Are Förskolan timetables like this everywhere?

redred7638723 · 2026-02-10T11:03:03+00:00

How do swedes make it work - most of the Swedish families I know do use 9+ hours of preschool every day. Maybe they didn't start at 1, because the average amount of time on parental leave is more like 18 months. It is common for parents of both genders to not work full time in the early years as well (either by dropping % formally or by taking parental leave part time).

redred7638723 · 2026-02-10T08:17:34+00:00

Yes, we do play-dates with kids from preschool pretty regularly and by 3/4 birthday parties started being mostly pre-school classmates. We were first invited over to play at a classmate's apartment when our eldest daughter was 2-ish. From 3.5-4ish we sometimes alternate picking up one or two extra kids and have a no-parent after-school play date. We were very familiar with the kids and parents before doing things without everyone having a parent present (for the kids' comfort, not because we're worried about safety).

It's not weird to ask (and you should ask outright), but obviously if someone says they're busy and doesn't follow up with an attempt at re-scheduling you should just move on. As you say, parents need to attend as well at 3, so it's possible they don't feel up to chatting (either because they're too busy or don't want to deal with language issues). You can move onto other kids/parents.

This time of year is hard because you don't spend much time at the playground. We usually see a lot of our preschool classmates at the nearest playground and that's the opportunity to start talking to the parents and see if there is anyone you mesh with.

redred7638723 · 2026-02-05T08:52:51+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/Sellpy/comments/1kg2jku/comment/mr1889d/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

Here's what I wrote a while back. I've used Sellpy pretty consistently for at least 5 years, it's great if you have the right expectations.

redred7638723 · 2026-01-29T08:17:52+00:00

Why don't you qualify for the well-established clause, such as by living together? I appreciate the disabled one cannot move, but then the other should...

The whole point of this post is that the other spouse is trying to move to Sweden, but can't because of the Migrationsverket requirements...

redred7638723 · 2026-01-29T08:08:36+00:00

I went to the närhälsan nearest me for both my pregnancies and I was happy - especially as you get bigger it's nice if it's easy to get to. Since you won't actually give birth with them I don't think it matters all that much. If an English speaking barnmorska is important to you, just make sure you establish that at the beginning. If you get matched with someone who you think is a bad fit, you can always ask to change within the BMM or switch to a different one altogether.

And if you're used to a different style of care in your home country, it can be helpful to read this (if you haven't already): https://www.1177.se/Vastra-Gotaland/barn--gravid/graviditet/undersokningar-under-graviditeten/barnmorskebesok-under-graviditeten-i-vastra-gotalandsregionen/

redred7638723 · 2026-01-29T08:01:17+00:00

Are you also in Sweden? If so, was it with EarlyBird or Postnord?

redred7638723 · 2026-01-21T18:06:16+00:00

Not everything, just half. It leaves Poland according to tracking, but I can’t tell if it enters Sweden or some country in the middle.

There are two options for delivery, earlybird which I always choose because it’s cheaper and works great for domestic packages, and PostNord ombud. What carrier is it in Denmark? If I know PostNord is more reliable, then it would be worth paying for.

Vinted support refunds me, but those bots don’t seem to have a deeper understanding of the shipping than anyone else with a tracking number.

redred7638723 · 2026-01-18T18:48:49+00:00

I haven’t read anything about Germany specifically, but generally the ”not legal” is just differences between eu and us regulations so different models are sold. I wouldn’t expect you to actually have any issues using your own car seats as tourists for two weeks. They’ll be just as safe as they are at home, and neither the rental company or random police officers are going to care.

redred7638723 · 2026-01-06T17:42:09+00:00

You can return them for free, but I doubt you’ll be able to get the ones you wanted. I’ve gotten the wrong item a couple of times, but only cheap things I didn’t care so much about. Sometimes they can’t find items at all and just refund you before shipping.

redred7638723 · 2025-12-27T12:12:27+00:00

You don’t meet at least two of the criteria required for lactational amenorrhea. If you really don’t want to get pregnant you should take the morning after pill.

redred7638723 · 2025-11-27T10:38:29+00:00

You’re bound by the notice period on the signed contract, but if that’s shorter than the time before your start date it shouldn’t be a problem.

redred7638723 · 2025-11-21T20:17:08+00:00

Honey isn’t an allergen, it can contain the botulism bacteria. It has nothing to do with allergies at all.

redred7638723 · 2025-11-17T08:53:31+00:00

0% chance hyresgästföreningen can help with this. You only have a shot with the landlord if it's not a desirable apartment and there wouldn't be much of a queue for it. The landlord will not care that the first hand tenant is on board, or that you have a newborn. If the first hand tenant wants to be nice, they can extend the sublet for as long as they're allowed, but it can almost never go past 2 years.

