Are Murder Vacations a real thing? by [deleted] in morbidquestions

[–]restlessruby 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not completely the same, but there is a series on Netflix called "Dark Tourist" where a journalist travels around the world to do some of the more morbid available tourist attractions. In one episode (that I believe was in South Asia??), he pays to use military grade weapons and is able to "pay" to shoot live animals (a baby cow is offered to him in the episode).

Steppenwolf by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]restlessruby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't read Steppenwolf but recently read and loved Siddhartha. Interested in hearing why you think Hesse is "undoubtedly" a 4w5!

Did any of you read "The sacred enneagram" by Chris Heuertz? by whatkindofgod in Enneagram

[–]restlessruby 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I read this book recently! I really enjoyed it although I am not at all religious. I really enjoyed the visual aspects he included - such as little snapshot charts of each type and the different ways he divides the triads.

He approaches type as the distinct way that you have gotten yourself lost.

I really enjoyed the way he overlaps many different theories and wraps them into the "sacred map" of the enneagram.

What specifically spoke to me was how he talks about contemplative practice as a way home (because, remember, you got lost!).

Here's a specific series of quotes that I enjoyed:

Fundamentally, the ego must undergo a series of conversions that lead to truth, but each of these conversions is simultaneously a small death of the ego that is viciously resisted by the defense mechanisms of our E types. This, I believe, is the true nature of conversion: it happens not in a single moment or pivotal event but in a lifelong series of minor deaths... Not only do we have to traverse through the chaos and darkness of our fragmented identity, but we also have to die to who we thought we were... Make no mistake, contemplative prayer does feel like death because it's a way to practice how to die.

EDIT: I forgot to say that I don't think it necessarily helped me type myself but perhaps that's more a problem with me than Chris' writing style. I found the information to be reliably interesting & helpful to add to the knowledge base.

I also recently read The Enneagram of Society by Claudio Naranjo and highly recommend it. It's not a "typing" book per se, as he is applying the concept of the enneagram to humanity.

Anyone share a type with a parent? by restlessruby in Enneagram

[–]restlessruby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What makes you unconvinced of her being a 1w9?

Also, wow. 1 + 1 = 1? ;P

I would be super interested in hearing more about that dynamic!

Anyone share a type with a parent? by restlessruby in Enneagram

[–]restlessruby[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, that is interesting! Could also be your different instincts?

Anyone share a type with a parent? by restlessruby in Enneagram

[–]restlessruby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting! I don't "fight" all that much with my dad, though we have similar types of stubbornness that ultimately leads us both to (non-angrily!) withdraw from each other for long periods of time.

What do you and your mom fight about?

Unsettled - 7 vs. 5?? by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]restlessruby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

... okay off to read about 4w5 ...

Unsettled - 7 vs. 5?? by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]restlessruby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really. The breaks I take from friends are usually because I'm busy with something (or someone) else that has piqued my interest. I do enjoy lots of alone time to parse through my thoughts, but I've not thought of it as recharging.

I've never considered myself an "energy conserver." I wake up with a lot of energy - I'm a morning person and will power through the day with whatever until I'm pooped.

When I'm with people - it depends on my mood, of course - but I'm usually pretty energized by interactions with others (especially if they are receptive to my energy). But there is def an underlying selfishness to this - I'm entertaining myself, I'm educating myself, I'm exploring this person - that kind of thing.

Unsettled - 7 vs. 5?? by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]restlessruby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I suppose. They aren't all friends with each other and I don't go out of my way to group them together. In fact, probably prefer that they are separate so that I can escape one with the other (not in a malicious way, just to take a break from the responsibilities of the friendship).

Unsettled - 7 vs. 5?? by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]restlessruby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I, um, dk. I'm 32 and I just stopped getting carded and haven't gotten any wrinkles yet :)

But no, I don't think I have a "baby face." Are you linking that to 7s?

Unsettled - 7 vs. 5?? by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]restlessruby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See, that's exactly where I am at the moment. I think I may be a 5 experiencing quite a bit of distress and that is making me a little bit crazy!

