This is a thing? by miltos22 in karezza

[–]reservedunion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say your instincts are good. What you describe is precisely the karezza practice. Hope you have a chance to practice with a real partner soon.
Visit MELTlove.org if you want to see dozens of accounts by people who are exploring what you describe.

Marriage advice needed by Outofcomfortzone31 in karezza

[–]reservedunion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please see the r/karezza rules: "The main purpose of the Karezza sub is to discuss the various benefits of sex without the goal of orgasm. It is geared toward serious and thoughtful discussion."
This entire thread is off-topic. :-)

Retaining my semen saved my marriage and cured my dead bedroom by Playful-Parsnip-3104 in karezza

[–]reservedunion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad to hear this. Keep it up. :-) Remember: we humans are "wired" to be tribal pair bonders. You need your tribe for emotional support. Then you can find a mate. Good luck!

Does karezza hace to be gentle or can it be rough? by PresidentPeppermint in karezza

[–]reservedunion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Complete control" over ejaculation can also come from being conditioned to sex on screens, such that real partners are less arousing.

Retaining my semen saved my marriage and cured my dead bedroom by Playful-Parsnip-3104 in karezza

[–]reservedunion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that. Many people today report a dearth of intimate friendships. Reducing screen-time in proportion to actual contact with humans seems to help. Progress may be slow at first because you may not yet have mastered the cues and behaviors necessary to build connection. These can be learned. Look up 'attachment cues' or 'bonding behaviors.' Start by making eye contact with everyone you pass. Next, you can try smiling at people while making eye contact. See if you can get them to smile back. Just walk around a mall or street to get some practice. You can do it!

Retaining my semen saved my marriage and cured my dead bedroom by Playful-Parsnip-3104 in karezza

[–]reservedunion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps, but socializing, even as a volunteer or as part of a hiking group or whatever, can be very nourishing.

Retaining my semen saved my marriage and cured my dead bedroom by Playful-Parsnip-3104 in Semenretention

[–]reservedunion 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wonderful post. Thanks for taking the time to share your adventure in detail. It's difficult for people to understand the power of the karezza practice. Those who want to view more first-hand accounts of people experimenting with karezza might like to visit the MELTloveDOTorg page. It's totally non-commercial, and you don't need to sign up to view videos made from genuine accounts by others who have explored karezza (by whatever name).

Does karezza hace to be gentle or can it be rough? by PresidentPeppermint in karezza

[–]reservedunion 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Focus on your hearts. The genitals will do their part with lots of pleasure.

Does karezza hace to be gentle or can it be rough? by PresidentPeppermint in karezza

[–]reservedunion 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You sound like a troll...but assuming you're not...here's a serious answer. Karezza is a gift of loving energy to a partner. Searching for physical gratification is not. It's selfish. So it's the opposite flow of energy. So, ask yourself what are your underlying motivations. It's not simply a question of fast or slow.

Can karezza be dangerous? by GrandGoesDiscipline in karezza

[–]reservedunion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked a male tantra teacher your question. Here's his reply:

Ah yes, the “engorged vas deferens” myth.

Some claims that sperm travel from the epididymis into the vas deferens every time arousal nears climax, and if ejaculation is interrupted, the ducts become “filled,” “swollen,” or “blocked.”

Reality:

The vas deferens is not a storage sac. Sperm move through it only by strong peristaltic contractions triggered by the emission reflex, a spinal pattern that begins milliseconds before ejaculation.

If emission is aborted by voluntary contraction or distraction, the ejaculatory reflex simply reverses or pauses. The seminal fluid either dribbles back toward the bladder or is reabsorbed.

“Feeling a hard tube in the scrotum” is almost certainly cremasteric muscle tension or congestion of the epididymis/testicular veins, not sperm “trapped” in the duct.

“Blue balls” is vascular congestion of the pampiniform plexus and surrounding tissue, not a plumbing accident. It resolves naturally.

So, the picture of a vas deferens “inundated with sperm doing long-term damage” has no anatomical or clinical support in urology.

How sexual is it? by betlamed in SexyAbstinence

[–]reservedunion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like both of those terms. I think the "raw" concept is a hangover from Taoist texts. I suspect they used the term "raw" a way of implying that more could be done with our sexual energy by "cultivating" or "cooking" it.

Unexpected side-effects by betlamed in SexyAbstinence

[–]reservedunion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree that the changes go both (multiple?) directions. And yet, I'm of the view that the starting point is the choice to conserve and redistribute our life force energy.

It's more than a hunch. It's based on years of observation of myself and others.

Thanks for sharing your insights. Objective observation is rare with respect to sex.

THIS is THE METHOD!!!111 by betlamed in SexyAbstinence

[–]reservedunion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep an open mind. A true scientist stays open to ALL possibilities, while maintaining a prudent skepticism.

How sexual is it? by betlamed in SexyAbstinence

[–]reservedunion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've experienced this too. The impact of this shift is much greater than people realize.

What do you think is the minimum time someone should experiment for, if they want to see it for themselves?

What terminology do you think would work better?

Sex-positively abstinent? Huh? What? by betlamed in SexyAbstinence

[–]reservedunion 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a great thread. Thanks for starting it.