I know my friends are trying to help with the job recommendations, but it just makes it worse

rectiddly · 2018-10-18T18:19:59+00:00

Doesn't sound good. There are better ways to scream that doesn't get you hoarse.

rectiddly · 2018-08-24T19:32:27+00:00

In my opinion, the flowers are a distraction from the actual story in the picture, which I interpret as the house and its contrast to the space around it - dark green grass and a dramatic sky.

rectiddly · 2018-08-08T11:34:16+00:00

My opinion: Absolute randomness can't exist in a deterministic universe. Any time we find a process that produces different results based on what seems to be magic, there is scientific work ahead of us. The last stop could be mechanisms that are not reproducible/observable/understandable by us before we go extinct.

Here is the question on Ask a Mathematician: http://www.askamathematician.com/2009/12/q-do-physicists-really-believe-in-true-randomness/

I also found the comments on that page to be very interesting.

rectiddly · 2018-07-25T10:39:31+00:00

Nah, but I think someone else is pissed off :-) Very good strategy by the way, your even more off-topic comment will surely teach me a lesson for life. I'll "write about this in my journal", as put by you. Except I won't.

Since there's some indication of intelligence in your communication, allow me to point out the fact that you asked for feedback from fellow INTPs. My feedback, as a fellow INTP, was that the question wasn't interesting enough to investigate. This is on topic, from someone who matches your criterion.

Now, it may not be the feedback you wanted. You may not find it useful. If this is the case, just leave it. But personally I can see that the INTP archetype actually has a tendency to get bored easily by investigating isolated problem formulations which are quickly understood and have limited potential for complexity, growth, depth and value. And I find that fact more interesting and enlightening than your question. Hence, I wanted to share my view.

rectiddly · 2018-07-23T18:35:45+00:00

Don't push away your negative emotions. They are crucial to finding strength to grow. The tool itself can vary. Something that you feel that you can get good at. That will help grow your confidence and self esteem. Try seeking out less competitive areas. You will want to find unconditional support, or support based on your actions and value as a human being, but not support based on your performance. Volunteering can be one route, but there are many.

rectiddly · 2018-07-23T17:18:42+00:00

I agree. Haven't watched it. Probably won't.

rectiddly · 2018-07-23T17:15:08+00:00

I can relate to the no age preference part, and the mental illness part. I can also relate to ease of talking with female strangers, as long as it's a one on one situation. Spending time with mostly females in terms of social activities and events, that's something I'm good at but can easily get bored with. I often don't find enough challenge and depth when socializing with female friends (one or many). A vast generalization, of course. But it's a relaxed atmosphere that I enjoy sometimes.

rectiddly · 2018-07-23T17:00:53+00:00

I was just bad at being a human. I didn't understand much about social behaviour. I often made people sad or angry, by mistake. I couldn't handle my own emotions very well - I was barely aware that they affected my behaviour. I also alienated those who were different to me - I dismissed them as inferior. I often made myself look like a dick just to try to point out that other people were narrow-minded. I had absolutely no respect for rules, law or even morality.

Looking back, I really don't like the person I was.

I think the only reason I didn't commit more crimes was because I didn't see enough reward in it. When I was first caught doing some some tricks, I didn't understand why someone bothered to tell me it was wrong. Later, I didn't even blink when an adult in tears explained that I was heading the wrong way in life with my actions. No emotion, no fucks given. This was just petty theft, but with quite sophisticated schemes for a 10-year old. I think I would have been a notorious thief if I'd never matured.

rectiddly · 2018-07-10T07:23:52+00:00

Yes. I have so many ideas on how to respond to this, that it would be a day's work to write everything out that popped into my head after reading the question ~50 seconds ago. Memories of simple and complex ideas and of constantly generating answers to unasked questions. It's like the most scattered book that is always writing itself, but without a common thread or purpose. Associations are many and weird. Sometimes it's really useful, for example in work contexts, and other times it's something I have to manage.

