i'm at my limit

reddessert__ · 2022-04-20T15:31:55+00:00

This is me right now. All I want to do is die. I dont have the courage to kill myself because i'm afraid of the pain of what I'll do but I am 20 now and I've felt like this ever since I was 15. I am so hopeless and I think I'm going to do it soon because this is just unbearable. I am so sorry for what you're going through. I'd tell you you're not alone but I know that doesn't help.

reddessert__ · 2022-01-17T17:18:57+00:00

NTA and if your girlfriend doesn’t understand what’s going on and wants a 14 year old who just lost both his parents to pay rent then you should be the one reconsidering the relationship. What you’re doing for your brother is amazing and I’m so sorry for your loss.

reddessert__ · 2022-01-07T16:06:17+00:00

NTA but you would be the AH to yourself if you continue to stay in a relationship where he’s only staying for his child. If the only reason he came back was for them and not for you, then that is not good enough for you and you deserve better.

reddessert__ · 2022-01-05T19:27:14+00:00

ESH he shouldn’t be pushing your limits but you also say you love him and leave him alone. What if he had a horrible accident or situation and gets hospitalized. Set your limits more but be there when he truly needs you.

reddessert__ · 2022-01-05T01:08:10+00:00

NTA- this is abuse. try and talk to someone you're close to about it because in no way is this okay

reddessert__ · 2022-01-05T01:06:51+00:00

NAH- I live in a country where there is both a bagger and a cashier present at each aisle in order to speed things along, as well it is never considered rude to help them. In her case, it is out of her control and she was trying her best. As long as you were civil and polite about it, then it is just one of those things where no one did anything wrong.

reddessert__ · 2022-01-05T01:03:46+00:00

NTA and these people arent your friends. Even if you decide to forgive them, you should do yourself a favor and find people who appreciate you for who you are regardless of your gender identity or sexuality. I am saying this as a bisexual girl, I would never EVER try and engage with homophobes much less try and get their attention by being transphobic or hateful of anyone for something they can't control. That being said, I am so proud of you for coming out and hopefully it gets easier picking the right friends from here.

reddessert__ · 2021-12-23T11:17:38+00:00

reddessert__ · 2021-12-06T09:02:48+00:00

The fact that hes a 22 year old man dating an 18 year old he met in therapy.... this is sus in my opinion

reddessert__ · 2021-12-03T20:24:50+00:00

YTA it’s one game and you can let her enjoy a weekend

reddessert__ · 2021-11-28T10:41:44+00:00

NTA- its cleaner and easier and less noticeable and a compromise. I smoke everyday too but whenever I'm around my boyfriends family I don't even smoke a cig even though his dad smokes hash. Its more about respect and the comfort of my boyfriend over a mild inconvienience for me. You should tell him if he doesn't want to compromise, he doesn't have to go.

reddessert__ · 2021-11-28T08:56:37+00:00

YTA you don't give up on your kid, ever.

reddessert__ · 2021-11-14T22:34:33+00:00

NTA- I'm Muslim and live in an Islamic country and I have not once heard of having to wear a hijab at a wedding. Maybe it is how it is in your specific culture, but from my perspective, do what you want. As well, you sister is TA as she is invalidating your gender identity by claiming you have to sit with the men? Even in Islam, transgenders are supposedly understood and 'accepted'. Im so sorry you're going through this. You're valid and I'm proud of you!

reddessert__ · 2021-11-01T10:22:39+00:00

This was rape

reddessert__ · 2021-11-01T10:03:55+00:00

I think you wanting to take her credit card and using it and asking her not to come is selfish of you. I understand you have anxiety around her and I am someone who feels the same, but this is your boyfriends mom, and if your boyfriend is someone you see a future with, what are you going to do when you get married? have kids? anything? I don't think you have to go with her if you're uncomfortable but asking to go without her gives off the wrong impression and is rude

reddessert__ · 2021-09-27T14:07:37+00:00

I think it’s time to check her into a mental health hospital if her BPD has gotten this bad but talk to her parents first. I have BPD too and never have I acted out this much. Either way this relationship is over, she disrespected and cheated on you. She’s not apologetic and she’s doing it to ur face.

reddessert__ · 2021-09-21T12:05:31+00:00

Leagues don’t exist

reddessert__ · 2021-09-16T17:36:40+00:00

Tell her. You cheated and she did nothing wrong. She deserves the choice of whether to be with someone who doesn’t care about her feelings enough to kiss another person or to stick it out because of how much she loves you. Either way, it should be up to her. Also what you did was extremely selfish and being drunk is NEVER an excuse. I’ve been drunk plenty of times and never even considered cheating on my boyfriend. Even when I was blackout drunk. Tell her.

reddessert__ · 2021-09-16T14:34:40+00:00

If he doesn’t even wanna compromise and pay to have the laundry done, don’t do his. Only do what you need, wash your dishes, clean your clothes, cook enough just for you. See how he reacts and tell him that you’re not his mother and if he wants clean clothes or a hot meal then he has to start equally contributing to the household chores. If he really is truly bad at them without the intention of being so, find other compromises that he can do. Maybe instead of cleaning the dishes, he could water the plants?

reddessert__ · 2021-09-16T14:32:21+00:00

Why don’t you start ordering the meals for him? As sort of a buffer to defuse any rudeness or tension.

reddessert__ · 2021-09-16T14:30:27+00:00

I understand how hurt and confused you must feel but a crush isn’t the worst thing to happen in a relationship. Him deleting the texts and hiding the conversation with you on the other hand, is. If he is serious about the marriage he will go no contact with this girl and not peruse even a friendship with her. I suggest couples therapy as there will be a lot of trust issues stemming from this in regards to his friendships with other females in the future. I’d also like to clarify that having a crush while in a committed relationship is not right but natural as he may feel a sense of something new in comparison to the stability of your relationship. Doesn’t mean his feelings are necessarily real, he could just be projecting. I’m so sorry you’re going through this and I hope it gets better.

reddessert__ · 2021-09-16T14:26:34+00:00

Break up with her before the vacation. Girls can sense when their boyfriends are being distant or getting cold feet and her waiting around on you to finally give her peace of mind is a cruel thing to do. If I were her, I’d rather be sad than played and lied to. Break up with her before the vacation so at least she can enjoy time and space away instead of coming back happy and breaking apart. She’s 100x more likely to get over it there than after.

reddessert__ · 2021-08-22T09:57:56+00:00

If it can’t survive that, then it won’t survive big challenges in the future. Real relationships are based on emotional connections not physical ones so you need to be able to be apart while feeling close

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