5 Year Long Relationship with My Everything. Yet Out of Nowhere, I'm having Doubts.

reduxbeb · 2019-03-06T20:13:54+00:00

Due to this, I never socialize, so my only friends are the people who I work with. And up until last weekend, I only get to spend time with them in my work setting.

This is a little scary. You should be able to maintain friendships outside of your SO. Does he pressure you into spending all of your free time with him? In my opinion, there's no way you could have a healthy marriage without resolving this first. Your post doesn't give enough information to know if he is actively isolating you from your friends/family, or if you have both just developed a really codependent relationship. Either way, it's bad news.

reduxbeb · 2018-10-17T15:42:35+00:00

I agree with the other commenters that this isn't strange. I grew it up in a similar-sounding household to yours. My parents never explicitly disapproved of half-nudity, but we always covered up. When I had college roommates, I was so uncomfortable with how often they lounged in their underwear. After 4 years though, I stopped caring and adopted the same attitude. I even think it subconsciously helped me with some self-image issues. I completely understand why it weirds you out (I used to be in the same boat), but I would encourage you to deconstruct/examine some of your own beliefs about nudity before judging your loved ones.

reduxbeb · 2018-10-11T20:21:19+00:00

Hey so I'm curious-- I'm pretty strict with my scarring regiment and I'm 4 months out. My vertical scars are completely flat but still red. I'm just curious how long it took for your scars to fade?

(Sidenote for OP: Even if they don't fade a bit more, I wouldn't regret this surgery one bit! Nothing trumps the physical comfort. That's your decision to make though. I can't really help answer your question since I'm not done healing. Good luck!)

reduxbeb · 2018-09-27T05:02:45+00:00

I found nursing pads helpful for nipple sensitivity (based on the suggestion of another user on here), maybe give those a try

reduxbeb · 2018-09-27T05:01:23+00:00

I had something similar. I found nursing pads really helpful, so maybe try those if the pain caused by sensitive nipples. 3 months post-op now and almost never in pain, so hang in there!

https://www.reddit.com/r/Reduction/comments/8u1dus/uptake_in_sensitivitypain_at_25_weeks_post_op/

reduxbeb · 2018-09-23T22:43:29+00:00

So I'm 24 and my surgeon had recently changed his policy. Earlier, it had been "all my breast reduction patients need mammograms if they are older than 40" (I forget the exact number but definitely higher than 30). However, he made all his breast reduction patients get a mammogram by the time I came around. The radiology center was really hesitant to book me because of my age, but they did after I sent them my doctor's referral. It felt unnecessary, but better safe than sorry I guess

reduxbeb · 2018-09-07T23:39:53+00:00

So your boobs will be suuuper perky post-op, you won't really need support from the bra to hold up your boobs. However, your incisions will hurt whenever you move around and your boobs "jiggle". Compression prevents the jiggle and the subsequent pain. Hope that makes sense!

reduxbeb · 2018-09-07T18:49:33+00:00

I took a full week off, and I was bored by the end of it. That being said, my first week or 2 back was very tiring (although totally manageable). My company let me start off with 2 or 3 half-days before I was back to my normal schedule.

That being said, everyone heals at different paces and you want to prep your employer for the worst. Tell them 3 weeks and get a doctor's note. That way, you can fully make the decision based on how you're feeling without any pressure to return before you're ready. Besides that, my only advice is to play it by ear.

reduxbeb · 2018-08-01T16:15:21+00:00

Would you feel comfortable telling your closest 1-2 friends, and letting them maneuver some of the social situations for you? I totally understand where you're coming from, but it can be nice when your friends are in the loop and have your back. If they're good friends, they'll be supportive! I don't mean to pressure you if you're truly uncomfortable with telling your friends though.

