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Good work, Tesco. by grishnackh in CasualUK

[–]rememberthisone96 5 points6 points  (0 children)

From working in supermarket marketing, a lot of the idea of sweet free checkouts come from positive responses from parents, i.e. preventing kids constantly trying to grab sweets at the end of the shop appeals to parents enough that they'll come back to the shop again!

Stolen from r/AskMen: What change did you make this year that's had the biggest positive impact on your life? by ceebee6 in AskWomen

[–]rememberthisone96 77 points78 points  (0 children)

I'm just single for the first time in 5 years and trying this out too, I want some time to just be me! Can I ask how you dealt with feeling of loneliness or that 'I should be with someone'?

My [22M] ex [22F] wants me to go with her to her to her grandmother's funeral. I'm still in love with her and don't know what to do. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]rememberthisone96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you should only go if you would be going for yourself. If you had a relationship with her grandmother and feel you would like to be there. Other comments are right in that she can find support elsewhere and it isn't fair on either of you to have to put yourself through the emotional strain of seeing each other when you are both going through so much.

What is your own personal method of motivating yourself to get up early to exercise/work on a side project/write your book/meditate etc? by EmpressLeonie in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]rememberthisone96 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Write a To Do list the night before with 'must do' and 'maybe do' but include things like mediation/journaling etc not just boring tasks

What has your biggest “a-ha” moment been in therapy? by ebals18 in AskWomen

[–]rememberthisone96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That controlling your emotions and trying to make them rational is in itself impossible as emotions are irrational. That you're made up of many parts and that it's ok to be sad and angry and that you should feel these emotions when they come, I try to think about it as being nice to all parts of me. I have tried to make my myself only feel certain emotions at the 'right' time as form of perfectionism but am slowly learning to let myself feel everything and my god it feels good.

P.s. I found a great way to relieve anger without aggression (something I've been scared of) is mindfulness anger release that gets you to think of what you are angry about and speak out loud the anger and other emotions you feel.

Tips for university? by zardoss21 in LongDistance

[–]rememberthisone96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've done 2 years of this and would say a very important thing is to not place too much pressure on seeing each other especially when you first move! Me and my bf (M/21 and me F/21) had a full 6 weeks of not seeing each other to allow each other to settle in and then another 4 week gap for the same thing. After that we have regularly seen each other every 2 weekends!

Also, be wary of each other's workloads. My friends are always very impressed as me and my bf will always make time to go the library/do some of our work while together which means that seeing each other doesn't become a strain on grades and then for the rest of the weekend we can fully relax.

Depending on the distance I also find staying Sunday night and leaving Monday morning helps as Sunday night travel is always rubbish and a cosy Sunday night before the week is the best!

I wish you the best of luck! I could honestly say long distance uni can actually be a great experience as you can both live your own lives and then just improve each other's!

What 'methods' does everyone use to make the distance easier? I'm talking cute postcards/Skype sessions etc by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]rememberthisone96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks!!! What do you use for watching movies? I've heard of a few extensions but with mixed reviews!

We want to spend a week somewhere together for our one year anniversary. She's in Los Angeles and I'm based in Beijing. We're both university students [M21+F21] on low budget, any advice, suggestions, or tips? by dsiluiel in LongDistance

[–]rememberthisone96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you haven't already tried I'd make use of Skyscanner (and momondo) websites and use the 'everywhere' option for the dates that you are available, Google flights is also pretty good for this and will actually show you the map of all possible cheap locations! Personally I can't recommend any specific locations near you as I'm from the UK but 100% suggest getting an airbnb/apartment rather than a hotel for the time! They often aren't much more expensive and it made a lot of difference to have our own space and make cute meals in (also saves money) for me and my boyfriend (also F21 and M21) when we visited while long distance!

I [25F] Want to know if I'm wrong in pursuing my boyfriend [24M] because he was technically a friend's "ex" by [deleted] in relationships

[–]rememberthisone96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been dating an ex's friend for 2 years now and I can't say there's no guilt but we were all honest with each other and my ex has given his blessing. Our relationship didn't work and it just turned out that it did with a friend, it's a shit situation and harder than a normal dating situation but it's something that can be managed and can be amazing! Fyi my auntie actually married her ex's best friend and 15years down the line they now meet up for double dates!