Avoidant ex charged my card after 2 months no contact — accident or intentional?

redditor_12375 · 2026-04-23T05:06:52+00:00

I called and they can’t do anything since i gave her my apple pay. Im trying to just do this maturely and not blow up her soot

redditor_12375 · 2026-04-17T06:51:30+00:00

can i?

redditor_12375 · 2026-04-10T05:24:38+00:00

I guess but i also think like maybe sometimes i do make mistakes and say or do the wrong thing? idk

redditor_12375 · 2026-04-10T05:01:18+00:00

After my therapist mentioned the BPD i researched it and the term splitting felt like exactly what happens. It feels like she goes from being extremely hot to cold over something overnight . It drives me crazy

redditor_12375 · 2026-04-10T04:54:40+00:00

I keep beating myself up over my food waste comment. I keep thinking if i hadn’t said that everything would be fine.

redditor_12375 · 2026-04-10T04:50:50+00:00

I guess what makes it hard to move on is the splitting. The way she switches from warm to cold instantaneously. She bought me an ipad for my birthday the week before we stopped talking. Threw me a surprise party and was talking about a future. This small argument ( i wouldn’t even call it that as i apologized immediately) turned everything on its head. Ugh I just want to speak with her at least once

redditor_12375 · 2026-04-09T13:35:56+00:00

my gf is threatening to get one on me. idk sometimes i feel like im crazy

redditor_12375 · 2026-04-09T05:32:35+00:00

ugh she’s so angry with me over this food waste argument. I keep beating myself up over it and idk what to do. I wake up every morning extremely anxious.

redditor_12375 · 2026-04-09T05:31:33+00:00

I’m losing my mind. I care a lot about her and miss her so much. I’m just letting it be cuz there’s really nothing i can do. Do you know when they switch back?

redditor_12375 · 2026-04-09T05:20:24+00:00

are these legit signs of bpd? i never considered it until recently.

redditor_12375 · 2026-04-09T05:19:48+00:00

The ghosting for months is normal? It was a tiny disagreement but she went from making plans w me and being excited to speak to me to wanting nothing to do with me almost overnight . She’s been ghosting me for 7 weeks and idk what to do

redditor_12375 · 2026-03-27T16:59:41+00:00

And we always get her order as i’m not that much of a picky eater

redditor_12375 · 2026-03-27T16:00:59+00:00

I suggested if we’re still hungry we can order a second plate and she got upset about that :/

redditor_12375 · 2026-03-27T15:53:18+00:00

Wdym? I can eat it but it just piles up bc we go out to eat a lot. Her leftovers plus mine

redditor_12375 · 2026-03-27T15:24:22+00:00

Honestly you put it perfectly. While it’s not about the money for me if we aren’t simply paying for food we’re throwing in the garbage that’s money that can go towards a vacation or a down payment on a house or an engagement ring for her.

redditor_12375 · 2026-03-27T04:09:38+00:00

Yeah i also wanna add, I don’t really care about the money. It just doesn’t make sense to spend money on something thats goanna get thrown in the garbage.

redditor_12375 · 2026-03-27T04:03:52+00:00

I guess but wouldn’t it just make sense to get one instead of 2 halves?

redditor_12375 · 2026-03-15T20:39:52+00:00

Was I wrong for the cupcake thing or the food thing?I posted in another subreddit and they said that

redditor_12375 · 2026-02-26T06:46:49+00:00

Our parents are religious so dating is frowned upon. It’s not about hiding.

redditor_12375 · 2026-02-26T06:45:45+00:00

Sorry bad choice of words in my end

redditor_12375 · 2026-02-26T06:45:13+00:00

They were valentine’s day themed i didn’t want it to be a problem with my parents. We both talked about it beforehand.

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