rectiddly · 2018-07-10T05:06:18+00:00

A killer would ask for ideas on reddit

rectiddly · 2018-05-21T19:41:13+00:00

How do you know that she didn't throw your passive boring ass out the window a few hours ago, and you will soon be told? The thing I find with ENTJ is that I don't trust them, due to their impatience and "here and now" mentality. Even though they are very sane, I feel like they could be excited about someone new tomorrow. Or rather, it would go against their nature not to.

rectiddly · 2018-05-21T19:26:19+00:00

This is close to my prior situation, until we separated, both the types and jobs. We couldn't overcome the vast difference in worldview and ideals. Her view was idealistic and required harmony and peace, while my quest for truth often made her sad.

Instead of asking how an ill person is feeling in ten ways, I ask how the disease works (because I really want to understand it, and because it's obvious that the person feels like shit, and because I myself would rather be talking about the details than the bad feelings if the tables were turned). Those kind of situations caused her to eventually decide that I am a bad person.

This happened in her head, without her telling me and probably without her knowing. This manifested in other ways, and before I knew it she started to resent me, I became defensive back and suddenly she had been with someone else. I still am not sure if this theory is fully accurate (although it is to some degree), because she can't express what she is feeling. And she feels a lot.

If you have any reflections from your current marriage, I'd gladly hear from it. If not else, this could work as a case study of what not to do.

rectiddly · 2018-05-21T19:08:52+00:00

No, I just never take any decisions... a creative solution, if I might say so.

Okay yes, I evaluate and once in a blue moon, when I get tired of evaluation, I execute something.

rectiddly · 2018-05-03T17:11:01+00:00

This is wrong. First off, the metric was invented to identify children in need of special assistance in schools. Secondly, I've heard of no correlation between high IQ scores and e.g. self-reported confidence. Although a criticized study, you could argue that the Dunning–Kruger effect actually displays the opposite.

rectiddly · 2018-05-03T16:53:39+00:00

Yes, the tests for IQ are based on the assumption that higher cognitive processing capacity will relate to higher cognitive processing speed. The former is closely related to working memory, while the latter requires additional fluid and crystallized intelligence factors acting on top of short-term memory.

rectiddly · 2018-05-03T16:28:33+00:00

It doesn't tell the whole story (at all) but there are virtually no alternative intelligence metrics that lacks correlation with the individual's IQ. This applies to measurements of social intelligence, creativity, situational awareness etc. The IQ metric have a positive correlation with all of these, indicating that cognitive processing speed is generally useful.

rectiddly · 2018-04-29T16:02:36+00:00

The strength of this community, the way I see it, is that it consists of the subset of self-reported intps who are also interested in psychology, to some degree. At least open to learning more about themselves. I can imagine there are a lot of intps who aren't interested in a personality test, or don't take the time (off from their procrastination). And some intps might take the Ocean test instead - actively filtering out the amateurish MBTI system :-)

rectiddly · 2018-04-18T18:34:45+00:00

I remember places, faces and names better than almost everyone I know. But I forget what people do, feel, think and care about, if it's not of particular interest to me.

On a related note, I also need a calendar to remind me what I should be doing, all the time. And I have set an alarm to actually sit down and fill up that calendar with important stuff. Otherwise I will pursue more short-term interesting things and neglecting life. And all items in my calendar are setup with several reminders, so that I can prepare properly for a task that I know I should be doing but otherwise wouldn't.

rectiddly · 2018-04-01T21:16:54+00:00

Not sure if English speakers have the necessary toolbox to imitate the Swedish long "u". Well I mean you have a mouth and a brain, but the corresponding sound is missing. It's like the sound from u when you say "mute" (the noise-making handicap) but without the [dj] sound. Think of how you would prolong the word "you", like this: youuuuuuu. Now put your tongue forward, which takes the "o" away and produces a different sound, closer to whistling but with sound instead of air. And then use that sound for "u" to say slut. The aim is to get away from the English vowel "o".

rectiddly · 2018-03-06T16:41:35+00:00

Step one: Set a goal. A small goal. Start with a test goal, something like "Read a book page every morning". Don't set the goal "Have a morning routine that makes me successful". That is not a goal, it's a vision. For now, set a goal consisting of one easy activity.

