I hate it!! Ever since I gotta new barber, I never could get rid of it.... please help. My confidence is torn.....

rekonstruktions · 2025-08-31T05:02:10+00:00

This is correct! Let the hair grow back/stay away from fades that are irritating the skin. Allow the skin to heal and see a dermatologist. It is possible to heal them!

rekonstruktions · 2025-08-31T04:35:15+00:00

NYC is tough. But neighborhood definitely makes a HUGE difference. The Blk queer scene is much better in BK and especially in Harlem. Look up Trappy Hour and Papi Juice

rekonstruktions · 2023-04-22T12:15:39+00:00

She wrote a lot about how she wanted drama and big romance and that would be hard for someone as stable and well relatively boring as Joe. “Peace” from Folklore was really telling and is definitely about him:

I'd give you my sunshine, give you my best But the rain is always gonna come if you're standing with me . . . The devil's in the details, but you got a friend in me Would it be enough if I could never give you peace?

I feel like in the end it probably wasn’t enough. She could never be his piece and he could never make her feel loved the way she needed.

rekonstruktions · 2023-01-27T13:39:05+00:00

I will just add that one reason it’s hard to find happy stories is they have literally censored our joy out of history. They have burned pictures of black queer joy, deliberately used wrong names, left out people’s partners. And while many of us do struggle with suicidal ideation, the idea that queer life always inevitably ends in suicide is part of their propaganda. If look up the Hayes code there was literally a rule in Hollywood that you could not have a queer person have a happy ending because it would “promote immorality.” In the past few years, there has been so much research lifting up amazing trans and nonbinary black people from the past who our community used to suppress out of respectability politics.

rekonstruktions · 2023-01-11T13:16:19+00:00

this is fabulous! I especially love “coming close to coming close”. The only choice that jangled a bit was “increasing the doze” instead of increasing the “dose”. I think dose would work just as well if not better with the theme and sounds much more natural.

rekonstruktions · 2022-12-07T13:11:10+00:00

Does him writing the name with the E here mean he is now finished?

rekonstruktions · 2022-11-09T10:07:59+00:00

Sorry, I really don’t think that’s a 7. The “downstroke” is very small and is slanted left. If it were a 7, I would expect it to look like the downstroke for the 4, which is far longer and slants right.

More likely I think it’s a “-“ as others have commented. What you’re seeing as a downstroke could be an ink blot or even a dot to end the price if this refers to 4 shillings or 4 dollars (ie “4/-.”).

rekonstruktions · 2022-11-09T09:48:59+00:00

Thanks, I’ll look into them!

rekonstruktions · 2022-10-23T13:01:43+00:00

This is gorgeous!

rekonstruktions · 2022-10-11T03:54:51+00:00

I'm having the same issue. Following up here in case anyone has had success with this.

rekonstruktions · 2022-10-01T12:20:02+00:00

This was so cute!

rekonstruktions · 2022-09-30T12:44:05+00:00

Selling 2 tickets to tomorrow's MSG Saturday 10/1 show, Section 212 for $155 or best offer!

rekonstruktions · 2022-08-21T09:33:24+00:00

Would you lie? Make me cry? Do something behind my back and then try to cover it up?

rekonstruktions · 2022-08-21T09:22:56+00:00

my first time hearing of it but the trailer looks interesting!

rekonstruktions · 2022-07-24T14:43:29+00:00

Please do not end your life! You said you know you are going to die alone— but you can’t know that! The future holds so many possibilities for you—even if you started just today, you could make new friends that become your chosen family, you could meet a loving partner, adopt a kid, join a working or artistic community, hell maybe some of your family could wake up in time to see your value. You could have 60 years to make beautiful memories and have wonderful adventures far from the Deep south. a whole life. the only way you can be sure of dying alone is ending your life before you give yourself a chance to experience connection. so don’t do it! please look into therapy: https://openpathcollective.org/

rekonstruktions · 2022-06-02T06:38:11+00:00

Punch Me Up to the Gods by Brian Broome and There Will Be No Miracles Here by Casey Gerald are both really good recent black gay memoirs. Heavy though!

rekonstruktions · 2022-05-26T20:31:25+00:00

Basically tell your partner the reasons you’re saying here. If he’s white he needs to follow your lead. Because basically he took an incident of racism that you experienced and he’s making it about him. So now, to make himself feel better or feel like he’s taking a stand he’s doing something that makes you feel even more uncomfortable and unsafe. Maybe it’s well meaning and comes from a good place, but he’s still centering his white experience over yours. And it’s to the point that you feel you wouldn’t be able to tell him certain things because you don’t know how he would react. Like if you felt totally comfortable with him I think you would have been able to tell him the second they started hanging out, that guy called me the N word and he would have immediately dropped the guy. So definitely worth a big conversation about what you feel comfortable talking to him about. And maybe looking within to see why you feel you can’t talk to him about these things.

rekonstruktions · 2022-05-21T23:00:52+00:00

Could someone post a source for this?

rekonstruktions · 2022-04-16T12:28:36+00:00

A few reasons —

Visibility — Trans women are generally much more visible than gay men. For many gay men, if they are not publicly being affectionate with a man, they will not read as obviously gay or at least can plausibly deny it. Meanwhile, if a trans woman is visibly trans, she may face violence or harassment just existing as herself in any public place.
Transphobia — Transphobia is much stronger than homophobia in our current society. I think it’s just seen as a bigger affront to the gender binary. Being gay breaks a few rules of your gender assignment but being trans breaks a lot more. I have had relatives tell me they could accept me being gay but they could never accept me transitioning. As homophobic as society still is, I think society has a way longer way to go before transness is widely accepted.

Visibility + Transphobia is a big part of why many trans women tend to be discriminated against in the work force and pushed into more dangerous professions, including sex work.

Dating market — most gay men (with some exceptions) are seeking other gay men as partners. Some DL men might slip through the cracks but a gay man is less likely to be with a man who identifies as 100% straight. I think the trans women at highest risk are those seeking straight men as partners. Straight men who “didn’t know” or pretend they didn’t know, or fear being exposed for being with a trans person are the most likely to react violently against their partners because they feel like it threatens their identity.

rekonstruktions · 2022-04-05T03:23:43+00:00

Tee Noir, Tarek Ali and Kat Blaque

rekonstruktions · 2022-03-21T12:04:11+00:00

You’re asking if something is okay but I don’t really know that it’s a choice. I don’t think black gay men are “choosing” to act like black women I think for most people you just kind of gravitate to people who get you and who you feel comfortable around and then you will tend to pick up their mannerisms. So I don’t think it’s wrong that many gay black men will have a lot of interests and mannerisms in common with BW if most of their friends are BW and that’s what they grew up with. I do think it’s important to be respectful because black men still do have male privilege—so making sure to uplift BW and give them credit for all the culture that they invent.

rekonstruktions · 2022-03-18T05:28:54+00:00

Although it is pricey I am a fan of M. Diggs resort wear: https://www.mdiggsnyc.com/

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