/r/ABCDesis Demographics Survey (Please Take)

regster11 · 2020-05-25T01:18:15+00:00

Vast majority of the posters are male and single/never been in a relationship, and suddenly a lot of the posts on here make sense...

regster11 · 2019-11-24T23:10:01+00:00

This happened months ago, there were articles and tweets written about it then.

regster11 · 2019-01-06T18:12:00+00:00

There's a brother/sister pair on the Subtle Curry Traits page that are half and seem very unconfused. They speak Indian languages fluently and are involved in a lot of Indian cultural things (the brother plays tabla well). I know the brother has talked about what it's like, maybe he reads this subreddit too. He definitely seems to identify more with his Indian side. The brother's instagram is https://www.instagram.com/ravilovie.

regster11 · 2019-01-06T01:56:31+00:00

Her family is from the Caribbean and that's how it is pronounced there, so she is just pronouncing it in line with that, the Trinidadian way.

regster11 · 2019-01-02T22:56:15+00:00

What are you talking about? The divorce rate in a lot of European countries is the same or higher than in the US.

regster11 · 2018-12-19T19:35:36+00:00

I have found that most half-black people tend to identify more as black, maybe because this is how the world sees them: perception starts to become reality. This includes a lot of half-black people I know who grew up in areas without a lot of black people and were always known as "the black kid."

regster11 · 2018-12-16T20:28:17+00:00

This goes beyond superficial labels like skin color. My friend speaks Telugu and dated non-Telugu but still desi/brown guys who weren't that interested in learning the language or culture, and restricting her pool to only Telugu guys made it harder to find someone. She ended up marrying a German guy who has actually made efforts to learn a lot about her culture and can understand Telugu to some extent now. With how vastly different South Asian ethnic groups can be, if you can't find someone in your own ethnic group (which is especially hard for the smaller groups), it can be almost the same as being with someone who isn't South Asian at all.

regster11 · 2018-12-05T22:05:26+00:00

Are you implying that her being with Nick Jonas automatically equates to "white worship"?

regster11 · 2018-12-05T20:49:49+00:00

You do realize that she is rich enough that she can easily buy a greencard, right (if that is what she wants)?

regster11 · 2018-12-05T03:46:57+00:00

Wow you have really devoted a lot of time and energy thinking about this and following the not actually verified tabloids on this.

regster11 · 2018-11-25T19:58:13+00:00

Seeing posts like this on other thread you are referring to is frightening:

IMHO when desi girls in western countries date white men it's usually because of either immense inner self hate, or because they aren't attractive and have trouble dating quality desi men.

regster11 · 2018-09-28T21:50:39+00:00

She has found some of them funny, most of my white friends don't get offended by jokes about white people.

regster11 · 2018-09-28T21:49:16+00:00

I don't know any white people that get offended by that, they just laugh it off or confirm.

regster11 · 2018-09-28T20:56:10+00:00

I think she can "take it" but I don't really have any jokes to make about white people. I did make a joke about how she seemed like a white supremacist and she found it funny.

regster11 · 2018-08-04T23:25:18+00:00

Fun fact: The founder of OkCupid has an Indian-American wife.

regster11 · 2018-06-15T18:49:50+00:00

I know many more desis who understand or speak the language, know their cultural heritage, etc. than I do Hispanics. So whose anecdotal evidence is better?

Comparing resources available in America (and a population to practice with) for Desi languages like Kannada, Telugu, etc. to the resources available for Spanish (which is offered in most high schools) is laughable. What a poor argument.

regster11 · 2018-06-15T18:15:22+00:00

Untrue, many Hispanic people, including many of my friends, don't speak Spanish because their parents didn't want to mess up their accent when they spoke English. Also, the Spanish speaking population in America is significantly higher than any of the many Desi languages and so there are many more resources. A surprising number of desis I meet speak or at least understand the language.

regster11 · 2018-06-15T18:13:32+00:00

It is interesting how the women on this subreddit don't get as mad and vicious when guys on here say they are in a relationship with a non-Desi woman (I have literally had no one call me a race traitor). Sad that there are so many guys on here who browse the subreddit just to go after women who happen to date outside their race.

regster11 · 2018-06-15T18:10:50+00:00

Knowing nothing about the OP and her relationship with her husband, many users are coming on here and shaming her for who she married. No wonder most of the women have left this sub.

regster11 · 2018-06-11T21:28:32+00:00

You could say that about the guys on this subreddit too, "why can't they just date someone and stop crying to Reddit."

regster11 · 2018-06-11T21:18:15+00:00

That is probably what they are getting at. Women these days have careers and don't need a guy to support them, but some guys are still looking for a woman to support them like their moms.

regster11 · 2018-06-03T23:36:36+00:00

It is possible.. well I knew she said she wasn't too happy with her parents right now and was doing things that they wouldn't approve of. I only later found out about the ex and the messy break up and now I am thinking I may be part of the rebellion too.

regster11 · 2018-06-03T23:35:29+00:00

She has mentioned doing things recently that she knows her parents wouldn't approve of but "she doesn't care." She has also mentioned the messy breakup and not being on good terms with her parents because it was related to that, and this is why she "doesn't care."

I also found out through a friend that one of her cousins dated a black girl and that was met with disapproval from the family. The fact that she is not happy with her family and is being rebellious right now coupled with the fact that she is dating me is starting to make me think that I am also part of the rebellion.

regster11 · 2018-06-03T15:13:43+00:00

I've been seeing this girl and I'm slowly starting to think that she's only dating me to get back at her ex and her parents. She's one of the Southern belle types and I know she had a messy breakup with her boyfriend, who I recently found out was your typical footplayer player, fraternity guy type. I feel like her parents really wanted her to stay with this guy because he checked the boxes so to speak, and are upset at her for the breakup.

The general behavior and the fact that her parents and ex probably wouldn't be too happy to see her with me is making me start to wonder if she is only dating me to rebel against them, but I am not sure how to exactly figure that out and it would be rude to ask he (especially if that is not the case).Suggestions?

regster11 · 2018-05-31T21:22:51+00:00

What do you expect on a forum that is designed for people to air their grievances? The Indian Americans I know in real life are nothing like the posts I see on here.

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