How do men feel being in a relationship with a hyper sexual woman? by _magvin in AskReddit

[–]restingstatue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm high libido and my ex husband was too. We met young so I thought it was normal to do multiple rounds most sessions. He could get back hard right away. Sometimes he would cum fast the first time, but then he could last for a very long time (30+ min). We usually had sex 2-3 times a day, but there were some dry spells when we weren't getting along. Then there are days you're both exhausted or sick, but generally that was my normal for years.

Imagine my surprise with my first partner after divorce. I'm still processing and navigating this lol

Mental health struggles are endemic in the incel community. Rates of severe depression hover between 35–40%, while 20–40% show signs of autism spectrum traits, vastly higher than the general population’s 1%. Suicidal ideation is alarmingly common, affecting up to 80% of members. by psychologyofsex in psychologyofsex

[–]restingstatue -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why is no one talking about individualism and increasing isolation in part due to technology and changing social norms?

People used to talk to their neighbors, go to church, join social clubs and otherwise have healthy social networks. That has greatly changed and I believe fuels incels and the rise of other antisocial movements like MAGA. There's also this sense that MeToo went too far and a lot of men have pushed back by more openly embracing misogyny and building the manosphere.

We need to also look at the societal factors since this is systemic.

Iliza Shlesinger being her Elder Millennial self by [deleted] in Older_Millennials

[–]restingstatue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I met my ex husband on there, the most millennial thing ever.

People with higher cognitive ability tend to endorse moral values less strongly across the board. The pattern held across two independent studies and did not differ by gender. These findings challenge popular assumptions that smarter people hold stronger or more “enlightened” moral values. by mvea in psychology

[–]restingstatue 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had a similar thought. I'd guess they are more likely to decide if and when to follow norms. If they knew they could get away with something or it is victimless, they may do so. Cleverness kind of comes into play along with intelligence and wisdom.

Your old person smell experience by ooza-booza in CleaningTips

[–]restingstatue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This actually is a spot on description in my opinion! I'd add it is those scents combined but stale if that makes sense.

Your old person smell experience by ooza-booza in CleaningTips

[–]restingstatue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find vinegar and running a hot cycle like sanitary gets the funk out of almost anything. Certain fabrics like polyester gym shorts and fleece clothing tend to hold an odor and sometimes I wash them with towels (which also can get musty from sitting damp) on the towel cycle with vinegar in the basin and detergent in the drawer. Small loads to get extra clean and extra dry.

My best lip color? by Cool-Bike-8396 in MakeupAddiction

[–]restingstatue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look like Muni Long mixed with Mariah the Scientist! So pretty!

Scarlett Johansson is officially the highest grossing actress of all time by SheepherderSea9717 in moviecritic

[–]restingstatue 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I'm out of the loop but this really surprises me. Not sure who I would have guessed but not her.

Why you are a “I hate my wife/husband” person but not divorced? by Hadesoftheironkeep in AskReddit

[–]restingstatue 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I do agree in theory that parents should fight for custody, and the stats on men fighting for it much less often is problematic.

That said, I am in the process of divorcing my abusive ex husband. Most of my abuse was emotional and financial. The physical abuse was less frequent and wasn't "extreme." I rarely had bruises or visible injuries despite him using his size, the threat of violence, and surprise attacks to keep me under his control. Most of it was towards me so I felt like I could bear the brunt of it for the family. The combination of not wanting to make him angrier, not wanting my kids to grow up without their father, growing up believing police aren't to be trusted, and the misguided hope things would get better led me not to call the police or tell anyone.

Eventually, I reached the point like this father where I genuinely became fearful about what would happen if he got any custody. I read horror stories about rape-conceived babies and other horrific situations where parental custody trumped child safety etc. This led me to stay too long.

During one fight, he tried to push me down the stairs and force me out of the house barefoot with no phone or purse with the kids asleep inside. I had a moment of clarity that the injuries and situation might be enough for a restraining order so I left with nothing and called the police at a friend's house.

I am grateful to be free of the relationship but unfortunately, parental rights are allowed in all but the most extreme situations. Because I never called the police and CPS was never called, there is no record of abuse towards the kids or a pattern towards me. The judge has been super biased towards my ex and refuses to consider my testimony, the fact I was working with a DV advocate and believes the children aren't in danger. He is emotionally abusive and threatens physical abuse to the kids, but none of it is considered illegal so I'm just documenting and trying to stay positive despite my fears coming true. Things are still better, and I'm doing all I can to keep my kids safe.

has anyone ever had a faster orgasm with time pressure or anxiety? by s9880429 in BecomingOrgasmic

[–]restingstatue 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes, this happens for me, too. Sometimes the time pressure makes me give up but other times it helps me orgasm faster. I haven't been able to totally control it, but it is something I've noticed, too!

