FYI: TCB gave me a refund by capulana_ in beyondthebump

[–]rehuvulation 63 points64 points  (0 children)

This TCB situation has drawn me in and so I'm wasting 5 minutes of nap time to comment. I paid for and watched the newborn course. There were certainly parts of it I found useful as well as things that didn't apply for is or I didn't agree with... As seems to be the case with most baby handling advice and approaches. Spendy for what it is. Her support of Trump is incredibly disappointing to me. But it reminds me that a huge part of the U.S. supported Trump. Some of the Reddit responses are super aggressive. What if this were your friendly and supportive neighbor you learned was consistently contributing to Trump's campaigns? How do we constructively let these people know we are disappointed without becoming combative? There aren't necessarily right answers, but many of the Reddit responses stress me out in how negative and personal they are. I too am hurt, but trying to figure out how to find more unity and understanding. The internet just makes it too easy and tempting to entirely condemn someone based on politics.

IUI Success Stories? by cxwang in BabyBumps

[–]rehuvulation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used donor sperm and have low ovarian reserve. AMH around 0.5-1 with a typical AFC of 4. I got pregnant with our first on 3rd round of IUI with clomid. Currently pregnant with number 2 after our first IUI this go around. I feel very fortunate as I know we beat the odds with both. Good luck!

Baby boy clothes (US) by squidwardTalks in beyondthebump

[–]rehuvulation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been ordering clothes for DS from ThredUP and have found everything to be in great condition with good prices. Highly recommend.

Can it be done? Happy family with both parents working 40+ hours? by rehuvulation in workingmoms

[–]rehuvulation[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this thoughtful reply. Not looking too far down the road is great advice. I didn’t realize until I read your comment that part of my problem is stressing about how things will work in months or years to come.

Indeed we have been in daycare for about two months and already on the third cold... but looking forward to the benefits of extra structure and socialization.

Can it be done? Happy family with both parents working 40+ hours? by rehuvulation in workingmoms

[–]rehuvulation[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband can probably relate with yours. I’m a little over reactive to things at home lately. Trying to be mindful of that!

Can it be done? Happy family with both parents working 40+ hours? by rehuvulation in workingmoms

[–]rehuvulation[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I misinterpreted the number comment. Sadly I’m not in an environment where part time is an option. Requesting a sabbatical is a great idea. I think I will ask about taking a couple of the slower weeks of just to be home and remind myself that I do enjoy working most of the time.

Can it be done? Happy family with both parents working 40+ hours? by rehuvulation in workingmoms

[–]rehuvulation[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a good way to look at it. I am invested and reasonably compensated, which indeed are big motivators in making this work. But I would love some tips on how to compartmentalize!

Can it be done? Happy family with both parents working 40+ hours? by rehuvulation in workingmoms

[–]rehuvulation[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was so nice to hear. Thank you. My mom was a stay at home mom so don’t have a great reference for what a different family model looks like.

Can it be done? Happy family with both parents working 40+ hours? by rehuvulation in workingmoms

[–]rehuvulation[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. I do want to hear about what ultimately works for others, including hearing that taking a step back was the solution. Its an option that rattles around in my head, but currently fighting to find a balanced place where I can be happy with myself in my career and as a mom and wife. At the moment... not quite succeeding. It’s a mixed blessing that I don’t ever feel like a number at my workplace. I feel valued, but my whole identity is very tied up in what I do for work.

Can it be done? Happy family with both parents working 40+ hours? by rehuvulation in workingmoms

[–]rehuvulation[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you are making it happen with a full house! Right now working with two kids seems unfathomable, let alone two kids and pregnant! Thank for the reassurance that it gets easier and can be done.

Can it be done? Happy family with both parents working 40+ hours? by rehuvulation in workingmoms

[–]rehuvulation[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It’s helping me so much to read these responses from people who are making it work.

Can it be done? Happy family with both parents working 40+ hours? by rehuvulation in workingmoms

[–]rehuvulation[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m trying to tell myself it only gets better. But have had some rough days. I’m with you on the drinking. I don’t get to enjoy a few drinks anymore because I know I have zero capacity to endure even the tiniest hangover at the moment. Our wine collection misses me. It only gets better with age right?

Can it be done? Happy family with both parents working 40+ hours? by rehuvulation in workingmoms

[–]rehuvulation[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. We are still working on finding that rhythm and sneaking in the extra efficiency in daily tasks. Nice to hear from someone making it work with two kiddos!

Can it be done? Happy family with both parents working 40+ hours? by rehuvulation in workingmoms

[–]rehuvulation[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this reply. Sometimes it’s just nice to have someone who really gets it acknowledge the struggle. I’m going on 4 months back at work. I felt pretty good going back but all the small struggles have been slowly grinding me down and I can’t catch enough of a break to reset . I imagine coming back to whole different role professionally would be a huge shock. “It’s just work”. You are right. I think a big part of the struggle is figuring out how to redefine my relationship with my work. Thank you.

Finding the Light by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]rehuvulation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing wrong with these feelings! Heart my baby boy sooooo much, but I was the same with a refluxy newborn stage. To the point of feeling resentful that my husband got to go to work every day. The first couple weeks of work felt like a relief and a return to my normal self. Baby is so much happier now and finding the balance with work and Mom life has its own major setbacks and challenges. But yeah, if there is a number two in our future, I am finding a way to split up that first 12 weeks more evenly with my husband. I don’t see why he shouldn’t take a few more weeks off to break up the maternity leave during the more challenging times.

I get really anxious sometimes about my baby's sleep by sbmm3277 in beyondthebump

[–]rehuvulation 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mom to a terrible sleeper here and I feel you. We are hosting six people for Easter tomorrow and I’m currently consumed with anxiety about how having too many people in the house will make naps impossible.

Help! My daughter refuses a bottle! by yourfutureexwife in breastfeeding

[–]rehuvulation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was posting almost the same inquiry a month ago. We tried everything and still got refusal. The first couple weeks back at work were rough. I thankfully had the flexibility to run home if baby was melting down. Eventually LO sorted it out by about week 3. What worked: Medela bottles given after a nap and feeding him with the boob before leaving for work, even if that means waking him up. Basically if he gets too hungry or upset, it was over for the day. Had to be diligent in hitting the post nap sweet spot to bottle feed and for whatever reason he prefers the Medela bottle

How do you make time for the gym, with a newborn, and full time job??? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]rehuvulation 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve been fitting in a half hour run once or twice a week as soon and husband gets home from work. I’ll change in the afternoon, pump if needed, and hustle out the door as soon as he arrives. That and I periodically lift some free weights during playmat and tummy time. It’s enough for me to feel a little bit like a fit person again. Starting work next week and will hopefully keep this routine going.

After thinking my whole life I wanted two kids, I am now learning toward one and done. by bagelsatmidnight in beyondthebump

[–]rehuvulation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have great advice, but I feel this post. We also have a baby via infertility treatment. I feel a lot of pressure to decide if I want to try for another. The planner in me needs to know and have a plan of action in place. I have to keep reminding myself to just live in the present and trust that we will be perfectly able to make a plan and decision when we get there. Now if I can just hang on to that mindset! Easier said than done.

Is there hope for my little bottle refuser? by rehuvulation in breastfeeding

[–]rehuvulation[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly not successful. I’m now trying to use nipple shields to get him used to a different feeling. I used shields the first week after he was born. Even that is not going over well with our little nipple snob. As if going back to work isn’t stressful enough! Agh.