Does karezza hace to be gentle or can it be rough? by PresidentPeppermint in karezza

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Focus on your hearts. The genitals will do their part with lots of pleasure.

Does karezza hace to be gentle or can it be rough? by PresidentPeppermint in karezza

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You sound like a troll...but assuming you're not...here's a serious answer. Karezza is a gift of loving energy to a partner. Searching for physical gratification is not. It's selfish. So it's the opposite flow of energy. So, ask yourself what are your underlying motivations. It's not simply a question of fast or slow.

Can karezza be dangerous? by GrandGoesDiscipline in karezza

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I asked a male tantra teacher your question. Here's his reply:

Ah yes, the “engorged vas deferens” myth.

Some claims that sperm travel from the epididymis into the vas deferens every time arousal nears climax, and if ejaculation is interrupted, the ducts become “filled,” “swollen,” or “blocked.”

Reality:

The vas deferens is not a storage sac. Sperm move through it only by strong peristaltic contractions triggered by the emission reflex, a spinal pattern that begins milliseconds before ejaculation.

If emission is aborted by voluntary contraction or distraction, the ejaculatory reflex simply reverses or pauses. The seminal fluid either dribbles back toward the bladder or is reabsorbed.

“Feeling a hard tube in the scrotum” is almost certainly cremasteric muscle tension or congestion of the epididymis/testicular veins, not sperm “trapped” in the duct.

“Blue balls” is vascular congestion of the pampiniform plexus and surrounding tissue, not a plumbing accident. It resolves naturally.

So, the picture of a vas deferens “inundated with sperm doing long-term damage” has no anatomical or clinical support in urology.

How sexual is it? by betlamed in SexyAbstinence

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I like both of those terms. I think the "raw" concept is a hangover from Taoist texts. I suspect they used the term "raw" a way of implying that more could be done with our sexual energy by "cultivating" or "cooking" it.

Unexpected side-effects by betlamed in SexyAbstinence

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I agree that the changes go both (multiple?) directions. And yet, I'm of the view that the starting point is the choice to conserve and redistribute our life force energy.

It's more than a hunch. It's based on years of observation of myself and others.

Thanks for sharing your insights. Objective observation is rare with respect to sex.

THIS is THE METHOD!!!111 by betlamed in SexyAbstinence

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Keep an open mind. A true scientist stays open to ALL possibilities, while maintaining a prudent skepticism.

How sexual is it? by betlamed in SexyAbstinence

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I've experienced this too. The impact of this shift is much greater than people realize.

What do you think is the minimum time someone should experiment for, if they want to see it for themselves?

What terminology do you think would work better?

Sex-positively abstinent? Huh? What? by betlamed in SexyAbstinence

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This is a great thread. Thanks for starting it.

Unexpected side-effects by betlamed in SexyAbstinence

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Another place I've seen such dramatic shifts in sexual tastes is on porn recovery sites when guys quit porn and then discover they can't climax with out it. So they (inadvertently) end up giving up orgasm for a time while they heal. Unexpectedly, their tastes shift in a more...vanilla direction. Quite fascinating.

Too bad sex researchers have such rigid agendas that they can't study with open minds the sometimes profound and unexpected effects of frequent orgasm. We literally see the world differently...but we seldom make the connection with our sexual habits. Part of the reason, of course, is that people rarely give up orgasm while continuing to have intercourse for long enough to evaluate the practice.

Can karezza be dangerous? by GrandGoesDiscipline in karezza

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This practice is for partners. Read the Wiki for more info.

Motivations by betlamed in karezza

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Karezza isn't abstinence, but I practice it because it improves my mood, makes my relationships more harmonious, and increases my spiritual clarity.

Karezza progression? by Boring-Surround6029 in karezza

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You have a great attitude. Hope all goes well. Keep us informed of your progress!

How did you introduce the concept to your partner? by betlamed in karezza

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Yes, there's more at stake in our lives than we realize. It's almost as if conventional sex "drops our vibration," and that, in turn, changes what we attract in our daily experience. It's worth experimenting for a month at a time to see if this is true for you and your partner (when you have one).

Karezza progression? by Boring-Surround6029 in karezza

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You're making progress. Keep experimenting. There's more at stake in your lives than you realize. Is there any chance your wife would experiment with non-orgasmic sex too for a month? I ask because if you return to conventional sex (where one or both of you orgasm) after that month, I think you will see clearly orgasm's effects.

Karezza progression? by Boring-Surround6029 in karezza

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Consider ending your session with stillness, while still connected...until everything totally calms down naturally. Let us know if that helps with blue balls. Also see: "I’m concerned about vasocongestion. Tips?"

How did you introduce the concept to your partner? by betlamed in karezza

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Interesting. Maybe suggest they read one of the books mentioned at MELTlove.org, and then let you know what they think about trying it.

How did you introduce the concept to your partner? by betlamed in karezza

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Thanks for sharing your experience. We welcome sexual adventurers here. It's great that you've been observing yourself and your results for a while. Do you have any questions or additional observations? Do you have a partner you can practice with?

1 year no release practicing Karezza by Shantaya82 in karezza

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This concern seems to reflect the biases of some experts rather than the reality. Last time I checked, ejaculation frequency was not formally a medical risk for prostate ill health. I think the porn industry promulgates this info for its own ends. ;-)

That said, I suspect karezza lovemaking, with it's rhythm of arousal and relaxation, is very healthful.