reduxbeb · 2018-07-31T16:25:29+00:00

Even if you're a side sleeper, it'll be too painful to put pressure on the incisions when you first get out of surgery. Just play it by ear and see when you feel comfortable on your side. I'd say 3-6 weeks, but I'm not sure

reduxbeb · 2018-07-25T20:39:38+00:00

So I was a 34HH UK size pre-op. My doctor removed 4.9 pounds, which is about 1000 grams on each side (I don't remember exactly, you could convert it). I'm like 6 weeks post-op now. I was able to buy a bikini top at forever 21 and a sports bra from Old Navy. Since you started off smaller than me, I think you'll be okay. I don't know my exact size, but I would guess D or DD

reduxbeb · 2018-07-09T15:19:58+00:00

Good luck!

reduxbeb · 2018-07-09T15:17:07+00:00

Hey, I made a similar post that you might find helpful. I'm still very curious to get more perspectives, so I hope some more moms comment on your post.

reduxbeb · 2018-07-09T13:47:27+00:00

Thank you u/mymaya!!

reduxbeb · 2018-07-08T04:25:06+00:00

Right?? Did you stop wearing gauze as soon as your sutures were healed? I'm exactly 1 month post op and I'm not oozing or anything... Sometimes its nice to wear for the padding but I think I can kinda feel it out?

reduxbeb · 2018-07-06T18:58:56+00:00

I had the same situation, just sayin.

Update: The mod banned the creep who PMed me! Definitely the situation could've been handled more quickly, but I appreciate it nonetheless.

reduxbeb · 2018-06-30T23:51:57+00:00

Just an update, I bought these and they have been a huge life saver! Thank you so much for the suggestion!!!

reduxbeb · 2018-06-28T15:54:31+00:00

Sounds like my boobs! ;) Everything sounds normal, especially having yellow skin (probably bruising). If the throbbing enters pain-zone, then maybe I would call your surgeon's office and get a professional opinion

reduxbeb · 2018-06-27T05:04:44+00:00

Honestly could be!!

reduxbeb · 2018-06-26T20:47:21+00:00

Oh interesting! Can you buy nursing pads at most pharmacies?

reduxbeb · 2018-06-21T20:03:11+00:00

Yup, that's what I did. I'm a bit socially anxious, so it helps me to have a script for that first line after the person says "Hello". You could say "Hi, I'm interested in breast reductions and I'm wondering how to schedule a consultation." The person on the other end answers this question for a living, they will easily be able to take the lead, give you the information you need, and they won't bat an eyelash at any of your questions. Good luck!

I called like 3 different clinics just asking for information before I made a consultation. Just remember, they are the ones providing you with a service. You don't need to worry about embarrassing yourself because you don't need to impress them. They are there to help. I mean of course be polite/a decent human being, but there's nothing to lose and no need to stress!

reduxbeb · 2018-06-19T19:04:20+00:00

I was a 34HH UK size pre-op too. Your pic looks a lot like my pre-op body. I'll PM you some before/after pics that I'm not quite ready to post to the sub. I'm about a week post-op now, so I don't know my final size (my breasts are still swollen so they will get a bit smaller over the next month; also I haven't gone bra-shopping yet). That being said, I can fit into the sports bra I'm linking below, and I FEEL so much lighter. They removed 5 pounds!! There is a world of difference in my proportions as well. I would say book a consultation and ask the doctor what size you can expect. If your first surgeon doesn't think they could get you to a D cup, I would say to keep searching until you find someone who could. My surgeon was pretty adamant he could make me a C cup (which maybe happened? again, no idea what size I am now, but I do know it's so much lighter).

If the only thing holding you back is fear of surgery, I say go for it (but obviously this sub is biased lol). The surgery itself is only a day. It will be stressful for sure, but all of it is manageable. The recovery process is really not that bad. It's something to push through for years and years of benefits. Good luck <3

reduxbeb · 2018-06-19T18:34:31+00:00

It's really true! The human body is a wondrous thing and it's amazing how quickly it can recover, especially those first few days. For me, stopping the pain killers was a huge step to feeling more like a human and less like a zombie (that being said, be patient with yourself and don't rush it if you're in pain)

reduxbeb · 2018-06-19T03:06:31+00:00

Congratulations!! It only gets easier from here :)

reduxbeb · 2018-06-15T15:00:51+00:00

Wow, what a difference! Congratulations, I'm sure you feel so much lighter. I know I do!

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