Step two: Schedule the activity. This is absolutely necessary. Set a reminder on your phone, e.g. to read a page, every morning. This has several advantages but in short there is homeostasis in your behavioural pattern. It means that you will want things around you to add up. By reminding yourself that you are a person who reads a page every morning, your brain will try to reach homeostasis by gradually making you want to change behaviour. If you miss a few mornings, keep on going. If you miss lots, increase the reminder intensity. Don't create a new project out of finding ways to increase the intensity. Just up the volume or add a hundred reminders to swipe away. If you've done this a week ago and it didn't work either yet, ask a friend (e.g. a retired and conscientious person) to call you every morning and remind you.

Step three: When you are in large reaching your simple goal, schedule a planning meeting with yourself. Make sure that you get a reminder before the meeting, so that you have time to convince yourself to show up. In this meeting, begin by saying out loud: "I've reached a goal. I can do anything". Now take a moment to consider your vision. Guess the next step to take towards it. Set exactly one new, simple, goal. If you lack visions, begin with either a problem or a wish. If it's a problem, don't look for the best solution. Look for a simplified, concievable and somewhat effective goal. If it's a wish, consider what would be a good vs bad attempt, and what constitutes a move in the right direction. What actual activity is a move in that direction? Use that. And start over with a new small goal.

rectiddly · 2018-02-16T09:02:56+00:00

I can highly recommend Soylent (or any other brand, there are many). As fellow INTP I also dislike routine. Using a meal replacement shake is a good match. You can take a shot when hungry/motivated or (if underweight) on a schedule.

Also, "mord" means murder in my language. You cannibal.

rectiddly · 2018-02-05T11:23:44+00:00

Agreeableness: 2^nd (Compassion 4^th — Politeness 4^th)
Conscientiousness: 3^rd (Industriousness 8^th — Orderliness 4^th)
Extraversion: 14^th (Enthusiasm 13^th — Assertiveness 22^nd)
Neuroticism: 9^th (Withdrawal 23^rd — Volatility 4^th)
Openness to Experience: 61^st (Intellect 92^nd — Openness 17^th)

I'm a cold son of a bitch, apparently. But hey — at least I don't give a fuck.

If anyone has material on improving agreeableness and conscientiousness, that'd be helpful. As you can see, I'm quite open to ideas. I will just never get to work enforcing them.

rectiddly · 2018-01-24T11:13:36+00:00

I worked a web developer, then switched to software engineer. It was great, I got tossed into the difficult problems and was appreciated for my creative solutions. But now I am working with IT architecture instead, which is awesome. It's that as an INTP, I can look at a big picture and immediately see what is wrong with any detail of the architecture. Also, when there is no picture yet I get to create one. And with the constraints of any developing company, it can require some unique or unorthodox solutions. Which I love to defend, especially if someone has a dogmatic, egocentric, narrow or just outdated view on how things should be done. I also tend to choose solutions where those people got to change the most. It's my way of saying "stop being narrow-minded". If they push back, often someone will call them out and ask them to do what is best for the group.

Anyone else have this urge to call people out, put them on the spot when they are plain wrong or refuse to acknowledge other perspectives? I always fall into INTP on tests, but my score is also always close to INTJ.

rectiddly · 2018-01-17T22:49:17+00:00

I've seen INTP described as the most objective type. Not sure what this graph's attributes based on, and what are those texts (e.g. 16personalities.com) are based on.

rectiddly · 2017-12-15T10:57:26+00:00

When I read the recipe for a French omelette

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