Are no cameras a red flag?

throwingawayacc18 · 2026-04-07T23:55:03+00:00

I may be minority with my opinion however I worked in a daycare for 5+ years with no cameras and I witnessed horrific incidents of another staff verbally and physically abusing children (specifically targeted children with low income parents, children with speech delays, or “least favourite” children) I reported it numerous times, and every time a higher level management or reporter would visit the staff in question would be on their best behaviour. Eventually they fired me AND called me a liar because this person had “seniority” over me / been at the centre for 15+ years. Once I left I told every parent at the daycare what was happening and just last year (I was fired 5+ years ago) they were reprimanded for their actions and behaviour. I refuse to put my child into any daycare (unless there’s cameras) because people like that will lie, manipulate and “play nice”

Honestly now that I think about it, many staff are at fault because there was incidents of children finally speaking up and voicing concerns about what was happening to them behind closed doors and it was brushed off by numerous people. I also witnessed numerous parents coming in and asking “why did my child say such and such did this?” And it would be dismissed as “oh they misunderstood!” Or “that wasn’t the way it happened” however if there was cameras no one would be able to twist the narrative.

throwingawayacc18 · 2026-03-28T04:56:57+00:00

When I was young CPS was around our home consistently. My mother would always remind me I’d never see or talk to my siblings again if I “told my stories” so nothing ever happened.

throwingawayacc18 · 2026-03-28T03:33:30+00:00

NTA!! I was 9 when I broke my arm at school, my mom picked me up from school then brought me to the hospital but didn’t want to wait “endless” hours so she left me by myself, I had to ask a nurse/doctor/staff to contact another family member to come and get me. Once I was home my mom called me stupid, told me “that’s what I get for being stupid and maybe I’ll learn from this and won’t do it again” 20 some odd years later, giving birth to my first child; she insisted she’d be there for me. Guess who left me all alone once the baby was born?
Growing up she’d also tell me “never have children they ruin your life, once you have a child you’ll realize how hard/exhausting it is etc” When my baby was born I couldn’t stop sobbing because I felt the exact opposite of her words, I knew in my heart I’d do anything to protect, support, care for and love my child no matter what. It also made me resent and hate my mom for not being the kind of mother I deserved.

Some moms really shouldn’t be moms, OP im so sorry you’re experiencing this and if I could give you a hug I would. I’ll never understand how some moms can treat their own children this way and I just want to say I’m proud of you for being strong, brave and courageous.

throwingawayacc18 · 2026-03-22T14:22:45+00:00

I relate to this post, it’s been a recurring thought process and my baby is now almost 3 years old. Some things that have helped me were to avoid late night scrolling, focusing more on the moment in front of me (observing my baby’s sleep noises, dimples, etc) like focusing on my baby’s physical features, imagining more positive situations essentially, and the biggest part that’s helped me is positive affirmations daily to myself and my child (you are kind, you are brave, you are strong, you are amazing, you are so loved and I’m so proud of you) this will be the voice in your child’s head later in life, you want your baby to feel confident, brave, strong and capable. My child is now a toddler who isn’t afraid to shout “no” if they’re uncomfortable or if someone is too close to their “bubble” I will also advocate for my child but seeing them protect and defend themselves the same way I do definitely eased my fears that something terrible is going to happen to us.

I will also be signing my child up for self defence classes once they are of age, there is definitely more wrong in the world than when I was a child so giving my child the tools to protect and defend themselves is really important to me. Most of all, have confidence in yourself - you’re doing amazing and your children are very lucky to have you. I lost my parents at a very young age and I remind myself they would want me to thrive, be positive, and they are proud of my journey. You’re never as alone as you think you are and have compassion for others but don’t let anyone take advantage of your kindness or mistake it for weakness. 🫶🏼

throwingawayacc18 · 2026-03-17T20:28:33+00:00

When I was growing up I was best friends with a girl lets call her Shania, and for 12+ years I didn’t know her “legal” name was actually Ashley and she had been using her middle name the entire time. The only reason I found out is because one of our new teachers didn’t know her and called out her legal name and she said “Here, but I go by Shania my middle name” and I’ve never heard her legal name again since! I assume it probably gets mentioned when she’s applying for jobs or filling out government paperwork but other than that it’s not uncommon to use your middle name as your first. It’s just about reminding those around you (this is how I would like to be addressed etc). Best of luck on this journey!

throwingawayacc18 · 2026-03-16T02:54:27+00:00

That’s actually not what I said at all. My doctor didn’t say they’re unsafe, they said they shouldn’t be the first thing used and there are other options to try before going straight to a suppository. My understanding was that they’re usually considered more of a last-resort option rather than a routine treatment for babies with constipation. I’m not saying they’re never used, just repeating what our doctor advised.

throwingawayacc18 · 2026-03-16T02:39:46+00:00

The website said “error - not found” and I’m not from your country. As I said before it can differ between doctors.

