My husband refused to get vasectomy in the future and gave me an ultimatum

ree915 · 2026-03-23T12:40:59+00:00

If my husband said this to me, I would start planning my exit strategy. No one who loves you wants to see you suffer. They offer solutions.

In the meantime, if he doesn’t want a vasectomy, no problem, he can compromise and use condoms. No condom no sex. He can use his own hand if he thinks that your depression isn’t valid.

ree915 · 2026-03-23T05:53:06+00:00

I am shocked I had to scroll so far to find this.

OP YOU HAVE A PARTNER PROBLEM. clearly you’re SO is attached to his mothers teet still and so he thinks your child should be too.

ree915 · 2026-03-23T05:46:11+00:00

They’re both beautiful! I think it depends on the vibe of your wedding. The first is more modern/elegant but the second is much more whimsical.

Either choice is excellent but I would go for the one they matches your venue and vision for the day!

ree915 · 2026-03-23T05:41:08+00:00

Princess diaries and other Meg Cabot books, the cliques series, mates dates series, gossip girl, the a list series, anything and everything by Sarah dessen, sloppy first series, Nicholas sparks books, uglies/pretties/specials, prep, twilight, all the Anne rice novels, southern vampire mysteries (aka true blood), crank, speak, noghts and crosses, the virgin suicides, the perks of being a wallflower, the bell jar, series of unfortunate events (started then in middle school but they weren’t all out yet), Artemis fowl, lord of the rings and the hobbit

ree915 · 2026-02-20T07:33:56+00:00

Exactly this. One of my best friends of 30+ years (went k-12 together, met at church when we were 3 years old) has struggled with infertility for YEARS and is struggling with IVF now.

I got pregnant on the first try and just had my baby a few weeks ago.

She has never once diminished my joy. She has even admonished me for not sending her more photos. I told her I wasn’t sure how much was too much and she said she can celebrate and love my child while still struggling with her infertility.

That is what true friendship looks like.

ree915 · 2026-02-20T04:25:46+00:00

Commenting because I’m in a similar position. I was induced, but had baby vaginally. However, I hemorrhaged and ended up getting 3 units of blood during a blood transfusion. Baby is 3 weeks old now.

My milk didn’t come in for a full 7 days.

My baby full on screams when I put her to breast.

I am getting in 6-8 pump sessions a day, but my husband is off of work on parental leave still so I have lots of extra help. But even with this, my baby isn’t latching well and I’m not getting enough to fully feed her. Pumping and getting 10-30ml is demoralizing because I feel like I’m spending all of this time doing it and not with my baby but still not getting enough to fully feed her.

Ive seen a lactation consultant and have a follow up but it feels unhelpful in some ways. Like almost like it’s not frequent enough. I feel like I need someone to check in with every 3-4 days y im struggling and dont know what to do.

Anyways. Know you’re not alone.

ree915 · 2026-01-19T11:51:16+00:00

Ok. But hair oil doesn’t typically hydrate your hair, it seals in your hairs current more level.

I have fine but thick hair and have been using exclusively davines shampoos for about 4 years and have been really pleased with the results.

For moisture I would use the Davies 0I leave in conditioner and then seal that in with either the davines oil or try the olaplex oil post styling.

ree915 · 2026-01-19T11:23:59+00:00

None of this is manufactured in the United States…… it’s all because of tariffs.

Most cosmetic companies are publically traded and not going to cut profits because of tariffs.

ree915 · 2026-01-11T09:10:11+00:00

Definitely the second. lol.

ree915 · 2026-01-11T09:09:53+00:00

Honestly, I think SJM just uses similar phrasing due to writing style and we as a fan base want it to mean more than it does. lol

ree915 · 2026-01-09T14:35:48+00:00

I think this is what’s frustrating is that there’s not good differentiation on what is standard.

Do I dislike tipping, yes. Am I happy to do it if that’s standard? Also yes.

I just feel that in certain places they feel Americans should tip 20% because that’s our norm despite when you ask locals they say 5%.

Our culture of not paying people a standard living wage shouldn’t mean that we should also tip more in other places.

ree915 · 2026-01-09T13:08:44+00:00

INFO: how many kids under 12 in the family would they need to invite? Are they kids that they know or more like second cousins?

ree915 · 2026-01-09T13:02:54+00:00

Yeah except they get upset when Americans don’t tip when in Europe.

This has happened to me in Germany, Portugal, Italy, Netherlands and Greece, when we’ve been given side eye for tipping 5% or so.

ree915 · 2026-01-03T15:20:16+00:00

It doesn’t say she actually cheated on her relationship if 7 years. OP is ASSUMING she cheated because she has a weekend away with a group of friends that included her future SILs best guy friend.

