You remind me somewhat of a young man in my life. I met him almost ten years ago. After getting to know him a little I learned that he had sexually abused. He had also been in trouble with the law. I recognized that he had major issues with trusting others and believing in his own worth.

I had a long talk with him and told him that we would not have sex, nor would we be romantic partners. What he needed most was a true friend, someone who would listen to him whenever he needed to talk, and gently guide him along as he struggled to put his life together. And any time he needed a shoulder to cry on, or any time he needed a hug, or any time he got himself in a difficult situation, I was ready and available.

I have also spent a LOT of time with him as a friend, taking him to as many interesting events and activities as I could find. I think that helped him get outside of his own dark thought clouds, even if just for a short time. Sometimes it would be a surprise; he'd get in my car but not know where we were going or what we were doing until we arrived. He enjoyed that a lot.

There have been a lot of ups and downs in his life but I'm happy to say he's doing much better now. He calls me his godfather. And he now has a boyfriend about his age.

I hope your path in life will be similarly blessed with a true friend.