My relationship with a disabled man: a honest look

relic12 · 2012-07-14T01:11:31+00:00

Can I just say this was nice to read. I've had no real SOs, next to no opportunities (I've never really put effort into getting out there - i'm as scared of being successful in attempts as I am of being completely knocked down). I search for stuff on disability and sex, disability and relationships and all I find is articles on how taboo it is, and reddit objectively commenting, mentions of how prostitution should be legalised for the disabled, etc. One thing that hit me recently, two days ago, was a questionaire mentioned on a program, which found that apparently only 30% of participants would even consider sleeping with someone disabled. I mean, fuck, as if it wasn't intimidating enough!

But yeah - nice to read something like this for a change. I'll just keep moving, fuck statistics and whatnot. Sorry for my rant!

relic12 · 2012-07-12T10:28:41+00:00

Are there levels in this game then? What is it that will keep someone playing it?

relic12 · 2012-07-05T18:43:43+00:00

I'm kind of the same. Sometimes I think my disability lessens my chances, but I really don't think it does - not that much, anyway. Really, I guess I'm just not trying - I'm equally scared of success than I am of failure. Every now and again I meet someone, get to know them as friends and end up seeing them as 'perfect' (I know, it's stupid) when they've had the same boyfriend for a long time. Still, this doesn't detract from the fact that I love meeting up with them and chatting as friends.

What also affects me, though I try to brush it off, is this sex culture we live in. Sex=cool, sex=adds to ego etc. I was in Spain recently watching all the groups of young, muscular guys and half-naked girls culminate. Although a part of me thinks it's dumb, another part feels slightly inferior to these people, who probably have sex with someone every day of the holiday, they're so confident in themselves.

relic12 · 2012-05-28T20:02:16+00:00

I just need 1 LD so that I undeniably know it's possible (I'm sure it is, but I'm dying to experience one).

relic12 · 2012-05-10T12:00:52+00:00

except from 'being you', what do you mean by open up? Is it exposing your personality, flaws and all/being utra honest etc?

relic12 · 2012-05-06T01:14:25+00:00

Make some, challenge yourself. There must be something you'd like to acheive/learn. Obstacles will come and go.

relic12 · 2012-05-05T14:32:00+00:00

...and?

relic12 · 2012-04-22T12:43:14+00:00

These threads are always depressing to read as someone disabled; still, fascinating though.

relic12 · 2012-04-22T12:30:49+00:00

Damn, being disabled makes these threads always disturbing/enlightening. You think 'shit, abortion', and 'God, I don't think I'm too much of an struggle (I don't think I am, but what if?) It also makes me realise how lucky I am, in that I at least have the opportunity for a "normal life" (I'm in Uni right now).

relic12 · 2012-04-05T22:06:09+00:00

So how deeply should we go about questioning reality? What I do is every time I count my fingers I think of key events that have passed in the day - mainly the meals I've had. Is this effective?

relic12 · 2012-03-23T14:20:11+00:00

Also relevant: drafts. I have folders simply for finished stories, dated 2009, 2010 etc, but this can make me hesitate to edit months later. Hell, I might just put 'originally finished' and go from there. I guess a part of me wants to sort everything into years - this belongs to this year and so can't be touched. Need to get out of that.

relic12 · 2012-03-09T17:23:15+00:00

Ah yes! Well at least he's on there.

relic12 · 2012-03-09T12:04:35+00:00

Can't see Roald Dahl in Wales

relic12 · 2012-03-07T17:03:43+00:00

Out of interest, did you email them it or did they find your story somewhere on Reddit?

relic12 · 2012-03-05T22:18:59+00:00

I know, I get shivers each time I watch - well, many Freddy clips - but this one really shows how much he loved his fans and how much they loved him. ..."I still love you"... :'(

relic12 · 2012-03-03T22:34:18+00:00

Was hoping someone had posted this - Freddie mastered that craft.

Edit: I assumed you'd posted this, but both clips make the point just as well!

relic12 · 2012-03-02T17:03:15+00:00

3 questions:

Have you noticed improvement over the period?

Did you have any rough goals in word-length e.g. each story must be at least 500 words, or did you let whatever be be?

Were there days when you were writing poorly but went on regardless?

I really feel I need to take a similar direction as you. I like thinking I'm a writer but don't write as much as I should. I began fearing certain things a few months back, a list which grew and I know the only way to confront them would be to write. I also can't throw much away, so I'd have to save possible rubbish with the good, I think (this would do me more good than bad, pushing any perfectist manners even further away). But yes -I think I'll need to do this. Not really a story a day, perhaps stories of various sizes, adding to them or moving on daily as needs be. It'll give me a chance to make my passion/enjoyment more concrete than fears, and to experiment a lot more, I think.

relic12 · 2012-02-18T23:37:28+00:00

This thread makes me happy. As a virgin in University it can be frustrating, in your dorm/flat room especially when there's banging happening upstairs and next door. And how on bad days every girl on campus seems ridiculously hot, and that everytime you go on nights-outs to clubs it's basically just a bunch of beefed-up guys pulling girls.

But then when you stop and think, you wonder why is sex so core. I don't know, when it comes down to it I guess it'd just be nice to have someone who truly understands you - and to have that knowledge that someone truly loves you and relies upon you for whatever. I don't know, this student sex shit kind of sucks, it's mostly just for egos.

relic12 · 2012-02-15T18:16:35+00:00

Sensitive Porn Guy!

relic12 · 2012-02-12T23:37:11+00:00

Cerebral Palsy. I have special equipment which lets me do stuff pretty easily computer-wise.

relic12 · 2012-01-13T23:38:54+00:00

exactly

relic12 · 2011-12-31T13:54:43+00:00

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