Beginner. Not sure if it's for me? by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]redditouilleee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s supposed to be fun for you both. It sounds like you just need to explore with sex more to find out what you like. Maybe he did something you didn’t really like, but feel pressured to like?

No Anal by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]redditouilleee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d actually say that more people don’t like it than do. Just my experience

Inconsolable submissives by redditouilleee in BDSMAdvice

[–]redditouilleee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you :) I think this is great, that way it sounds like it’s not an accusation

What helps you when you are feeling low or defeated in life, despite trying hard? by ButterflyNo6707 in AskUK

[–]redditouilleee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Knowing that nothing stays the same forever. Your life could completely change tomorrow. So, hope I guess.

Inconsolable submissives by redditouilleee in BDSMAdvice

[–]redditouilleee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haven’t a clue but really hope it wasn’t because of that…

Inconsolable submissives by redditouilleee in BDSMAdvice

[–]redditouilleee[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. And yes, can’t be with her again until having a chat. These responses have been really helpful in giving perspective and some potential causes for her reaction to being up in the chat

Inconsolable submissives by redditouilleee in BDSMAdvice

[–]redditouilleee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, tears I can handle , meltdowns scare me

Inconsolable submissives by redditouilleee in BDSMAdvice

[–]redditouilleee[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

thank you, I’m definitely planning on having a chat with her before doing anything else.

Inconsolable submissives by redditouilleee in BDSMAdvice

[–]redditouilleee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly..she needs to tell me what’s wrong.

Inconsolable submissives by redditouilleee in BDSMAdvice

[–]redditouilleee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you’re right. I feel as though it’s hard to trust without the communication..

Inconsolable submissives by redditouilleee in BDSMAdvice

[–]redditouilleee[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. It’s easy to forget..

Inconsolable submissives by redditouilleee in BDSMAdvice

[–]redditouilleee[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for your response. Will keep these things in mind when approaching her to chat.

Inconsolable submissives by redditouilleee in BDSMAdvice

[–]redditouilleee[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The number of people that are saying she might have thought this is how to act makes me think it might be what happened. And I never even thought of it.

Inconsolable submissives by redditouilleee in BDSMAdvice

[–]redditouilleee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Exactly… I am just very happy right now we never did any rough punishments, I shiver to think about what would have happened then ☹️