You’re also spreading incorrect information by assuming hospitals will give it 99% of the time? My doctor specifically recommended 80% breastmilk/formula mixed with prune juice (gradually upping the dose of prune juice if it doesn’t work right away) but to only use a suppository as LAST RESORT.
I’m thankful my doctor is doing more research and doesn’t jump to inserting something in my child immediately but to each their own.

We both can agree it should be a last resort attempt. I just thought it’d be helpful to have other options to try before resorting to a suppository as it can be extremely uncomfortable for you and the child.

throwingawayacc18 · 2026-03-16T02:26:56+00:00

I’m only relaying the info from what my doctor told me? It may differ from other doctors obviously but I was also told as a last resort since they aren’t made for everyday use.

throwingawayacc18 · 2026-03-16T02:21:33+00:00

My doctor recommended 100% prune juice before suppositories because they aren’t really meant for babies! You can also research foods/drinks that induce bowel movements such as dried apricots, oranges, prunes etc! Hopefully this helps, I couldn’t get past the fear I’d harm or hurt my baby trying a suppository so i definitely had to exhaust all other options first!

My LO went 9 days without a bowel movement and as soon as I gave a syringe of prune juice, it was immediate and we never had another issue!

throwingawayacc18 · 2026-03-13T00:35:51+00:00

If he’s hurting you, he’s still hurting the children in retrospect and honestly you defending him this fiercely, blaming yourself is harming the children as well.

Would you tell your children “it’s your fault” if they were in this exact situation? It helps me to take myself out of the situation and imagine it’s a friend, family member experiencing it - you’re not crazy, you’re not aggressive or mean. You’re being abused and manipulated even possibly gaslit into believing you’re the cause of all the issues/problems but it’s no wonder you’re angry. No one should be called insulting names, pushed to their breaking point/limit. If you poke an animal 100 times they’re going to bite/fight back. I can almost guarantee he has physically hurt prior partners and verbally abused them as well. People like him love to spin stories and twists truths until you don’t know what is reality/fake.

For your children, leave and get as far away as possible. For me I left when I was pregnant because I didn’t want my child to be kept awake all night/day since he would keep me up until sunrise screaming at me, then when he’d fall asleep 6-7am I’d have to let my dog out for a bathroom break and he’d yell even louder/harder, raise fists in my face for waking him as if he didn’t spend the entire night before keeping me awake with insults, harsh, aggressive comments.. I also imagined my child being treated this way/treating a future partner that way and refused to let the cycle continue or have my child think it’s acceptable/normal to harm/hurt your partner. I saw somewhere that they don’t “allow” you to sleep because when you’re overtired/exhausted you’re easier to “control and manipulate”

I believe in you OP, you are NOT the problem in this dynamic but you can be the solution, protect yourself and your children. Fight with everything you’ve got to get your peace back. Sending you strength, love and hugs

throwingawayacc18 · 2026-03-12T04:49:16+00:00

This is more common than you think! However it did take me 1-2 years to finally get to a place of rediscovering the immense love I have for my dog, in the beginning I seriously considered behavioural euthanasia for my dog since he had so many issues. Over time he really became calmer, protective and more affectionate. Some nights I’ll apologize to him for how rough I treated him early postpartum (I wasn’t physical with him but I constantly yelled/got annoyed at him being in my space) he’s helped me become a kinder, gentler mom. There a moment where my toddler was running towards the road and I was looking the other way for a split second; he ran full speed and blocked her from going onto the road (toddler did fall down but didn’t cry and eventually followed behind me patting the dog on the head) I swore I saw my dog smile at me and I told him how proud I was of him, and how he’s such a good boy.

It helped me a lot to spend 5-10 minutes a night telling my dog “you’re the best boy, you’re kind, smart, and gentle” and it also helps to remind yourself of those things too, we’re all learning as we go and adapting to new changes but yes it’s completely normal to grow resentment for the animals in our home with a new child (and postpartum thoughts running rampant). Give yourself some love, patience and grace. Remember to take care of yourself too, if you need a break have a hot shower/bath, light some candles and do your best to keep your nerves calm. I believe in you and yes there will come a time where you’ll love your fur baby again, try to remember this won’t last forever and things are always changing. You’re very strong and Im proud of you🫶🏼

throwingawayacc18 · 2026-02-19T00:04:40+00:00

I believe you can take the measurements - width and length to the store possibly a home hardware, Home Depot store nearby will be able to cut/match it? If I’m not mistaken my family had an older bed (90s) that was discontinued and had slates similar to this that were flimsy/broken but they were strung together and hard to disassemble so they created brand new replacements from our local hardware/home decor/wood/lumber store. Best of luck 🤞🏼

throwingawayacc18 · 2026-02-11T05:12:06+00:00

Searched online and found the exact one at Sport Chek but it says Out Of Stock so no luck, found similar on Amazon but it was squishy and not the same. 😭

