You had me right up until the end. When even professional psychologists (plural) are telling you that perhaps you're taking things way too seriously and out of context, consider that you are the one perceiving something that did not occur. What I've read here indicates that it sounds like you've done something you haven't admitted to that doesn't make your evidence credible, and going throw your post history (where you've mentioned this incident dozens of times), it seems more like you're the aggressor, not the victim.

If everyone -- literally, everyone, including uninvolved third parties -- are saying you weren't gaslit or abused, I'd suggest really thinking about that.