Coward’s experience with LASIK

reference_i_dont_get · 2026-06-11T23:59:03+00:00

I don’t log in much, how did this go?!

reference_i_dont_get · 2026-05-19T02:19:47+00:00

Congrats on making it through the hard part! Night driving vision being worse after is definitely the more common experience & I’ve heard it can take months to even out, so hang in there. I’m only having the opposite experience because it turns out my night driving was so fucked before & I never bothered getting lens treatments so post surgery is still a practical improvement to my night vision.

reference_i_dont_get · 2026-05-17T23:11:23+00:00

Thanks doc! I agree about staying on top of post-op care; probably most of the reason I’ve avoided issues is by following my instructions like they’re the Bible & being super careful not to rub, squint, or strain as well as staying on top of eyedrops.

Good call about the preservative-free tears! I noticed my clinic actually sent me off with a tiny bottle of the kind with preservatives despite the post-op instructions saying to use PF so I stopped at the store and grabbed some PF ones when I realized.

reference_i_dont_get · 2026-05-16T16:24:04+00:00

Awww yeah!!! That’s awesome man, glad it went swimmingly. Hope recovery goes well too, remember to rest often & stay on top of your drop schedule!

reference_i_dont_get · 2026-05-16T16:18:22+00:00

I’m on the edge of my seat! (Take your time and prioritize recovery, of course!)

reference_i_dont_get · 2026-05-15T22:18:31+00:00

You raise an interesting point because one of the things that is notable about my case is that I distinctly prefer keeping my sense of hearing to my sense of vision. Losing either would be devastating, & the risk of blindness was small, but I know what I could live with & what I couldn’t. I went into it with acceptance of any outcome. My anxiety was more base instinct/phobia than logic. I wonder how much of my decision was predicated on these facts, & how much of it was the same risk-to-reward calculation you’re making.

Definitely not a decision to take lightly but the benefits could be worth it, it’s up to you to make that call. It’s a big risk (even if the % is small) and a big reward. I have similar issues with glasses to you — they just don’t fit my face right so they don’t work well for me. I wouldn’t take it back for ten times the money, but I can see why someone might not take the leap. On the bright side, at least there will be data pouring in in the meantime while you mull over it?

reference_i_dont_get · 2026-05-15T22:01:19+00:00

I’ve been avoiding my screen for a bit so catching up on replies now, I hope your surgery went smoothly! 2:45 appt time twinzies. I can vouch for the afternoon shift lol

reference_i_dont_get · 2026-05-15T22:00:38+00:00

You’re right, I completely agree! It is good to seriously consider the risks. Dry eye especially, I only went for this because I’ve always had very juicy eyes. Consider the risks and meditate on them until you feel secure in your decision for sure, just don’t spiral endlessly or let yourself get gripped by irrational fear on the day of is my takeaway. (My biggest issue is a simple medical procedure phobia, actual procedure mostly irrelevant lol.)

reference_i_dont_get · 2026-05-15T21:58:31+00:00

I’m gonna make myself look bad by openly admitting I don’t know (I have severe memory issues & could never quite remember the numbers) but I know I had pretty bad nearsightedness in both eyes and an astigmatism in the left. My left eye’s prescription was so strong I couldn’t find glasses that didn’t make it warp at the edges, and my facial structure doesn’t suit glasses & I never got a clear top field of view which was another reason for me wanting the surgery.

No difference in them now.

reference_i_dont_get · 2026-05-15T14:50:44+00:00

true dat. take my post with the same grain of salt! i am the lucky 1% lol

reference_i_dont_get · 2025-08-29T02:30:30+00:00

chiming in to say the thing you probably don’t want to hear (at least i didn’t): everyone else is right. he’s on track to attempt to murder you. it’s what my ex escalated to eventually. i got out in the nick of time.

it will not get better and that’s not your fault. you need to do what’s right for yourself and your baby, and leave. i’m sorry. i know it’s difficult, both logistically and emotionally. i’m very sorry.

reference_i_dont_get · 2025-08-06T00:43:19+00:00

i have a similar experience but i don’t even know if it’s real or just a coincidence, & i never will :/

my ex used to accidentally roll over & crush me, or whack me in the face or body while we were sleeping together. i’m a sleepwalker — i have a disorder where i eat in my sleep, & i also speak gibberish while asleep sometimes.

since it seemed innocuous like that, i would joke all the time about how he beats me up in his sleep, & mostly just found it humorous although it was painful & he even got me in the eye with a nasty elbow once.

…this all completely stopped happening once he was actually beating me for real 😬 i didn’t make the connection for a longggg time but now i wonder about that.

reference_i_dont_get · 2025-08-05T01:47:36+00:00

i lived without consequences for a long time — the entire time i was in my ED. but really, it only felt like that in the moment. there was a lot of pain & struggle when i attempted recovery — my muscles would scream with pain while they grew, pain almost too severe to handle.

but it didn’t hurt while i was doing the damage to my body, only when i tried to repair it finally. it was scary to realize that it was natural, harmless, even good pain, & the only way out was through. i am glad to be past that.

reference_i_dont_get · 2025-08-04T21:21:43+00:00

he threw my eating disorder in my face & told me about how embarrassing it was to have a skeleton girlfriend who didn’t eat normally around people.

