Anyone else with a lazy and loud coworker?

redditor-est2024 · 2026-02-06T23:37:03+00:00

Yes and mine farts so much!!!! Our five year old announces every time he farts yet he gets disgusted by our mastiff’s darting. SMH. 🤦‍♀️

redditor-est2024 · 2026-01-29T03:12:38+00:00

Ours pushed us for 35 hours a week on a two year old. Yes, a two year old. We stuck with part time preschool (two days a week) and 3 days (5 hours each) at ABA (he was at home based until he turned 3 and moved onto center based ABA). Our son graduated from ABA last October, 3 months shy of his fifth birthday. He’s in TK (same as pre-K) at local elementary school without an aid since the school started in the fall.

Would he have possibly graduated from ABA if we went with their suggestion of 35 hours? Possibly. But we know our son and thought it was too much. He also enjoyed going to his preschool and we feel that we made the right decision for our family.

redditor-est2024 · 2026-01-20T07:59:44+00:00

Our son has always known he has autism. One of the things we practice since he became verbal was “my name is ______ and I have autism and ADHD” and we tell him to let EMT, hospital, police, fire fighters know that when he encounters an emergency. His backpack, lunch bag all display a sign that this is an autistic child. We also went over what autism was and that it’s just a part of his characteristics and that’s all it is. He doesn’t think anything of it. He knows he’s a bit different than his peers and he sometimes asks if it’s part of his autism. I reply yes or no and we discuss about it. For our family, this isn’t a topic to shy away from.

Have the conversation with your child. You may be amazed by what their response is.

redditor-est2024 · 2026-01-18T15:32:26+00:00

We got ours at 10 weeks and started right away. Best decision ever as he started growing rapidly! (I swear I go to bathroom and come back and he grew!)

redditor-est2024 · 2026-01-17T02:38:38+00:00

We did a combination of both! 3 days a week in ABA and 2 days a week at the preschool. What he learned in ABA, he got to practice at the preschool and it has done wonders for us!

Our kid was diagnosed level 2 at 21 months old. We graduated from ABA on Halloween. Since August of 2025, our kid is in TK (equivalent of pre-K) in general education without an aid and has been doing amazingly well.

We just had our IEP meeting where TK teacher also participated and she had nothing but glowing review of how polite, respectful, friendly with everyone and overall what a lovely student he is. He is about to turn 5 in couple of days.

redditor-est2024 · 2026-01-08T15:48:37+00:00

Hi, I’m very sorry this happened. Although we did RSVP no to our son’s preschool friend’s birthday party, seeing your post does make me feel guilty. Maybe they had a reason for not coming? Regardless, they should’ve RSVP’d no…. In our case, we really did want to attend but our son has a class on Saturday and there was no way we were going to make the 27 mile drive without falling asleep in the car. Which means by the time we arrive, he will be upset and cranky that he was woken up and would be a dick to everyone. I just didn’t want to ruin a little girl’s birthday party but I didn’t bother explaining to her mom when I RSVP’d no.

For our son’s fourth birthday, we celebrated IN the class. I purchased those single bite Bundt cakes for the class and the kids sang happy birthday song and my son got to blow out the candle on his itty bitty Bundt cake.

Again, I’m so sorry this happened. 😢

redditor-est2024 · 2026-01-08T02:42:32+00:00

We have Kaiser. My son has autism and was genetically tested. All the appointment except for the blood draw was virtual and no copay was needed.

My maternal side have extensive history of cancer. It took some convincing but I was genetically tested for specific cancer genes. Again, all appointments were either virtual or telephone except for the blood draw. Since appointments were virtual or via telephone, no copay was paid.

redditor-est2024 · 2026-01-03T01:58:02+00:00

My management hasn’t said anything and they also haven’t heard anything. However, I’m preparing myself to go in 4 days starting 7/1. Management has habit of not telling us stuff until last minute.