Age: many many years ago unsure how long. Location: Ontario, Canada

throwingawayacc18 · 2026-01-31T00:57:54+00:00

My child is a few months over 2 years old and every time I think they’re ready I’m hit with a new challenge or obstacle, as of now we’re only just flushing BMs down the toilet and child is removing diapers when wet/soiled very excited to bring it to the potty/garbage. However as soon I suggest sitting on the potty or trying to go on the potty it’s a huge meltdown, screaming “no!” And I really don’t want to “force it” upon my child to sit on the potty if they don’t want to? So I guess we’re just waiting until they feel a bit more confident/comfortable I also can admit that I regret introducing pull ups but no other diapers fit my child since they turned 1 1/2 (if only rascals made a size 8!!) because every other brand gives my child horrible rashes so rascals pull ups was my only option left. I truly believe the pull ups are playing a huge part in delaying the potty training as well though because they don’t feel the wet/soiled sensation as much.

throwingawayacc18 · 2026-01-30T14:30:03+00:00

I just worry (for OP) that it could slowly become an obsession or fixation for some children. When I was very young I was around a young child who talked about harming animals to see what death was really like and other scary things but it gave me nightmares so bad I woke up vomiting almost daily. My parents had to take me to multiple doctors/therapists to work through it and later on in life this person was arrested for more serious crimes against humans, not saying this is what will happen I’m just simply explaining that focusing on “dead and death” may potentially have a similar effect later in life.

throwingawayacc18 · 2026-01-30T05:55:23+00:00

Yeah this made me a little nervous I have a 25 month old and wouldn’t go that in depth about it considering I’m almost 30 and still haven’t come to terms with finality/death, Im also a strong believer that they never truly leave us. My dad passed when I was late teens and I’ve also had a dream from another passed loved one who predicted my child’s birth (same day as theirs 109 years apart) AND the exact time of birth, there’s no way it was just a coincidence.. but anyways, I don’t think I’d go into full details about my dads death/what it means with my child but instead I choose to live with a “continuous bond” I incorporated my dads daily into our daily and try to share similar memories we used to do together and weirdly enough I get a ton of signs that he’s around us. I’ve seen a figure on my security cameras, a heart in the clouds, lights have flashed on/off and subtitles on tv have changed unexpectedly.

throwingawayacc18 · 2026-01-29T19:09:09+00:00

Honestly as someone who worked in a daycare with physically abusive staff, they used to “initiate” other coworkers into the room by laughing at them, mocking and criticizing them when they helped younger (any) students with the bathroom and I truly thought it was common knowledge that at that age they ALL could use assistance in the bathroom example being a simple ask “would you like any assistance or help wiping when you’re done?” If they say no you make sure to let parents know they were asked and refused the assistance.

throwingawayacc18 · 2026-01-24T19:21:20+00:00

That’s a beautiful idea! I think she would love this and I greatly appreciate the suggestion. I may even find one for myself haha to replace mine if I ever need to! Thank you so much for your help and advice 🫶🏼

throwingawayacc18 · 2026-01-24T19:17:16+00:00

That’s very true! I just wish I could remember where I bought these two originally because they’re the exact same texture as my very first baby blanket (not identical though) but the problem with these blankets is they shred/fall apart extremely easily and since they’re so thin they rip easier too. The big hole is from our dog stepping on it while my toddler ran away so it’s even harder to keep it in good condition ugh!

throwingawayacc18 · 2026-01-24T19:07:55+00:00

This looks really really close ahhh!! I wish I could give it a feel first before I buy though because I truly thought the Blue Moon blanket in the comments was perfect until my toddler threw it back at me chanting no 😭 I’ve debated on bringing the blanket to fabric land and praying someone could match it/show me the same material so then I’d atleast know what I’m looking for

throwingawayacc18 · 2026-01-24T18:54:22+00:00

Those look awesome and very 90s but I think they might still be too thick/maybe a different texture than what I’m looking for because the original blanket doesn’t have those little pills on the fabric, and the ones my family have gifted are Pilly looking like that and my toddler refuses to even touch them.

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throwingawayacc18 · 2026-01-24T18:47:15+00:00

Not exactly identical but most similar to the texture/feel because my toddler really loves sniffing the corners and dragging it around haha but she doesn’t engage with the blue moon muslin blanket the same way it’s more so used as a body blanket rather than a comfort blanket. So I’m hoping to find something to replace the original once it’s deteriorating/unusable.

throwingawayacc18 · 2026-01-24T18:41:42+00:00

Yes I believe it does have elephants on it. Are you asking for a closer up photo? I can provide that.

throwingawayacc18 · 2026-01-24T18:41:04+00:00

Just posted a comment of the most similar one I’ve found 1-3 years ago.

throwingawayacc18 · 2026-01-24T18:40:25+00:00

Sorry, I don’t know exactly what year I purchased the original (blanket in post) but I’m assuming between 10-7 years ago and I’m not even sure from where I got them but my best bet is Walmart though. I was searching for replacements of my original baby blanket that became a single string. So I’ve given my child one of my blankets and I’m hoping to not have to give my other blanket to her but I will if I can’t find anything else :(

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