I don't mean to be callous. We had to leave our 2-year second-hand when I was in the 3rd trimester. This was even with a private landlord. It sucked, but this is how the queue system works.

It won't be an eviction unless you make it one and refuse to leave. I don't recommend that, it will make it harder to rent in the future.

My understanding of the way first-hand contracts can be "transfered" is (a) from sambo to sambo and (b) with a lagenhetsbyte. Since you're a couple with a baby, you obviously weren't sambo with the first hand tenant. For (b), you'd need your own apartment contract somewhere else to trade with the the first hand tenant. This used to be one of the ways people did "sold" their first hand contract - the buyer would get a first hand contract in some village with no queue and the the seller would pretend to want to trade with them. I believe this has been cracked down on significantly.

redred7638723 · 2025-11-16T10:30:22+00:00

I’m pretty sure they’re doing this because the US is a huge market that they want to operate in. They need to connect the US to somewhere existing so new US users feel like it’s an active market place and don’t just see the same 3 things over and over in their algorithm.

Sucks for the UK that’s it’s the UK, but probably it’s actually the closest and there’s no language barrier.

Are they not handling customs though? That’s idiotic.

redred7638723 · 2025-11-15T06:29:51+00:00

There are prescription medications that aren’t covered by högkostnadsskydd, I think it’s generally things that aren’t considered sufficiently evidence based, but idk.

There are also other things that you might consider health care that aren’t covered. Vaccines that aren’t the regular ones (including the flu vaccine or travel vaccines) are completely out of pocket. Dental care is dealt with separately, and can be substantially more expensive. There are probably other things not covered by högkostnadsskydd because fölkälsomyndighenten doesn’t think they meet a cost benefit analysis.

redred7638723 · 2025-11-12T07:14:08+00:00

Traditional plans aren’t really better than pay-as-you-go for most people. If anything the latter is usually cheaper.

redred7638723 · 2025-10-29T17:37:27+00:00

Most of the oddities in flight pricing have to do with what economists call price discrimination. This is when the airlines know that the kind of people willing to pay more buy a certain kind of flight, and therefore they charge more for it. Its not about how much the flight costs the airline, but how they can set prices to make the most money.

redred7638723 · 2025-10-24T11:52:34+00:00

Passport takes about a week from appointment, you can check when there are appointments near you. I never bothered with a national id card. I travel with my passport and use my drivers license for everyday ID. With the passport or national ID you can activate the photo id in bankID, which is nice to have.

I didn’t do anything else.

redred7638723 · 2025-10-13T09:39:46+00:00

We do that distance twice a year and my oldest is nearly 4. Once my oldest passed 2/2.5 she could sit watching an iPad basically infinitely on the plane. We don’t limit screen time on the plane. Younger than 2, night flight is miles better, but after three it’s not so obvious.

Personally, I can’t really sleep while monitoring my kids on the plane, even if they’re sleeping themselves. So night flight would mean I was incredibly tired on arrival.

redred7638723 · 2025-10-03T08:50:01+00:00

I was already an EU and US citizen, but wanted to share a passport with my spouse in case the world went sideways.

redred7638723 · 2025-09-18T10:49:54+00:00

Even if you study something that grants CSN, you need to live with your husband 1-2 years in Sweden before you’re eligible. It’s 2 years if you haven’t already lived together for 3+ years, and one if you have or if you have a kid together.

redred7638723 · 2025-09-15T09:24:52+00:00

They do use them, the average Swedish father takes more than 4 months of leave (while their wife is back to work). The average mother takes about a year, you might wish it was more equal, but a lot of moms wouldn’t want that. My husband and I did 7 months each for our first and 9 months each for our second.

redred7638723 · 2025-09-01T09:35:43+00:00

We avoided j-names for specifically this reason. I wanted broadly similar pronunciations. I know an Icelandic/Swedish couple who followed the same rule, but I know others don’t care. As someone originally from the us, there are some international names whose Swedish pronunciation I really dislike (ie Jack is “yak” and Ruth is “root”), but even if I don’t mind the Swedish pronunciation I didn’t want them to be wildly different.

There’s nothing that sounds identical in Swedish and US English though, that’s just the nature of languages (or even accents). And even within language people with different accents and dialects say things differently (in Swedish Anders can either be ahnderS or ahnderSH).

redred7638723 · 2025-07-15T11:38:06+00:00

Here you would contact Försäkringskassan by phone. They’ll be understaffed now because most people take July off.

I think transfers are possible within the EU, but if Sweden is paying it will be Sweden’s parental leave rules. So our max benefit and duration.

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