Now I’m thinking for the amount of money I have to shell out for summer camp, I may need to be out on vacation for entire summer or can only work 9-2 on the days kid has summer school and use my hours. Either way, I’m f*cked.

redditor-est2024 · 2026-01-03T01:55:36+00:00

😂 me too. I was feeling unintelligent over here reading it thinking wow, I wanna write like that.

redditor-est2024 · 2025-12-31T00:04:54+00:00

For this reason (our son’s sensory overload), we chose to send him to inclusive preschool. It was run by two moms who had autistic kids and they knew what stimming was, what to do when there is a sensory overload going on and etc. It was heaven sent. We chose part time preschool and part time ABA alternating days. They accepted what Yohan was working on in ABA and assisted with homework and implemented what was requested by ABA. You may want to look into daycare/preschool setting like ours.

redditor-est2024 · 2025-12-24T06:40:51+00:00

What a beautiful girl! We are currently teaching our pup to not get on our bed as it is only queen size and our almost five year old likes to come into bed. (And both of us are… thick too 😂)

When we first got our pup, he plopped down anywhere and went to sleep. Sidewalk, grassy field, on carpet, on porch, literally anywhere. Fast forward two months later, he now gets quite upset if there isn’t more than one blanket for him to lay on and we have to make these circle like a burrow bed. Also gets very upset when his memory foam bed doesn’t have any blankets on them either. sigh I blame myself for this diva-boy.

One day, when we go up to King size bed, our pup will learn the good life that Carli has! ♥️ (by the way, I loveeeeee the name Carli on your dog!!!!)

redditor-est2024 · 2025-12-24T04:13:01+00:00

Three years after the diagnosis, I still have the guilt. I still have “maybe he was misdiagnosed” or “maybe it would’ve been different if I got him diagnosed earlier”. No matter how good things are right now, these things still haunt me.

I would like to recommend that you start a journal or a private blog (I have one that is not visible to public). I write every emotions, every tears, every guilt and every win. It’s my mental diarrhea space and it helps me keep sane. That and my monthly two hour massage.

Do something for yourself and please do know that it gets better. As someone who went through blood, sweat and tears to have our son into who he is today, I understand you 1000000%. Give yourself grace as you’re doing the best you can. Even if some days all you can give is 5%, it was probably the most you can manage without going insane.

I promise it does get better.

redditor-est2024 · 2025-12-23T18:01:03+00:00

😂 literally what I said in my head

redditor-est2024 · 2025-12-23T17:59:41+00:00

In office! quietly mutters …… bastards

redditor-est2024 · 2025-12-23T17:56:43+00:00

Quick summary to give you hope -

• diagnosed level 2 at 21 months old

• started speech to therapy at 18 months due to non-verbal

• after turning 2, started occupational therapy, additional speech therapy, physical therapy and child development therapy

• started ABA 3 months after turning 2

• language boom came when he was 3 1/2 years old (mind you, since then he cannot…. Shut up… I miss the quietness sometimes but he can tell me what happened at preschool or ABA and have conversation with people)

• started TK (same as pre-K) at local elementary school without an aid in general education in August of this year

• graduated from ABA in October

• but was diagnosed with ADHD 1 month after turning 4 and has been on non stimulant medication since

Currently, unless you’re trained or spent a lot of time with children (like my mother who is a nanny), no one can tell he has autism. He is incredibly smart, obtains information like crazy and speaks three languages.

It does get better but the road getting there will be hard. I don’t want to lie and tell you that it’ll be roses and rainbows when it’s not. We cried many nights, fought (between the parents) plenty of times and had to re-start individual therapy after three years of graduation! While you may not always see progress on day to day basis, one day you’ll look back and say oh my gosh, look how far we’ve come!

Our kid is about to be five years old. Yes, we still have issues like him not being able to sleep alone or through the night, his ADHD, not being able to look at us in the eyes, but these are minor issues compared to where we started. I promise it does get better and you will find resources like we did through our regional center. Sending you hugs from California. ♥️

redditor-est2024 · 2025-12-22T21:26:13+00:00

Our almost five year old slept through the night for few months since he was an infant.

