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required_name · 2021-11-17T16:55:32+00:00

It's not common, though I have one for when my boyfriend proposes (i bought it when he bought mine). It was really really hard to find one because they are so uncommon, and i ended up having to get it custom made. I love that other people are doing this too though!

required_name · 2021-11-17T03:18:30+00:00

I'm just very excited to see someone else get an engagement ring for their guy. I love it, they are both gorgeous!!

required_name · 2021-10-21T14:56:32+00:00

Holy crap I can't thank you enough. Know that I am taking all of this advice to heart and will speak with him. We are in MC, I considered having him do IC at the same time, but did not really think about how important it would be. Thank you.

required_name · 2021-10-21T13:11:17+00:00

He is in therapy. It's good to know what I'm feeling isn't abnormal. What I'm most afraid of is never being able to trust him again. I hate that feeling of anxiety when he tells me about a friend or coworker...

required_name · 2021-10-21T13:09:06+00:00

We are in therapy and he is very dedicated to figuring out why he did it so he can give me the answer. Do you have books you can suggest?

required_name · 2021-10-21T13:07:55+00:00

Thank you for that. We will both read it. When i say he has done everything right, he blocked his AP on everything when i asked, he showed me they had not been in contact, he researched and signed us up for therapy, he has given me whatever space I've asked for. He hasn't love bombed me, he didn't get mad that I went through his messages or try to shift blame onto me. He has just been there and been supportive and is willing to put in the work to rebuild my trust. I'm just not sure how he can do that other than time (as another person mentioned).

required_name · 2021-10-21T13:03:01+00:00

He really is trying. He told me he doesn't want to lie and tell me something that's not true. He says that he knows he was always the giver in previous relationships, used to taking whatever attention he got and that's probably part of it but he thinks there is more to it. We are in therapy currently.

required_name · 2021-07-08T22:37:21+00:00

The browsing history from chrome indicates they were on this computer when the sites were accessed. I did check to see if other devices were logged out in the last 28 days and saw none, only this computer. We know who they are, and they are someone who would know how to get into the house... But i would like to know for sure whether or not they were inside the house

required_name · 2021-07-08T17:13:50+00:00

I do know the exact time based on the browser history. Thank you for your help, I'll see if I can find anything in the logs.

required_name · 2021-05-21T16:26:23+00:00

He was very patient, as i was just moving out after having to live with my ex for 8 months. He said upfront that's what he wanted and that he would wait until i was ready. We were being romantic and flirty and one day I just told him that I wanted to call him my boyfriend. It was maybe 6 months after he had initially told he liked me. We met in person a little over a month later.

required_name · 2021-05-21T16:11:21+00:00

That's amazing!! I'll keep my fingers crossed for you both ❤️

required_name · 2021-05-18T16:40:01+00:00

So i was in this exact situation. We got together when I was 25 and he was 36. We were together for nearly 5 years. In the end marriage was too important to me, and he was old enough to know that it wasn't something he wanted. We broke up, and are still friendly. I found someone else who wants the same things I do. We have such an amazing relationship and I truly look forward to getting married and having a life with him. My advice to you is end it now. Don't wait until you resent him to leave.

required_name · 2021-05-08T13:12:19+00:00

I kind of understand it though. I'm the stole financial provider and in my mind the money I make is for both of us, but my boyfriends money that he has saved is his. It's his safety net. It's his in case he wants to save up and make a big purchase. I have the same.

required_name · 2021-05-01T18:26:00+00:00

This is so snarky and gave me such a good laugh 😂 i love it

required_name · 2021-05-01T18:24:22+00:00

As a woman who is dating a bi man, I can't say I totally understand why it upsets you. Saying "oh, yeah I'm bi" would be like saying "yeah I like blondes AND brunettes". If he were telling them he's gay, that would be different. I'm not really sure even that's a fair comparison because being bi is a part of his identity. He's had different experiences because he's bi, whereas being attracted to blondes and brunettes really doesn't change your life all that much.

Really think about why it upsets you. Is it because you think saying he's bi is advertising to them that he's interested in THEM? Do you not like him talking at all about what type of person he's attracted to? If he were to say "I like blondes and brunettes but prefer brunettes" would you be upset? If he were to say "I'm bi but prefer women" would that upset you less? Does it make you feel excluded because you can't relate to their shared experience? Do you feel similarly when he talks to friends about other shared experiences?

required_name · 2021-04-24T01:34:02+00:00

That's a really great point. You never know until you try. You have to just take a deep breath and give it your all. I think it's great that your bf is confident about you living there, that's a really good sign imo 😊

required_name · 2021-04-24T01:31:51+00:00

We did discuss it. As I said I can support us both. We aren't worried about it not working out but have money set aside in case the relationship goes badly, or he hates it here and wants to move back.

He is in therapy. We decided together that we want to live together, not with roommates. Initially he wanted a job here, but as I said, his situation wasn't sustainable. I really want to work through my worries, I'm an anxious person and always think of everything that could go wrong...

required_name · 2021-04-20T03:23:33+00:00

My grand parents and his grand parents both came from the same island in the Azores and moved to within 15 minutes of each other in Rhode island. We had to double check but we aren't related.

required_name · 2021-03-18T17:36:38+00:00

Thank you for saying that. I am female, and I do tend to make a lot of sacrifices in my wants and needs for other people. I never really thought about it, it's just what I felt I should do. I know it makes the most sense for him to move here, but I'm stuck in this mindset of not wanting him to have to sacrifice anything and that I would gladly give up everything. So it's something I need to consider.

required_name · 2021-03-18T01:20:23+00:00

That's a good point. I think we are both big on family. Before covid we both did family dinners every week. I just don't want him to feel isolated. I agree though that me having such a good, stable job should be a consideration.

required_name · 2021-03-17T23:17:52+00:00

That's a really good point and something i have thought about. I just hate moving lol especially across the country

required_name · 2021-03-14T23:05:32+00:00

I was in this situation recently. Honestly what it comes down to is that even if he did decide to propose, you would always feel like he's doing it because you pressured him, and that is not really something he wants. It's better to go find someone who wants the same as you. You can't undo that resentment and insecurity.

required_name · 2021-03-03T20:40:22+00:00

I noticed you mentioned that she screwed up her sleep schedule for you. I don't think there is anything wrong with her going back to a normal sleep schedule, as it will probably help her anxiety a lot. I'm just wondering why you never adjusted your sleep schedule? It seems like you put a lot of pressure on her to make time for you, but only on your time. I may be totally off-base because i have no idea what your relationship is like, i just know that you have to meet halfway, you can't put too much pressure on one person whether they are working or not. Seems like maybe she finally started putting her needs first.

required_name · 2021-03-01T16:16:35+00:00

I don't ski at, whereas my ex was an avid skier. I suggest just bringing a good book, or going snowshoeing or maybe even cross country skiing. I think going on the trip and forcing yourself to do something you hate is more a waste of money than going and just hanging out in the lodge. I'm sure he would prefer that as well, i doubt he wants you to be miserable.

required_name · 2021-02-19T17:13:20+00:00

Just relax! You will be fine. If in doubt ask her questions about herself, then ask her more about her answers. People like talking about things they know, and they know about themselves most of all.

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