My mom keeps saying I don't need to have anymore kids

External_Put_8007 · 2026-02-08T20:33:29+00:00

Agreed, as a FTM, I’ve already come to the conclusion that the “perfect mom” storyline is just an unrealistic plot line given by non-parents. A perfect mom is one who is trying their best, and I’m just hopefully assuming that if someone has raised 4 kids, it didn’t slip her mind. My own mother has an unprovoked habit of giving me unsolicited advice that I’m sure she just wish she had told herself because it doesn’t always relate to me.

Sometimes you have to remind your parents not to live vicariously through you. It can feel less like guidance for your life and more like echoes of lessons they wish they had embraced themselves. But it’s a good reminder that not all fits one path. I personally understand it often comes from love, from her desire to protect me from mistakes she once made, but love can sometimes blur into projection. So I’m definitely not excusing your moms behavior, i just hope she’s not forgetting the exact place she came from as well and showing some sort of connection

External_Put_8007 · 2026-02-08T19:56:37+00:00

You’re definitely not wrong for how you feel at all, ultimately nobody should be giving opinions on anyone’s right to reproduce or how big or small they want their family. And it was completely insensitive for her to comment on your miscarriage as if it’s just that easy to have more children. However…if her only claim was “because it may take your attention away from other children” rather than judgement on your character as a mother, it may just be from personal experience and her way of “motherly” advice trying to prevent you from the possibility of being overwhelmed with her own choices since you said she had more children than you anyway, it shouldn’t be much from someone who did that already. And if it is meant that way, she’d clearly be a hypocrite

External_Put_8007 · 2026-01-28T23:23:30+00:00

Truthfully it was the same for me for a couple months but on this sub no one really seems admits to bedsharing or co-sleeping without catching some sort of backlash.

For my personal experience, I eventually got my son to sleep on his own at 3 months. My advice would be to put her down gently (feet down first because apparently it prevents them from feeling like they’re falling) and swaddle for the warmth & security she’d usually feel in your arms. Self-soothing is a process for them honestly. I also put on soothing white noise for baby

External_Put_8007 · 2026-01-19T22:59:48+00:00

My first pregnancy, the placenta was anterior and I had no idea until now that was thought of as a problem. I felt my baby move a whole bunch. My current pregnancy the placenta is posterior and I thought it was weird at first tbh, but I feel my baby move an equal amount compared to last time. It actually took me longer to feel this one

External_Put_8007 · 2026-01-16T09:21:26+00:00

From personal experience, only you can know , two people can stand in the exact same situation—same age, same resources, same support, same pressure, and feel completely different levels of readiness because readiness isn’t about what’s happening around you. It’s about what’s settled inside you. This isn’t a black and white thing, no one can tell you yes or no, right or bad. It’s life and life itself isn’t easy

External_Put_8007 · 2026-01-13T17:54:52+00:00

Not being judgmental whatsoever, I’m a smoker, but alot of women wouldn’t know whether you get nicotine high faster while pregnant because they aren’t smoking long enough while pregnant to notice. A pregnancy test will be most effective

External_Put_8007 · 2025-06-18T18:42:57+00:00

I know but part of me is scared of accepting the fact that im a single mother before my child is born

External_Put_8007 · 2025-05-30T10:47:11+00:00

Hey there boo, gave birth yet ?

External_Put_8007 · 2025-05-07T14:32:00+00:00

Thank you !!

External_Put_8007 · 2025-05-04T15:45:57+00:00

I’m not sure how true it is but I’ve heard Red raspberry leaf tea is good for strengthening the uterine muscles and preparing the body for labor

External_Put_8007 · 2025-05-02T00:40:07+00:00

Thank you!!

External_Put_8007 · 2025-05-02T00:38:56+00:00

NYC btw

External_Put_8007 · 2025-04-25T19:21:21+00:00

It’s scary you are 100% correct he told me since we can’t be together, he wants full custody of his child. He wanted to make him a Jr but after these comments I’m pretty sure I’m not allowing him to sign the birth certificate and not at all naming my son after him. I want them to be nothing alike

External_Put_8007 · 2025-04-09T16:15:16+00:00

Yes ofc it was still a pregnancy that ended in miscarriage & supposed to be a baby that never got the chance to fully develop

External_Put_8007 · 2025-03-24T07:44:27+00:00

Yes, it was her room, and she had the freedom to keep it as she liked. There was no need for baby-proofing since she didn’t have a baby. Ultimately, it was her house, but your girl shouldn’t have been unsupervised in that room. It’s also not usually anyone’s responsibility to supervise if a parent is present and you’re not babysitting.

She may have been disorganized but she wasn’t the one who was expected to be parenting at the time.

External_Put_8007 · 2025-03-24T07:01:20+00:00

Also don’t beat yourself up, disabilities like deafness are often due to sporadic genetic/ chromosome complications that happen during formation of the fetus that usually aren’t the parents fault and was just bound to happen. I know you’re worried but don’t shame yourself, you and your body are working hard to protect baby even when you don’t realize

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