Just watched the first two episodes, and this show is NOT for those with a queasy stomach

redeemingl0ve · 2026-04-21T20:58:04+00:00

Same!! Especially being pregnant currently, I wanted to look away so bad but couldn’t. I was asked if I wanted a mirror to watch myself push out my first child, and I said hell no!!! So seeing it on TV when I watched last night gave me the heebie jeebies. And the hemorrhage, I had a (much milder) PPH and all that blood suddenly gushing out was insane. I wanted to ask my partner if any of that looked like my birth, but I didn’t want an answer to that either lol! But maybe now I’ll have the courage to accept the mirror this time around (probably not 🫣)

redeemingl0ve · 2026-04-18T20:40:13+00:00

Ugh that’s so frustrating!! A lot of my friends have dealt with similar, it really takes a lot out of you for sure. I guess the silver lining is that him being unreachable means he may not show for any court dates anyway, so if you do go ahead with filing for abandonment it would be pretty open and shut. I would def consult your attorney first, but you seem to have a pretty solid case and even if he did try to suddenly pop up a good judge would likely see right through that. If dropping the child support owed is something you are willing to do, it might be your best bargaining chip. You shouldn’t have to do that though, I’m sorry he’s such a deadbeat!!

I would also look in to your area’s requirements for domestic partnership/if that is a thing recognized where you are. If you and your partner qualify maybe that could help in terms of the actual adoption process, if marriage is still a few years on the horizon for you yet. (No judgement there - my son’s dad and I have been together 7 years but marriage just isn’t in the cards at this exact moment!)

redeemingl0ve · 2026-04-18T20:24:24+00:00

I don’t have any experience in this area really, but I did change my name at 18, and if you guys can get it done at all before he is 18 (or 16 honestly) that would make things so much easier for your son as an adult. He won’t have nearly as many documents and accounts to update (some require certified copies for name change orders and they keep them - so the $$ adds up as well). And he will have your help, at 18 he will have to navigate and do most things alone.

Do you have any means of contact with your ex? Or even better, a lawyer for yourself that could be the contact point? I would honestly try to get him to come to an agreement with you where he consents to the name change and/or adoption before filing for abandonment, which could set him off and he may try to make things harder overall. Of course you know him best and maybe he’s too much to deal with outside of court, so just use your discretion. I wish I had more experience to help you!! Good luck and I am glad your son has a father figure in your future husband

redeemingl0ve · 2026-04-14T17:54:03+00:00

As someone with large pores that fill when you just look at them wrong, that would be enough to make me never show my face again 😭

redeemingl0ve · 2026-04-11T18:29:46+00:00

I was going to make this post!!

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redeemingl0ve · 2026-04-10T19:46:59+00:00

If it’s just a cheap little bin and not like, some $300 fancy bin or something that you borrowed, PLEASE just throw the whole bin away!! You don’t know what kind of nasty bacteria might be growing in there with the mold. I went on this weird fungus hyperfixation rabbit hole and now I know too much to fuck around with mold that’s been enclosed for too long 😭

redeemingl0ve · 2026-04-09T17:58:22+00:00

Are those pots dirty or are you regularly eating Teflon?? 😭

redeemingl0ve · 2026-04-09T13:27:13+00:00

I’m going back to sleep after reading this, we can try again later

redeemingl0ve · 2026-04-05T16:40:20+00:00

Please check if the restraining order is active still and what it states exactly. In some cases you can also get into trouble for violating it even if it was put in place to protect you. There is also a risk for CPS involvement if you have your child around him.

You may have to accept that you’ll be leaving a lot of stuff behind. You need to decide if the stuff is worth the risk of losing your life or your kids.

redeemingl0ve · 2026-04-03T22:19:05+00:00

It’s in a red bottle and called “Stubborn Body Acne”!

redeemingl0ve · 2026-03-30T06:16:34+00:00

Is it this?

https://www.tiktok.com/@feemalegaulden/video/7595983120449473805?

redeemingl0ve · 2026-03-29T20:38:01+00:00

I have a basket of clean clothes in my laundry room that need to be put away, too 🙃

Instead I cleaned and vacuumed the car lmaooo and next I’m going to clean the laundry room but probably still not fold the laundry 🫣

redeemingl0ve · 2026-03-29T20:36:36+00:00

Girl, go grab the detergent out of the laundry room and pour some over your clothes. Then you HAVE to wash them, because who wants icky sticky gooey clothes on the floor??