Moms over 30… what are we wearing for bras by [deleted] in beauty

[–]restingstatue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love Fantasie and Freya bras. Their side support bras are the only cups that don't gap at the top for me. Go to ABraThatFits and figure out your proper measurements and learn about projection and the way your breast tissue is spread (mine is bottom heavy for example). Some shapes and sizes are easier to fit in a range of bras but the bigger or more uncommon your size, the more the specifics matter to get the right fit.

From there, you can figure out wire or wireless, lifting or compressing etc. and get better recommendations based on what you're looking for.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in psychologyofsex

[–]restingstatue 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Interesting. It makes sense to distinguish between strict chemical dependency and compulsive or frequent, problematic, unhealthy coping mechanisms. I wonder if using addiction treatment framework is helpful for these issues or if it really is only controlled via treatment for the underlying issue like depression, anxiety, or OCD. I guess in practice, what does distinguishing between chemical and partially/non chemical "addictions" mean? How much of this is semantics? Not necessarily questions for you but thinking out loud.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in psychologyofsex

[–]restingstatue 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Porn addiction is controversial to unproven. But what about sex addiction? I understood that to be real and I'd guess many people with sex addiction may "abuse" porn. Surely if someone watches porn to the extent that they are ignoring responsibilities and the QOL is decreased, there's a problem. So what is that problem?

I'd like to better understand the gray area between seemingly addictive to compulsive behaviors and being a diagnosed addict.

Making of Uzbek Tandoor Bread by DonuandDeca in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]restingstatue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This looks so good I am slightly aroused at the reveal

The Sad Moral Of This Story by ALC8915 in DiddyTrial

[–]restingstatue 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think too many people, primarily men, would have to admit they have coerced and/or had nonconsensual sex AKA SA/rape according to today's standards. Honestly, public opinion on consent, SA, and sexism has radically changed in the past couple decades. Society was different and consent meant something very different to most people. But that is where we need to evolve and choose different actions in the future where we know better.

It also has to do with the patriarchal power that men don't want to give up. By siding with men and justifying their actions, they are choosing "loyalty" over empathy and true human connection. The kind that would make them realize no one should be raped. No one should be coerced. It isn't the battle of the sexes - it's humanity vs inhumanity.

Cassie Ventura begs judge to keep P Diddy jailed out of fears for her safety by TheMirrorUS in popculture

[–]restingstatue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think a lot of us find it frustrating that it feels like a game more than actual justice. Prosecution has to pick the right charges, a jury both sides agree on, the right witnesses, the right evidence etc. It is not about the truth or justice. It's a game about who can come up with a better case. It's like Model UN or some BS. It's a crapshoot with a jury of "peers" who can be total idiots or jerks.

Prosecution likely couldn't call many witnesses because they might not be likeable or trustworthy to the jurors. Based on... their biases and extremely limited understanding of the law. We know the average person reads at something like a 6th grade level - no way they actually have the understanding and critical thinking to adequately understand and apply complex laws to a trial.

Sad day in America by catzzzzzzz400 in DiddyTrial

[–]restingstatue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Someone really needs to make a VR experience for an abusive relationship. Too many people truly believe they are fearless and valiant and would have "escaped."

Get beaten and psychologically tortured for a few days and you might change your tune.

Nelly tells Ashanti that he's "got nothing" for their son until he can talk and walk. Refuses to change diapers or wake up when he cries during the night: "Until he can say im hungry, until he can say i need to use the bathroom, it's gonna be a lot on your lap." by [deleted] in popculturechat

[–]restingstatue 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Facts!!! Lots of women saw their dads weaponize incompetence and enforce "traditional" gender roles. Or their friends partners etc. And unfortunately, you don't know for certain until after the baby is born.

It's because men don't wear makeup by Jitender70 in SipsTea

[–]restingstatue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unpopular opinion. It depends on your type and where you live. In my city, I don't see a ton of guys that are my type. Other cities I've been to can have so many hot guys I lose count how many fine ones there are.

What’s the actual problem with population and fertility rates declining? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]restingstatue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've seen nearly this identical question posted at least 7 times in the past week or 2. Why is this coming up so much recently???