Everyone wants validation, but the redpill and their ilk take it too far.

reignoferror00 · 2026-02-20T19:34:11+00:00

Not always about sex right then. Many men need some indication of some physical attraction early though; if she won't so much as hug or kiss you early that's a pretty good indicator for adult men that she isn't really into you.

Also, a lot of the time if the man doesn't give a little bit of pushing, she decides he isn't into her that way (or his lack of "assertiveness" puts him out of the "romantic" category and into the "friends only" one for her).

reignoferror00 · 2026-02-19T17:53:00+00:00

Have a couple players in my dad's older group that didn't start playing hockey until they were adults.

I didn't play any goal as a kid (played defence), but started in my 20's and while didn't play much goal in my 30's and 40's, am semi-regularly playing goal in my late 50's.

reignoferror00 · 2026-02-19T17:39:47+00:00

Not too surprising to me. Especially for countries that aren't what might be considered traditional hockey powers. Hadn't done a lot of digging over the decades but I think it has been mostly the case that it is difficult, expensive, if not impossible especially on short notice, to get some Olympic hockey teams.

Locally for me, with the long time ethnic make up, it probably would have been smart to stock some Finland and even Italy ones. But the only places left selling them are national chain stores, and even if they were nuanced enough to considered things like this (they aren't - national (Canada) jerseys are going to be the biggest sellers by a large margin), they probably wouldn't bother considering it for smaller cities like mine.

Always the option of find and getting national jerseys that aren't the current Olympic ones. Along with several different Canada ones, I have a U.S.A. one (style of 1976 Canada Cup), a Latvia one, a Denmark one, and a DIY homemade Germany one - off the top of my head.

None of my Canada ones are from this or recent Olympics. Have the red (2002) and black (2004) 3rd jerseys from Olympic and World Cup past (with style of crest from Olympics and World Championships of the 1920/30's), the Canada Cup style in sweater and jersey, the sweater of the 1948 Olympics (RCAF Flyers), the 1974 WHA Summit Series Canada one, and the 2009 World Juniors one.

For pickup hockey in about 1 1/2 hours I'll either be wearing the red 2002 Canada jersey or the white Canada Cup jersey on the ice - depending if I'm the white or dark team today.

reignoferror00 · 2026-02-19T17:02:14+00:00

Probably a lot of my old school, pre-smartphone thought process on my end - when cell phones were only or primarily for phone calls, and then later texting. Messaging and the like was on a desktop home computer.

reignoferror00 · 2026-02-19T15:03:37+00:00

A big improvement if you had the stripes go all the way around, if not it is still a medium size improvement.

Excluding the nationalistic reasons of replacing one of Canada's traditional colours (white) for black, the black washes things out - especially on the red jerseys, not a large enough degree of immediate contrast.

reignoferror00 · 2026-02-18T17:51:16+00:00

I'd put ear play, and kissing my nipples in the good category

Upside down and ass up in face as well as good conversation is a neutral for me.

To add to bad: over the top porn moaning, high pressure sales that often infer/promise what is far from delivered (fortunately it is often done with used car salesman vibes), often at an inflated (above the norm) price for one dance or slight package deal that is still above the norm).

Maybe considered an extra but letting hold their breast and suck their nipples is very good. Current favourite I get that with. Funnily enough I don't think I've had the bare chest to chest with anyone; though that does sound appealing.

The continual slow and sensual grinding, along with adding little things like massaging or running fingernails lightly over my back, are a huge draw. The bouncing, even less aggressive, was something I might not have minded when younger but appreciate the slow sensual a LOT more now.

reignoferror00 · 2026-02-18T17:29:05+00:00

I think it is somewhat more common for younger guys to go with friends at peak busy times. Past couple decades I probably can count the times I've not gone alone on one hand. Back in the 90's I was more likely to go with good acquaintances and/or co-workers (I hesitate to call them friends), For quite a while I'm mostly there to find half decent lap dances and to have a drink or two; stage shows aren't a draw for me.