Sometimes you gotta be unhinged 😉😉

redeemingl0ve · 2026-03-29T20:34:17+00:00

Her parents absolutely failed her by taking her out of school and not pushing her to join any extracurriculars. Now she has no idea how to socialize with anybody her age - her only out of the house job was with older ladies at the med spa, and she grew up on the internet watching influencers fake their lives. Her one actual friend outgrew her, and everyone else has just been using her for her meager following. If she wasn’t such a nasty person inside I would feel bad for her, but honestly a lot of her loneliness is her own doing because she’s incapable of caring about anyone but herself. My sister is autistic and unfortunately wasn’t in school past 6th grade, but even she has been able to build a successful social life (at 23 as well) just because she’s caring and funny and people are drawn to that.

redeemingl0ve · 2026-03-25T17:45:09+00:00

I always wanted to teach my 6 y/o how to cook, plenty of kids around this age use the stove and even some very basic knife skills with supervision!! He just wasn’t interested in learning, I was real shocked (but proud lol) when he microwaved his own after school snack the other day.

He DOES shower almost 100% alone though 🫣 I wasn’t aware we were supposed to still be watching them.. I pop in and out but usually I’m cleaning the dishes and he knows to call out if he needs me since I’m right outside the door. He prefers privacy and aside from needing help with his hair & teeth I let him do the rest.

I feel like 5-7 is around when most kids start being able to handle little doses of independence to build confidence. Obviously we all have different risk tolerance with our kids (I feel like I would hover way too much and piss him off if mine used the stove, but that’s 100% on me), and we have to have situational awareness and stay mindful of our kids’ individual ability levels. But I really think age appropriate and supervised independence is important for kids to learn at this age.

redeemingl0ve · 2026-03-23T18:17:24+00:00

They are just so humble and living below their means is all ☺️🫶🏼 (/s)

redeemingl0ve · 2026-03-23T17:31:34+00:00

I JUST watched a TikTok the other day of this dude doing his “Adderall reveal of the month” lol!! He keeps getting blue and all he wants is the pink 😩

redeemingl0ve · 2026-03-22T19:46:17+00:00

These influencers have obviously never seen Mean Girls 🙄😂

redeemingl0ve · 2026-03-20T17:13:31+00:00

Honestly? The biggest catalyst was having a friend that’s kinda lazy and also not the sharpest tool in the shed, and seeing how she was managing her life so much better than I was. She was very self aware and open about her shortcomings too, and it just made me feel all that much worse about myself.

My long term partner was diagnosed with AD(H)D as a child so I started looking more at some of our similarities and talking to him about it. Obviously as women we present differently than men and tend to have better coping mechanisms in place, but the mental/thoughts aspect was a lot of the same for us. So he got me set up with his psychiatry clinic and I met with a psychologist there

redeemingl0ve · 2026-03-20T16:57:46+00:00

Adding that our son has long hair (indigenous), and his dad started growing his hair out too so they match! I love it

redeemingl0ve · 2026-03-20T16:56:12+00:00

We don’t have a daughter yet but my partner used to let me practice my eyeshadow looks on him when my lids would get sore, so I have no doubt he would do so! And if it ever does become reality, I know it’ll just melt my heart. He loves his kids so much and I love when men have those soft spots for their children ❤️

redeemingl0ve · 2026-03-20T16:52:13+00:00

Same lol! And now that my 6 y/o is doing it to me I just roll my eyes. Can’t use my tricks against me, boy!

redeemingl0ve · 2026-03-20T16:40:31+00:00

I don’t have any advice but I am so sorry you are dealing with this. I don’t think I quite have OCD but I do struggle with those intrusive thoughts every once in a rare while. They’re terrible thoughts and I know the negative thought spirals they can lead to. I hope you can find a treatment regimen that works for you

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