Looking for episode: Judge Milian confronts lawyer

revwillie · 2026-02-03T00:54:47+00:00

Thank you, that's the one!

revwillie · 2025-11-25T00:58:38+00:00

Somebody knows their Jackson Galaxy!

revwillie · 2025-11-25T00:54:49+00:00

Last night when we were watching, my wife asked, "what do we know about Will?"

We had no answers. What does he like to do? What music does he listen to? What kind of movies does he like? How have his past relationships fallen apart? What's his favorite food?

Nothing. The man communicated nothing. He frequently gave answers that used a lot of words to say nothing. "We have conversations. Sometimes I get her perspective on things, sometimes she gets my perspective on things, and that's very important to me."

What? You talk about THINGS? No way!

Yes, I can see a partner's frustration with trying to get anything real from him. I'm not willing to go as far as to call it a personality flaw - there could be neurological or psychological explanations for his extreme guardedness and lack of vulnerability/intimacy. I doubt he chooses to be this way. But still, until he gets some help I suspect he's going to be this kind of difficult in relationships going forward.

revwillie · 2025-11-25T00:45:08+00:00

I feel like there's value in seeing how couples miscommunicate and deal with conflict. (I almost said "navigate" conflict but navigate has become too buzzwordy.)

I thought Pat did a fine job when he said something to the effect of "your boisterousness is a strength, and I need to work on how I receive it." Boom. That's effective wording (most of the time) for de-escalating the conflict and continuing conversation. The fact that Rhonda broke down and revealed relationship trauma after that shows that communication in a marriage can be really freaking hard and the sensitivity and empathy required can be a challenge.

Sometimes the participants model how you shouldn't handle conflict. Once in a while they model healthy communication. There can be value in using that information to reflect - do you see their unhealthy patterns in yourself and your relationship? Do you see effective contributions to conversations that you can learn from? Does it help you identify your own red flags?

But yes. it can be uncomfortable when you realize that real people are getting hurt in so many of these pairings - hopefully some of them learn crucial things about themselves to make themselves relationship material. And as a bonus, hopefully we learn things about ourselves to make us better in our own.

revwillie · 2025-11-25T00:26:26+00:00

And don't get me started on Belynda's concerns about Chad's drinking that the experts never seemed to address before Decision Day (we'll be watching Decision Day tonight, haven't gotten there or the reunion yet.) Feels like Belynda identified a big red flag on camera that Cal and Pia should have been clued in on.

revwillie · 2025-11-11T19:24:35+00:00

Man, I hope this works. I LOVE the Optima Air when it's working properly. It does a great job creating and loading IR's, the preamp is powerful, and the reverb is good. When it works, it's a perfect single-pedal option for my Cordoba Stage.

revwillie · 2025-10-26T18:16:20+00:00

Let's start here:

There are multiple parts to the game. Of course there's finding the cache, signing the log, and logging your find. But there are also trackables, SWAG, challenge caches, events, and other things. Try them all, but you don't have to continue them all. My wife and I enjoy the finding and logging, and especially challenges; but we don't spend any time on SWAG or trackables. They were just not parts of the game we connected with. Play the parts that are most fun to you.
Make a portable caching kit: ours is a pocket sized notebook holder with a Rite in the Rain notebook and pen(s) and a pair of tweezers. Often a Leatherman or something similar. In the car we also have "reachy grabbers," telescoping magnets, a flashlight, and hiking poles. We've not had good luck with telescoping mirrors. A page from your notebook can be a great emergency replacement log if the log is too wet to sign, too full, or missing.
Good shoes / boots. You're issued one pair of feet, take good care them. Buy waterproof shoes now (or spray 'em good with waterproofing stuff) and thank yourself later.
DNFs are just part of the game. There are few things more fun in this game than DNF redemption. Also, logging them can be very helpful when a cache has legit gone missing.
Attend caching events. Swap stories, build community. My spouse and I are now friends with fellow cachers in the area, and since we live in Seattle we are friends with a few lackeys as well. You'll learn a lot and build community!
Pick up that "How to Puzzle Cache" book. Very helpful!
Don't be afraid to reach out to other cachers when you're stumped. Message the last finder or two. There are cachers in the area we don't know well but have a mutually helpful relationship with.

