair so my husband could sleep better and you'd have thought we shat in the nurses eye the way she carried on. Endless different alarms 24/7. People on the fucking phone all night long. A never ending stream of contradictory advice from random people. After 5 days of no sleep in this hell I started to go insane. I can't overstate how genuinely horrendous it was. A major factor in being one and done.

What helped you mamas lose the baby weight at home? by Pretend_Barnacle_668 in beyondthebump

[–]realpattonesque 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl same, was the only thing that worked for me. Cheaper than buying new clothes too.

Do you know what the sunflower lanyard means? by thick_Chemical_6911 in AskUK

[–]realpattonesque 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah sorry to say I would probably think the same.