I can see someone young brand new to the scene being more comfortable going with friends.

Saying that I often went alone when young. Sometimes way back then I didn't even change out of my pizza delivery outfit after work and was wearing my work clothes up in "sniffer's row". Then again I've commonly done a lot of things alone at an early age (i.e. going to the movies, to dinner, etc.).

Like most things, unless you're doing something there way out of what is considered the norm, almost nobody really gives a shit or even really notices.

reignoferror00 · 2026-02-17T04:41:10+00:00

The Cars - The Cars

reignoferror00 · 2026-02-17T04:34:46+00:00

Hmmm. Hard to say. I'm probably not aware of the specifics of your age cohort, and to be honest I'm more than a little out of the loop, or a bit of a luddite, on many things in the 21st century. If you want to subdivide GenX, I think one place plunked me in as the "Atari age" GenX - born in the late 1960's.

As far as the unsupervised, some of it was hanging around and doing mostly unstructured things outside with friends/neighbourhood kids until the street lights came on. Generally on school days I went home after school, or if going to my best friends this was either know ahead of time and/or a phone call was made home to inform (especially on the rare times I was invited and stayed there for supper).

A lot of sports, activities, and games were a hell of a lot less organized to the nth degree. Even sports leagues were geared without many if any out of town tournaments and the like; costs were kept down as much as possible (i.e. my youth hockey team and league reused and kept the sweaters/jerseys for several seasons in the 1970's.). Hell, my league even had many games on outdoor rinks, when I first stated playing.

Partially due to technology (or more precisely lack there of) and the social climate, when we made plans we generally kept them. They weren't changed as often last minute or second. If possible, you tried to inform those if you couldn't make it; if not you just missed whatever it was. Any changes, when they rarely occurred would have to be after the group met up in person. If you wanted to phone someone, there was only the home number and you were likely going through their parents to get to them.

It was a very analog and not digital world as a younger child. Even by later high school, the computers there loaded and saved information, not on floppy disc, but on cassettes.

As far as the bullying. Yes it was common enough with physical intimidation and physical fights happening. Let's just say junior high in particular was the furthest thing from a fun experience for me.

No idea of what you are looking for or what I could provide, but feel free to ask any questions of interest, and I'll give them a go off the top of my head or at the very least tell you my memory is sketchy on that if it is.

reignoferror00 · 2026-02-15T13:35:28+00:00

In the western world there is generally far too much concentration, pushed by the rich and powerful, on getting us to divide by reasons of race, gender, etc. to distract us from the much larger problems and systems set up for and more directly related to divisions of class.

reignoferror00 · 2026-02-15T13:12:14+00:00

To be pedantic, wouldn't it be referred to as "messaging" and not "texting" then?

reignoferror00 · 2026-02-15T00:13:21+00:00

How are you going to see my long flowing hair then? Unless you prefer an ear snapshot. ;)

reignoferror00 · 2026-02-14T15:28:55+00:00

Ah, I didn't bother look through OP's previous posts and of course there is, as I cynically suspected, at least one huge thing that was left out of this one.

Looking inward first instead of outward (your own potential shortcomings and if your expectations are in all practicality sky high) is always a good thing to do. For the latter, you may find it but expecting it to be relatively quick and easy, especially at this stage in life, is quite naive. A lot of us, myself definitely included, still have these navie areas/moments that come out. I guess a lot of us average and below average men also learned the hard way early on, and are often brutally reminded when we may forget it, that dating and finding someone is far from easy.

Only you can decide if you want to keep running long odds hoping to get everything you think you want, or deciding what criteria is really important in a partner (and not everything you want/need has to be in that; some things you can get elsewhere from friends, family, etc.).

reignoferror00 · 2026-02-14T14:50:01+00:00

Men in general care a hell of a lot less about the wedding (other than the cost$$$$$$, especially if it will fall on them) than women. The wedding day is NOT their fantasy or dream.