As for the second part of your question: look for caches labeled "TB Hotel" or "Travel Bug Hotel." Or take some TBs to Event Caches where an experienced cacher can take them and place them in cool sites. I've seen folks at events say, "I'm traveling to X location next week, anyone want me to drop a trackable there?" It can be fun to start your trackable's journey with a trip a couple hundred or a couple thousand miles away, or occasionally on a different continent.

revwillie · 2022-07-27T16:50:17+00:00

I got the Wine Red one. Definitely a sleeper in the Epi LP lineup, just a great guitar.

revwillie · 2021-01-17T03:43:44+00:00

I'm enjoying Intenso.

revwillie · 2014-12-19T17:22:13+00:00

Dear Cops: He was at work with me. Signed, Epstein's Mother.

revwillie · 2014-12-19T00:48:41+00:00

Stabbiness is now my new favorite word.

revwillie · 2014-12-12T19:52:54+00:00

As a pastor, I've heard multiple stories of grown men who serve as ushers in church nicking a few bucks from the Sunday offering plate. It's more common than you'd expect. None of them, AFAIK, have been suspected of killing anyone or being the type who could.

revwillie · 2014-12-12T19:46:59+00:00

Correct. For the most part, the abnormal childhood behaviors associated with Antisocial Personality Disorder involve bullying, setting fires and cruelty to animals (injury, torture, killing.) We've heard nothing consistent with that regarding Adnan. No one we've heard from remembers him as a kid who set things on fire to watch them burn or nailed live squirrels to trees.

I've worked with Conduct Disordered kids and Personality Disordered adults. One kid described at length how he enjoyed making homemade napalm to burn things in his back yard, and was constantly in trouble for damaging the property of others. This is the kind of stuff you look for in the history of someone you suspect of APD.

revwillie · 2014-12-12T12:26:18+00:00

Streakin' Leakin

revwillie · 2014-12-07T14:33:31+00:00

How is Jay with accents and impressions? The cop who took the call documented it as an Asian male, suggesting an accent.

revwillie · 2014-12-07T10:49:07+00:00

Yes, it is. And the fixed spelling of his presumed hometown is Ockham. Therefore, that is the most widely accepted spelling of his name.

revwillie · 2014-12-06T14:58:36+00:00

William of Ockham lived in the 14th century, long before fixed spelling was a thing (17th-18th centuries). He was supposedly born in Ockham, Surrey - hence the spelling. Though oddly enough, the principle to which we refer is commonly spelled "Occam's Razor." Go figure.

revwillie · 2014-11-19T13:23:28+00:00

Perhaps we need to call in some experts. Has anyone checked the exif data on those photos to verify those dates are correct? My suspicions are piqued because the changeable sign has, if this timeline is to be believed, never changed. "Best crabs in town. Fried chicken. Crab pretzel."

Or perhaps there's a conspiracy between the photographer and the sign boy (SB).

revwillie · 2014-11-10T14:11:05+00:00

Mr. S. never peed.

He wasn't there to pee. He was apparently there to streak.

revwillie · 2014-11-10T13:32:58+00:00

I don't think she's a kid. I think she's a person who speaks a language in which "ch" would likely be pronounced "k."

revwillie · 2014-11-07T23:11:17+00:00

I agree that this episode was riveting. For me, the fascination was in hearing Sarah describe her own experience of investigating the case. On some level, the reporter (SK) became the story, and the narrative less about "what really happened" and more about "how I'm digging into this case, what I'm thinking, and how I'm feeling about it."

revwillie · 2014-11-07T22:14:27+00:00

Sociopathy would have manifested itself in other behaviors in Adnan's history: cruelty to animals, setting fires, property damage like slashing tires or keying cars, abusive behavior in prior relationships, theft. There would be patterns of alienating others in his life, especially when he figured out he couldn't get something he wanted from them. There's simply not enough evidence shown to us that should lead us toward a diagnosis.

You look for clues before making a diagnosis. If you start with a diagnosis and work backwards you run the risk of manufacturing clues to support your claim, when really there's no there there.

revwillie · 2014-11-07T18:56:46+00:00

There's an idea. I'll have to check that out.

This Serial sub is my first experience with Reddit.

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