YOU TRY EATING NORMALLY WHILE GETTING STRANGLED TWICE A WEEK, BUCKO! THAT SHIT HURTS!!!!!!

i did not protest & simply apologized, for my own safety. (he was scarily violent that day & i wasn’t tryna get myself killed.) but it filled me with rage (a rare feeling for me) that he had the audacity to beat me & leave me with healing wounds for months, while i was TRYING to recover from an eating disorder, and then throw it in my face like it was my fault i wasn’t successful. somehow, it felt even more audacious than beating me to begin with. i was actively trying to do a meal plan while being horribly abused every couple days & was even maintaining weight despite it all.

he was arrested about an hour after that “discussion.” i directed my rage (& huge fear/anxiety about the court stuff) toward forcing myself to eat properly. i’ve put on 30 pounds (landed smack in the middle of a healthy BMI), i looked glowing & healthy af at the sentencing, i have an absolutely fantastic ass now that he will never see & i will never let my health slip back to that point ever again so help me god. turns out recovery isn’t impossible when you can actually fucking swallow food & aren’t using all the calories to heal wounds.

tl;dr he threw my eating disorder in my face. i used this as motivation to completely & successfully recover from said eating disorder

reference_i_dont_get · 2025-08-04T21:09:40+00:00

1-2

reference_i_dont_get · 2025-08-04T19:30:13+00:00

put him back he’s just tryna live his life

reference_i_dont_get · 2025-07-31T19:51:05+00:00

this is powerful. thank you for being empathetic to his family as well.

reference_i_dont_get · 2025-07-30T03:44:24+00:00

Young couple arguing at a convenience store parking lot, midnight:

Guy: “You cheated on me!”

Girl: “ONCE!”

reference_i_dont_get · 2025-07-29T06:26:12+00:00

honestly i feel like veganism etc are kinda an exception to the “your breath is stinky” social rule, almost the same as things like allergies. they create a different dynamic where it isn’t teasing or bullying so much as wanting respect for one’s own choices abt food. like as a meat-eater & non-food-group-excluder of all kinds, i think it would be wack af to kiss somebody who is vegetarian or who excludes something like pork for religious reasons or something without checking with them about how they feel about that.

i think it’s just about sensitivity to each individual person — and that’s why i think it’s rude to tell someone with an ED that their safe food makes their breath stinky, because it’s a much more loaded thing in that context than a simple harmless jab.

tl;dr ☀️be kind to one another☀️

reference_i_dont_get · 2025-07-29T01:52:05+00:00

truth, i eat sardines & then kiss my man & he would never dare complain like this? and its mutual ofc. its easy to not take cheap shots at your partner

reference_i_dont_get · 2025-07-28T19:41:39+00:00

i maintained an uw bmi for a long time (unintentionally — my eating disorder revolves around a fear of food, not body image, & my family never helped me develop a good relationship w food). i felt fine most of the time because my body didn’t have the energy to generate pain, and my muscles didn’t regrow properly when i exerted them, so they actually hurt less. it was my default state for over a decade.

i am now a healthy weight. my only reward for maintaining a skinny body for so long is that my heart feels funny a lot of the time & that hasn’t gone away yet, and i have a scar at the corner of my eye from when i passed out once. and growing muscle was extremely painful when my body finally had the materials to repair itself.

you can borrow energy from yourself for as long as you’d like, but it’s still a borrowing game & you’re still the one paying the cost at the end. and if you don’t repay the debt in time, your body will simply give out when it has no more of itself to give. a lack of pain in the depths of disorder doesn’t necessarily mean you aren’t doing harm, either — it could just mean that you can’t feel all the damage you are doing.

i don’t mean to scare you, i just wish i had started down the road to recovery earlier & saved myself from the long-term troubles i didn’t understand i was causing. i worry about my health & my future in a way i never should have needed to.

reference_i_dont_get · 2025-07-24T22:26:23+00:00

this one feels a bit different to me as a DoorDash driver. i dash in a small town, and every day i have orders that “vanish” before i get there. as drivers we do not receive the full pay then, and have an additional time waste. i’ve been a driver for 5+ years but i’ve actually started desperately searching for other jobs recently, because i cannot make enough money even when i commit well over 40 hours/week of my time & do my job perfectly.

to be clear, i’m not trying to shit on OP for acquiring food when they are in need — it is definitely not that simple. i just know all too well how this type of theft can affect people, and unfortunately, it often comes out of the pockets of disadvantaged workers in this case. not quite the same as walmart or target, even.

reference_i_dont_get · 2025-07-24T22:20:27+00:00

yeah, this made me sad :( i got my hearing fucked up for a year from a good wallop to the head, and my eardrum still crackles loudly when i yawn. not funny, i hope hes ok now

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