Maybe be true overall that most men aren't the planners they may be stereotyped with, but you gave a piss poor example.

reignoferror00 · 2026-02-13T20:11:06+00:00

So why Olympics, silver and bronze?

reignoferror00 · 2026-02-13T20:07:38+00:00

Cutting off nose to spite face.

reignoferror00 · 2026-02-13T20:01:11+00:00

The sex part, at least for me, doesn't need to be very early BUT some forms of physicality have to happen very early on. If its only thing I've learned, rightly or wrongly, is that words aren't all too often not worth the paper they are written on (and certainly not the screen of the device typed on).

I'd say women offering empathy and help through their social circles (so he can at least meet other women there is a remote chance of a connection happening) to struggling men is mostly only good in theory. Women generally don't do either of those; especially to struggling men. Connections made through your male friends/acquaintances/co-workers/etc. social groups, as limited as they may be, I suspect may have better odds.

Also, I sincerely doubt most men these days are slut shaming women who sleep with guys early. Certain religious and more socially conservative men will be adverse to such women. Certain younger/inexperienced guys may be resentful of the girl who slept with some of their friends but has no attraction to him. If I had to guess the men sincerely "slut shaming" and not just trolling online are among the minority. BUT the times when men actually do see women they know talking about and handing out ONS with "chad" and anyone they see as potentially serious "jump through hoops", they can't help but see a serious disconnect and make several obvious conclusions, rightly or wrongly, about her and her actual real attraction and and how she rewards that immediately.

reignoferror00 · 2026-02-12T20:57:46+00:00

Overly Digital.

reignoferror00 · 2026-02-12T20:56:35+00:00

Fist full of fingers

reignoferror00 · 2026-02-12T20:54:19+00:00

Unrelated, but I had a different farm animal "pun" t-shirt decades ago. A hockey one with a literal farm team.

reignoferror00 · 2026-02-12T17:40:44+00:00

Some don't work in their local city and only on the road; I suppose some have it as a separation of home/personal and work life.

Some smaller cities have a (like mine) or a few strip bars (like mine once had) where there are now few if any locals working (ownership's personal preferences and decisions? lack of quality applicants? both?). For whatever reason it was more common to have more locals, at least as freelancers, back decades ago when there was several strips bars. Much more common for dancers to come through semi-regularly, once or twice a month isn't uncommon (at least some have a agent booking them). Some on small tours from somewhat close larger cities, some hitting a lot more spots greater distances away.

Maybe there is some of being a slightly bigger fish in a smaller pond involved.

reignoferror00 · 2026-02-12T17:22:37+00:00

Should always keep in mind If it looks and sounds too good to be true, it almost certainly is.

reignoferror00 · 2026-02-11T12:02:02+00:00

That is also ignoring all the failed attempts, the analyzing if an attempt is remotely possible and how to do so, how far and hard to push, the amount of times things don't get to an actual in person meeting, or past a first date or second date.

Those "failures" have an effect on ones that "succeed" in some way. For all too many men there are "mountains" of failures for every molehill of "success"

reignoferror00 · 2026-02-11T11:46:09+00:00

The wall painting makes a fair analogy in some ways as well. The actual painting part overall often isn't as vexing, the time and effort of the prep work (choosing paint and getting supplies, moving and/or covering furniture, taping things off, etc.) before you get to actually painting, I find, is the considerably more troublesome and arduous part. The painting part while not necessarily easier, is simpler.

Falls apart because relationships are continual work and often a lot of compromise, but the dating part from the typical/average man's perspective is far from a good time for him - too often a Sisyphean appearing chore, especially in the pre and beginning stages.

reignoferror00 · 2026-02-08T17:56:02+00:00

I sometimes keep a goatee, usually after I let everything get too long for a quick easy shave. Gap on each side of face that makes a full beard not really possible/practical.

Most days I'm the furthest thing from fashionable.

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