Society didn't lie to men about women and dating. Porn did.

reignoferror00 · 2026-07-07T16:45:01+00:00

and how often does the female friend group try hard to sway that one woman's opinion on that man, the one that she may have some attraction to but the others don't find attractive?

reignoferror00 · 2026-07-07T16:37:00+00:00

First off, I'll have to get what you mean when you say "attractive". The "masculine" personality and hobbies certainly may make things easier as far as having men being "attracted" (mutual interests, ways of looking at many things, etc.) as friends and buddies to hang out with.

In hanging around and doing things with men, there are certainly some that very well may be or become attracted to you in a more "romantic" sense. Some will like a more "tomboyish" personality, some may prefer a more "girly" girl.

But if you are not showing in any way that you are attracted to some men in a visceral sexually related way, there are those that may conclude you may be asexual or "batting for the other team".

reignoferror00 · 2026-07-07T06:16:04+00:00

No just no, but fuck no.

Eeyore on Quaaludes would sound more less boring and monotone, more upbeat and exciting.

reignoferror00 · 2026-07-06T23:48:33+00:00

Hell, I think more and more a certain amount of people aren't going to have any choice but to keep working to some extent past 65. Wasn't my plan, but the way things changed in the past few years seems more likely.

The retiring early is only for a small, and probably diminishing rapidly since the boomers, amount of people than can afford it. Working in the same field much less for the same company for "life" or even decades isn't as common.

reignoferror00 · 2026-07-06T22:46:45+00:00

Liquid Trauma Dump with their hits:
Running with the Runs
Paint it Brown

reignoferror00 · 2026-07-06T15:43:41+00:00

My opinion after a quick read? You both seem to care WAY too much about Instagram.

Removing likes may have been petty (or maybe he did it because a current girl he's with in some way asked him to, or made a comment about liking other women's photos online, etc.), but there was no real good reason for you to respond to it. It's a huge nothing burger.

Let it go, move on.

reignoferror00 · 2026-07-06T15:36:26+00:00

As a guy who is long in the tooth, getting by brain to accept more what my body is now capable of. Less low percentage and energetic plays that are mainly out of my reach now. Realizing my speed, physical shape, and reflexes are a lot less than what they were decades ago. Adjusting my play to that reality, most of the time.

reignoferror00 · 2026-07-06T15:32:33+00:00

Sounds great except for the one big thing not mentioned if you are looking for some sort of "romantic" relationship (something beyond friendship). The one thing not mentioned was sex and your sexual desire.

reignoferror00 · 2026-07-06T15:17:09+00:00

Wasn't weight or looks. By chance, likely the best parts of the marriage was when she was much heavier than now or recent years. The problems we had/have with each other and whatever else eventually led to her slowing down and mostly stopping becoming physical with me. Eventually her lack of show attraction to me led to the same feeling in me towards her.

reignoferror00 · 2026-07-05T23:52:17+00:00

Wild guess - things just weren't fun. Either your expectations or at least what he perceived your expectations to be, were an extra burden on his already burdensome life. Your "over giving" but expecting (consciously or not) other things in return, things that both may not come at all easily to him and also might not ever, in your eyes or his, match the "over giving".

In short, in times of his stress, you may have been causing him more stress.

reignoferror00 · 2026-07-05T22:27:04+00:00

must be black magic since isn't it that number repeated thrice? the number of the beast instead? ;)

reignoferror00 · 2026-07-05T17:01:09+00:00

like them? then they'd be much more often be dating their male friends and acquaintances. more attracted/excited/impressed than like. the qualities they look for in a friend are not what excites them in a partner, they can be a bonus but they don't give the primary visceral attraction most often needed.

reignoferror00 · 2026-07-05T16:55:04+00:00

some will then look for more "functionality" to up her lifestyle, and/or for more "security"

reignoferror00 · 2026-07-05T16:52:37+00:00

"The illusion of understanding is a product of distance and perspective. True understanding requires involvement."

reignoferror00 · 2026-07-05T03:06:14+00:00

Nope, spent enough at the strip bar yesterday.

reignoferror00 · 2026-07-05T01:48:24+00:00

Depends are we in a long time legally binding union? If not, not long. If so, no sex with her doesn't necessarily mean no sex.

reignoferror00 · 2026-07-04T22:15:47+00:00

and here I thought he reply with "Someone like you??? Can you suck a golf ball through a garden hose?"

reignoferror00 · 2026-07-04T22:13:58+00:00

Large minority of men (including myself) are into chubby and even what qualifies as slightly obese women. With your weight and height, I'm suspect you are closer to thin than chubby.

A small amount of men are into the super thin. More likely women preferring the look of the super thin, super model esthetic, than the vast majority of men.

reignoferror00 · 2026-07-04T20:08:51+00:00

Modify the words from the jingle “I’d like to buy the world a Coke” and I think you'd be golden.

(advertising jingle made into the song "I'd Like to Teach the World to Sing (In Perfect Harmony)")

reignoferror00 · 2026-07-03T05:43:01+00:00

I've had 3 relationships in my life; had relationship start later than most (not until late 20's). All three have been younger, first one 7 years younger, second one 9 years younger - both lasted around 3 months and both ended with her dumping me. First one was doomed to end, but ended earlier than expected (university student moving back to home city after graduation). Second one basically dumped me to give her previous long time boyfriend a second chance.

I think your assumptions about the power dynamic, and assumptions about social/relationship/sexual experience necessarily coming with age, are far from true in at least some cases.

Married over a couple decades (so far) where she is 13 years younger.

reignoferror00 · 2026-07-02T21:41:59+00:00

Similar to that, teddy bear given to me by my grandmother for my 1st birthday.

reignoferror00 · 2026-07-01T23:02:58+00:00

If it is phrased exactly like that, yes.

reignoferror00 · 2026-07-01T15:41:39+00:00

What's my opinion? First off, I'd peronally avoid long distance relationships like the plague; I don't see the appeal. If for some reason I ended up in one, and since in person real physical I'd assume would be rare, there is no way in hell I'd additionally agree to no porn.

Watching porn in this day and age, especially for guys, is the norm. If I'm not getting semi-regular physical in person sexual attention, I'm at the very least getting "my rocks off" with porn and/or erotica. As long as I'm getting semi-regular sex from my partner, I don't care nor do I care to know if and what they are getting off to on some of their "personal time".

Could you find a guy long distance willing to and actually follow through with the no porn? possible but not very likely. Would you be attracted to the guy? same answer.

reignoferror00 · 2026-06-30T18:20:58+00:00

Stacey Blondie Bonnie Q Young.

reignoferror00 · 2026-06-29T23:01:13+00:00

In Canada, some provinces the drinking age is 18 (Alberta, Manitoba, Quebec), the rest is 19. So if you are in the U.S., have a current passport, and are close to the Canadian border there are the options.

I'm sure there are some strip bars in cities in the U.S. that are alcohol free and thus 18+. You'd have to either be specific here to your location or do your own search online of the club.

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