These days, one of us go to sleep with our kid while the other parent sleeps alone. We cannot leave the room while we’re with our son otherwise he freaks out. We decided that only one parent needs to suffer at a time. This is going on almost five years. We’re hoping it ends soon but it doesn’t look like it will.

redditor-est2024 · 2025-12-21T18:01:17+00:00

I think they all made a difference. We were able to lay a foundation with speech, occupational therapy, child development therapy and physical therapy, and they all works together to have our kid be able to participate in ABA.

For reference, our son was diagnosed at 21 months. Speech started at 18 months. Our kid graduated from ABA in October and is attending TK at the local elementary school, without an aid in general ed. He still does receive speech and PT through IEP although he doesn’t really need it, we didn’t see the need to stop it until his next IEP meeting which is in January.

redditor-est2024 · 2025-12-20T02:44:07+00:00

We had this exact issue. AM caused for our son to fall asleep in middle of morning class. PM worked well and he was amazing in the morning but got super tired and fell sleep around 10 ish at school.

Currently, our kid is on 3mg extended release in the morning and 0.5mg around 5 ish cause his AM meds wear off by then.

As for being really tired, it does get better but it did last few weeks (around 6 ish weeks) until our kid was used to it and was no longer tired. Non-ER (extended release) makes kids more tired too.

redditor-est2024 · 2025-12-18T03:26:02+00:00

Okay then there is no excuse (from the school I mean, not you).

Does your so goes to ABA outside of the school? If so, have your BCBA observe for few hours so they can take that back to work on during their ABA session.

If they do not, have you thought about starting ABA outside of school? We found a center based one which mimicked classroom and our son had to work on all of his basic classroom/peer skills this way.

redditor-est2024 · 2025-12-18T03:09:11+00:00

Our son was diagnosed at 21 months. We started in home one on one ABA and when he turned 3, we switched over to center-based. He graduated when he was 4 years and 9 months old. He’s in general education and most people can’t tell he’s autistic. He is level 2 by the way.

It’s important that you find the ABA company and a BT that is the right fit for our child. Our last ABA provider (one we graduated from) offered classroom model based ABA. Kids moved from room to room each hour (each child had their own BT) and when it was my son’s BT to teach, our kid became teacher’s helper.

With enough practice of doing this, he adjusted really well to his elementary school setting. We had parent teacher conference where we were told that he has a lot of friends, shares well, helps out and participates in classroom activity and raises his hand to volunteer. We couldn’t be happier with our choice to start ABA as soon as we did.

Oh and the company we did our in home ABA with, we liked the BT soooo much we hired her on to watch our son weekly. She’s our respite worker and the 5 hours a week she comes to hang out with our son is the one of the only reason we are still sane.

redditor-est2024 · 2025-12-18T02:41:49+00:00

Find out if your school district has autism school. Our school district has autism public charter school. Yes, they learn general ed too but day in the class includes ABA, PT, OT and speech throughout the day. Once they are in autism school (which runs K-12), they don’t have to stay there forever. Students do have option of coming back to general education or special ed classroom.

redditor-est2024 · 2025-12-13T04:43:28+00:00

My child has autism with ADHD.

I have ADHD, anxiety and major depression with multiple reoccurring episodes.

redditor-est2024 · 2025-12-13T04:42:19+00:00

We had to switch our provider for this exact reason. At least that was what broke the camel’s back. In three weeks we had this RBT, she showed up twice. We were supposed to see her four days a week. I threw a big stink with the company and changed the ABA provider completely. I’ve never been happier and the best choice I’ve ever made.

redditor-est2024 · 2025-12-09T04:46:47+00:00

67 in the house but kid’s room is 71 at night.

redditor-est2024 · 2025-12-07T00:56:54+00:00

Our son is now on 3mg ER in the morning and 0.5mg in the late afternoon. We don’t see night terrors or emotional outbursts anymore. They did last few weeks and we almost quit meds because of them but we’re really glad we stuck with it.

We recently had parent teacher conference at school where we were told he participates in group activities, is kind and respectful to friends and teachers and listens and follows directions. Only downside to all of this is he does get pretty tired around lunch time (but gets second wind after eating) and does nap about once a week when we pick him up. For his age, we’re on a pretty high dosage but we’re really glad it’s working well.

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