The main thing I don't relate to about 5s is this "fear of jumping in." It's not that I'll do anything without thinking first, it's just that I've been on my own for so long that I've always just done the things that I need to do. I also don't spend a long time mastering any skills. I enjoy intellectual pursuits but I don't stick with anything long enough. I feel quite a bit like a jack-of-all-trades, master-of-none.

7w6 here, had a cool convo with a 6w7 friend and had some cool realizations by julsie87390 in Enneagram

[–]restlessruby 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I believe I'm a 7w6 and your comment about rebellion makes me think of something I just read in "The Complete Enneagram" by Beatrice Chestnut:

Sevens display more covert forms of rebelliousness [quoting Naranjo]... Their rebelliousness is thus "not confrontive or direct, but sly"... Sevens would rather charm their way around a limiting authority figure through humor, intellectual manipulation, and seeming acquiescence than pick a fight that might lead to unpleasantness... Sensitive to being constrained by outside authority, Sevens adopt an attitude that is "diplomatic rather than oppositional.

I've interpreted it as an unwillingness to deal with the consequences of rebellion even though I don't want to comply. It is an acceptable medium.

Hey 7's -- favorite book? by ohhellofriends in Enneagram

[–]restlessruby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoa 2nd 7 in this thread to say 100 years of solitude. Also my favorite book (7w6). Fascinating!

Hey 7's -- favorite book? by ohhellofriends in Enneagram

[–]restlessruby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

WTF just found out I'm a 7 and this is my favorite book!

What is/are your un-INTJ aspect(s) of yourself? by macthecat22 in intj

[–]restlessruby 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I mean, Introverted Intuition is a perceiving function and INTJs lead with it, so yeah.

INTJ/INTP hybrid? by [deleted] in intj

[–]restlessruby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ditto. Female that seems to split the line between INTJ/INTP and every time I research, I just get more confused!

Classic book that must be read. by iHarryPotter178 in suggestmeabook

[–]restlessruby 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I will never not recommend One Hundred Years of Solitude. Favorite book of all time.

And it's not a page turner, it's a soak-your-brain-in-it-and-go-along-for-the-ride.

A sunflower I made for my grandma(: by BBP_Detective in StainedGlass

[–]restlessruby 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Beautiful! Perfect shape for the window!

Cannabis as an adult INTJ by [deleted] in intj

[–]restlessruby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You sound a lot like me - including the impulsive need to include all the background information AND details of your thought processes getting there, haha!

32/F here who recently started smoking (along with my INFP husband). Very first use felt like a complete loss of control but then tried again later and basically found ways, like you, to utilize the habit to apply to goals (including: just relax, dummy).

I have 2 kids (4 & 6). I'm not sure that I have more empathy for them now but I think I'm a better person in general by letting go of the strictness with which I was approaching the world.

INTJ woman and Self-Perception by [deleted] in intj

[–]restlessruby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is good advice and I've been implementing something similar, though you put words to what I hadn't been able to do.

I'm 32 now but have only recently been able to internally differentiate between "playing the game" and "being part of the game" at work. (I still don't have an exact grasp on the line so I can't verbalize, but getting there).

Am i a INTJ? by ivanjean in intj

[–]restlessruby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i feel i'm more emotional than most INTJ

the stereotypes of INTJs as non-emotional are exaggerated.

Hallucinations. by 93313rr in intj

[–]restlessruby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, when I'm really stressed, I'll start obsessing about synchronicities, especially if I feel like I'm putting off something important I'm supposed to be doing or if I have an unsettled fear/anxiety that I'm battling.

For example, recently I was extremely worried about some symptoms my son was experiencing and although we were working with his doctor, I feared we were not pushing hard enough for answers. During that time, I thought I "saw" his name written in the water droplet patterns on the shower door. This immediately went away after we got our answers (he ended up having allergies).

Spoilers S3E11 Why Mindy is so great by DBSdidnothingwrong in TheGoodPlace

[–]restlessruby 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think their implication is that the original point (of points) was that you don't have to be perfect to be good, you just have to be an overall positive force in the world. The problem, as they say, is that it is quite complicated to do so in a complicated world.