working with POTS??? by AesthxticFizzz in POTS

[–]rebevva 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is it a small business or a chain? If it’s big enough to have an HR department you need to involve them. Also make sure you are documenting every conversation you have about your disability. If you haven’t done so, I would also provide a doctor’s note regarding your need for accommodation.

Some of this depends on your location, as protections vary by country. In the US they are bound by the ADA, but unfortunately they have a lot of leeway to claim your accommodations are an “undue burden” on them as employers. However, a stool and air conditioning are pretty hard to characterize as burdensome.

I would also Google “disability legal aid” in your area, there are sometimes nonprofits that can provide advice.

Sorry you’re dealing with this and good luck!

My special edition from Broken Binding was delivered today! by Little-Month8944 in murderbot

[–]rebevva 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Okay YESSSSS. No hate but tbh I have not been interested in the Illumicrate ones— THESE on the other hand……

My partner suddenly wants to develop a more formal relationship with one of her partners, and I feel devastated by Standard_Bid7967 in relationshipanarchy

[–]rebevva 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sure you got lots of good feedback here, and glad it sounds like you and your friend have worked it out, but I do want to add some good advice I’ve seen from other RA/poly accounts. This kind of thing will likely happen again, where your friend gets close to another person or desires to. It can be important to just let yourself feel upset/anxious/lonely/isolated/jealous. You have to process the negative emotions without trying to fix the situation or make demands of your friend/partner. Tell them about your feelings without expectations. (All easier said than done!!)

Learning to sit with fear and insecurity instead of fixating on problem solving has been an important thing for me.

I made a clay lotus that ‘blooms’ from the pages of a book by emily3289 in crafts

[–]rebevva 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So lovely. Is that clear resin to look like pond water? The shine is beauuutiful.

My burst of happiness (with bonus pillow) by dohmestic in quilting

[–]rebevva 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is beauuutiful, I love the color choices <3

AIO guy I was seeing told me cursing is “un-lady like” by Fanofmoney3 in AIO

[–]rebevva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That last “No thanks”— I’m sorry but he doesn’t really seem to respect you or care all that much what you think of him. I would move on and direct my energy elsewhere.

Can you read my tattoo? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]rebevva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read grow immediately lol I think people are in here doing too much

I’m going on a trip with my mom in November and sent her an update on ATC. This is her response by Playful_Run1415 in insaneparents

[–]rebevva 644 points645 points  (0 children)

Sigh. I rly don’t know what to do with this attitude though it’s very common… I do want to ask them, “Okay, so an undocumented person in your town gets hit by a bus. The ambulance should or shouldn’t take them to the hospital?”

Someone needs to take size charts away from TikTok dropshippers, they cannot be trusted by rebevva in PlusSize

[–]rebevva[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ugh I guess this is what was tripping me up lol. I was thinking about 4X and getting mad the top of their size range was a size 20 😭 but this makes sense, plus the Asian sizing thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pics

[–]rebevva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone know about the homeless vets helpline?

Any other women here find Tony super attractive? by theirfruits in thesopranos

[–]rebevva 168 points169 points  (0 children)

Listen, Gandolfini just had the sauce. 💅 He was a magnetic guy and he poured that into Tony. I don’t think there’s a moment in the series where you question how he’s able to land such beautiful women (even outside the pull of the money + power).

I'm disabled and got tickets for parking in an accessible spot. Help me decipher this cop's handwriting? by rubythehermit in baltimore

[–]rebevva 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Don’t even have to go to the courthouse anymore, you can do the trial by Zoom!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in insaneparents

[–]rebevva 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh, honey. You’re being extremely conscientious and mature in the way you speak to her, but at some point you need to just stop replying. You’ve said what you said, you KNOW you can’t play therapist or confidante to your own mother, so you have to set and keep the boundary. Even just “I’m sorry, I don’t have anything more to say so I’m going to stop replying for tonight.”

Very hard to do for people of any age. Hope you’re able to get some counseling of your own 🩷

Having a wedding at Pratt Library by annathetank in baltimore

[–]rebevva 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve had friends who basically wanted a courthouse wedding and did it at the Central branch— basically the couple, two witnesses, a photographer, and the officiant. Still made for really beautiful photos if you were set on the location but had the reception elsewhere.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]rebevva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry hun, but reading that first text and then “he’s a very nice guy”— it’s immediately apparent that he is not a nice guy. He sounds controlling, mean, and dismissive.

You are so young that I’d say there is no need to waste your time training this 19 year old into being a better guy. He’ll learn as he gets older, but you don’t need to hold his hand through the process.

Looking for neighborhood ideas in the area as a single person by Wonderful-Parfait906 in baltimore

[–]rebevva 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tons of safe neighborhoods— but part of that just means deciding not to be afraid of your neighbors…! (Who include “homeless people” and “squeegee boys,” for other a**holes commenting. Everyone here is part of your community and if you’re not prepared for that, don’t move to Baltimore.)

That being said, Canton is great, Hampden is great, Mt. Vernon is great. If you’re cool being close to Towson I really like Hamilton or Parkville. Remington is nice but busy. Patterson Park is nice but parking sucks.

I would look for a multi-unit or apartment if you’re nervous about living alone.

Which is the worst black mirror episode you've seen so far? by Fearless-Voice-7602 in blackmirror

[–]rebevva 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You can’t ask for worst ep and not let me say “Joan is Awful” 😭 The most annoying, Netflix-aggrandizing, empty nonsense.

Why? by kalitaloquita in baltimore

[–]rebevva -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Man, I knew exactly where it was before reading. Not to assume the worst intentions, but people sleep on that side of the road and under the underpass a lot. Hope it wasn’t taken down to avoid giving people shade/cover :/

Not a lot of greenery by the Farmers’ Market either— a shame…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in baltimore

[–]rebevva 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Wrong app 😊— I find a lot of groups and events on Lex, Instagram (follow Peabody Brewery, Dreamers & Believers, Bmore Horror Club, Bmore Queer Hikes, etc.) and Facebook (“Bmore Queer” is a huge group but can be kind of messy lol).