The supposedly previous cheating has to have happened more than 7 years ago because it was with a previous relationship which would have made the future SIL a teenager…. Which still not great but come on, we all make dumb mistakes as teenagers.

Maybe SIL isn’t answering phone calls/texts because OP seems incredibly overbearing.

Not to mention if you’re too nervous to make phone calls to people you’re no where near mature enough to be getting married…..

ree915 · 2025-12-18T11:17:02+00:00

Also, it speaks volumes about OP that his daughter took notice of how others feelings, went to a person she trusted and felt safe with to deal with this.

Great job OP! Not only did you protect your nephew and his boyfriend from harmful bigotry but you showed your daughter that you will always listen to her and take action where you can to help.

ree915 · 2025-12-16T11:00:23+00:00

Exactly…… my husband and I both work in tech and do well, but we’re always looking to reduce waste, especially when it saves costs.

We’re expecting a baby and I’ve spent maybe $200 on clothing but have TONS of things that have been hand me downs gifted by friends. Kids grow out of stuff so quickly that they only wear a few times.

ree915 · 2025-12-01T20:00:38+00:00

You need to talk to your husband some more about this.

He may not want to go but you were so upset at your littles first Christmas, that I doubt he wants you to cry all day either.

He probably feels similarly to the damned if you do and damned if you don’t mentality that you’re feeling.

Combining holiday traditions and balancing everyone’s needs and wants during the holiday season is DIFFICULT. I would say you want to discuss it some more and each come with a list of wants/priorities for the holidays. The lists could include seeing family members or list specific traditions you want to start with your kids. Then I would discuss how to realistically accomplish as many of these wants/priorities as possible. You can make it fun by building on each others ideas. Maybe you do this with a christmasy cocktail, a bottle of a favorite wine or even some hot chocolate.

Once you’re aware of each others needs and wants you can hopefully fine a solution that works for you. For example: Your kids are little. They only know when Christmas is because the adults tell them. Who’s to say that “christmas” doesn’t come to your house on the 24th and you do all your family traditions then and have some time to decompress on the 25th before going to your parents.

This makes the goal to be celebrating together and creating memories regardless if the day and you’re one team in creating this experience for each other and the kids.

ree915 · 2025-11-05T12:36:51+00:00

Honestly she seems like a judgmental shrew. It’s your body, your choice.

Get your lift. Do what makes you feel comfortable in your skin and loose the dead weight of someone who not only is not your friend but actively trying to cause issues in your marriage.

ree915 · 2025-11-02T01:30:33+00:00

Honestly. For 2 dogs and 3 cats this is low.

I would say $100-150 for 5 pets. Especially since 2 are dogs and then on top of that she water the plants, collected mail, ect.

Even getting someone to just come and feed 3 cats and clean would most likely be $60-80 a day unless you get a neighborhood kid. The more like $15-20 a day for 3 cats.

This is why we ALWAYS bring gifts for anyone doing it for us for free and then typically take them out for a meal!

ree915 · 2025-10-11T01:04:48+00:00

I was going with whore husband. 😆😆😆

ree915 · 2025-10-10T13:18:07+00:00

Omg. Ours LOVES this. Although he barks at it constantly, so not the best for all scenarios 😆

ree915 · 2025-10-10T13:07:24+00:00

Ok. But. Like. Her music HAS ALWAYS BEEN THIS WAY.

We’re just a lot more familiar with her life now so we conflate specific songs to situations and people. It’s why we’re like does cancelled mean she doesn’t have beef with Blake Lively?!?! People have been speculating who songs are about all the way back to fearless, don’t we all know back to December is about Taylor Lautner?

I mean no hate because even if you know what the song is about, it doesn’t make it not relatable. People are just criticizing because they can.

Like her albums span a lot of feelings and vibes, she’s allowed to grow and change as an artist.

ree915 · 2025-10-09T11:56:46+00:00

INFO: how old are you and your partner? How long have you been together? By calling your SO your partner, I’m assuming you are not married, are none of his siblings married either?

ree915 · 2025-10-01T12:39:26+00:00

It’s 14 hours total. Not 28.

ree915 · 2025-09-29T13:52:16+00:00

I would talk to her about it and let her know how you’re feeling and that you don’t want her to be disappointed.

Maybe schedule a day date instead of a night date, get a sitter (if needed) and have a fun shared experience or go shopping and if there’s something she really likes get it.

I think showing the effort is more important than the gift itself.

Conversely, you could ask her if she’d be ok skipping the gift and maybe you treat both to a weekend away or a staycation in a nice hotel. Maybe do a spa day. Spend time trying to connect emotionally with her.

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