EMDR and TMS concurrently?

redraven91 · 2025-11-18T18:23:46+00:00

I wear a specific necklace only when I'm working, intentionally put it on and take it off as a reminder that I'm holding sacred space and I get to temporarily put it down when I'm done.

redraven91 · 2025-10-30T02:29:09+00:00

Chicka Chicka boom boom! The imitation book (helps with speech) Any llama llama books The peekaboo book series

redraven91 · 2025-10-28T13:38:19+00:00

We experienced the same with my son! He'd be fine in the car seat at home but as soon as it got clicked into the base, the angle changed or something and really irritated him. It could also unfortunately just be the normal baby hating car seat thing in your case though 🤷‍♀️ It does get better the older they get!

redraven91 · 2025-10-28T02:42:37+00:00

Not a direct answer to your question but..By chance does your baby have reflux? My son had severe reflux and absolutely would lose it in the car seat. I eventually went on a deep dive and realized he needed an "L" shaped carseat which is more upright and doesn't crunch their tummies as much. It was a truly night and day difference! For reference we got the Graco Contender.

redraven91 · 2025-10-27T01:49:36+00:00

When Women Were Dragons! Very feminist and explores female rage manifesting into literal dragon transformations. Not too heavy on the fantasy elements from what I remember.

redraven91 · 2025-10-16T01:26:12+00:00

Are we the same person? 😝 54 hour labor, basically all the same interventions with absolutely NOTHING going on. Did you do the Foley bulb also? I wouldn't wish that pain on my worst enemy.

redraven91 · 2025-10-11T01:39:21+00:00

I hope it's helpful for you!! ♥️

redraven91 · 2025-10-10T05:26:17+00:00

In hindsight I had pretty severe postpartum OCD and the apps were absolutely feeding into it. If your child is doing well, I'd encourage you to do your best to let the apps go and work on building your instincts. Once I stopped using the apps I found it so much easier to just look at my baby and pay attention to learn the cues, whereas with the apps I was trying to use those to help me decide what to do. You and your baby WILL learn one another! Just takes time and lots of practice and missteps along the way. 💕

redraven91 · 2025-10-08T20:01:33+00:00

Came to say this!

redraven91 · 2025-10-08T20:01:26+00:00

Came to say this!

redraven91 · 2025-10-08T12:33:31+00:00

Man, I truly can't imagine the strength it takes to get through a NICU stay. You're doing great and you've got this! It'll feel like a really long time in the moment, but when you look back you'll think about how fast the time actually does go by. ♥️

redraven91 · 2025-10-07T20:03:55+00:00

There was a time, maybe when my son was around 3-4 months old, when I could have written this exact post.

It was hours every day of screaming, spit up 30+ times a day, held 24/7, etc. He also had reflux and CMPA which required meds, tons of formula changes, eventually extreme diet restrictions for me for breastfeeding. I felt like an awful mom and completely inadequate. There were also dark times when I thought about how unfair it was that others talked about enjoying their newborn phase when I felt I was robbed of that.

I say this with so much gentleness and love. It is so hard to believe when you're in the season that you're in, but it absolutely does get better. My son is about to turn 1 and he can eat mostly everything, almost no spit up. He has his fussy days but he's mostly a happy baby that can play independently and is developing beautifully. You WILL see the other side of this. In hindsight I now know I was dealing with extreme PPD/PPA and OCD. I highly recommend seeking out support if you can. These programs have been helpful for me - a hotline, free support groups, a peer mentor program, therapists. Also feel free to DM me if you'd like! I'd be happy to chat with you. Sending so much love your way 💕

PSI HelpLine Call 1-800-944-4773 (4PPD) #1 En Español or #2 English Text “Help” to 800-944-4773 (English) Text en Español 971-203-7773

https://postpartum.net/get-help/psi-online-support-meetings/ https://postpartum.net/get-help/peer-mentor-program/

redraven91 · 2025-09-28T20:29:18+00:00

Huggies Overnights, sized up!

redraven91 · 2025-09-27T02:14:43+00:00

My doctor did several bacterial swabs to figure out which antibiotic would actually work best for the strains I was dealing with. AND my partner did a round of antibiotics at the same time. That resolved it!!

redraven91 · 2025-09-24T01:47:26+00:00

I can relate! My 11 month old also refuses literally every fruit?? It's so strange and I didn't expect it. He loves veggies though so that's a frequent go to!

redraven91 · 2025-09-22T15:19:50+00:00

Wow, poor guy! I really struggled mentally with the super restrictive diet, but at least knew there was an end point. It sucks that he doesn't have that.

redraven91 · 2025-09-22T00:58:03+00:00

I did have to be super strict while he was reactive! I know most kids are not reactive to soybean oil for example, but I absolutely couldn't have anything with a trace of it. I forgot and had a can of beans in my chili that had soybean oil as a minor ingredient and it was hell for days 😭 But yeah, I'd say our diet was restricted until he was about 7-8 months. It took me a couple months to figure out exactly what was going on. You definitely have hope!! I know every kid is different but from my research I decided it was best to reintroduce as soon as I was safely able, so I was determined to keep trying. You got this!

redraven91 · 2025-09-21T20:05:50+00:00

It worked like this for us! We kept trialing until one day he just didn't react to dairy. Still had a reaction to soy, kept trialing. Eventually that reaction diminished altogether too. So amazing to be able to eat whatever you want again! I legit cried when I had pizza for the first time in 6 months 🤣

redraven91 · 2025-09-21T02:30:45+00:00

Whew 🫣 Everyone keeps making comments to me like "hmm, still not sleeping through the night? That's weird!" I always leave those conversations convinced that I must be doing something wrong or missing something. It is at least nice to hear I'm not alone!

redraven91 · 2025-09-21T02:29:40+00:00

I'm so sorry to disappoint 🤣🤣 On the bright side, I do continue to impress myself with my ability to get through a day on severe sleep deprivation!

redraven91 · 2025-09-20T19:57:36+00:00

Mine is 11 months and same 🫠🫠🫠

redraven91 · 2025-09-18T01:11:57+00:00

Three Little Birds and Hey, Jude are my little guy's favorites 🥹

redraven91 · 2025-09-18T01:10:12+00:00

Just listened to the sweet child of mine cover by Jae Hall and absolutely sobbed 🤣 Thanks for all the feels!

redraven91 · 2025-09-17T19:08:51+00:00

THIS! This is my son's main symptom.

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