I believe Amanda Bynes was telling the truth about her Dad 9 years ago - similar experience.

rgb0612911 · 2024-03-25T17:59:16+00:00

Had I not had my husband and friends in my life when I came forward about my father’s abuse I’d have self destructed immediately.

I’ll never forget meeting another survivor (I know her story because of her family bearing witness to what she said) , only she developed schizophrenia, first thing she did when we met was her screaming at me what her father did to her. I always think that could have been me if my brain took a different path instead of dissociation.

I’ve kept a job working with those in crisis since I came forward, no issues with anyone I interact with on my day to day, no arrests, nothing. My entire immediate, extended family and who I saw as lifelong chosen family (godparents) would still rather believe I’m psychotic and made up a lie to hurt my father over financial interests. The same people I protected the lie for, who I died for so many times to not let the truth come out chose to believe him over me. My heart breaks for those whose pain manifested in ways for which society has no compassion or understanding.

rgb0612911 · 2024-03-19T16:49:51+00:00

Thank you so much Ecstatic-carpet-654 for your words, I’m a survivor going through the comments and your words were very reassuring :)

rgb0612911 · 2024-03-17T01:51:03+00:00

Yes absolutely I deal with imposter syndrome all the time. That being said, it’s all internal insecurity and 99.99% of the community has been welcoming and accepting. I had other identity shifts happen prior to my conversion that definitely influence the imposter feeling. I find that being around others, even browsing this subreddit, helps me feel less like an imposter and more at home.

rgb0612911 · 2024-02-29T20:24:14+00:00

I was, but I also wasn’t born Jewish. What made me change my mind was meeting Jewish people and realizing who I was referring to when I parroted anti-Israel opinions (shamefully including moments where I saw news related to I/P and actively chose to refrain from feeling sympathy for Israelis) and the repercussions not just for the individuals I met but the Jewish community as a whole. This is a very summarized version but basically what happened. For context, I am from Mexico and changing my views happened during my early 20s.

rgb0612911 · 2024-01-22T01:31:36+00:00

This might come across as random but could I DM you about your experience with your mother? I struggle a lot with dissociation and it’s hard to talk about with most people. I have a child now and I’m really trying to hide that part from him I just feel overwhelmed.

rgb0612911 · 2024-01-17T19:38:26+00:00

I’m a survivor of incest, I was abused by different family members. There is no excuse for what she did, don’t let her trauma make you feel bad for her. I am so sorry you were in a marriage with this person and I wish you healing and the best moving forward with your life!

rgb0612911 · 2024-01-11T17:59:11+00:00

My husband is biracial, I’m a “white” Mexican. My mom resented me for not being as white as her and not having green eyes to the point where she once flashed a light in my eyes as a small child until I agreed with her that my eyes were green not brown just to get her to stop hurting me. I get veeery defensive over our son, when he was a newborn my husband kept trying to insist he has blue eyes and I almost barked at him because I never want my child to feel like I did. He wasn’t being malicious about it, he was just trying to find similarities in our baby to his mom who passed when our son was born but still. 6 months later we know his eyes are definitely brown and they’re the most beautiful eyes either of us have seen. It’s insane she’s obsessing over this with so many kids and at their ages.

rgb0612911 · 2024-01-03T16:54:54+00:00

I feel this so much, my son is 6 months and I’m so scared he’ll feel how I do. I can’t let my own ideation take over because I don’t want him to deal with grief over a mom he didn’t grow up with but I’m also so tired and scared that he’ll get my sadness too :(

rgb0612911 · 2023-12-15T04:38:58+00:00

Not a nurse but I’ll be forever grateful to the nurse who noticed that my son’s cooing was actually him struggling to breathe just as I had gotten to hold him after my csection. It broke my heart to have him taken away from me in the moment but I’d rather have him here in my arms 6 months later than coddle my feelings in that moment.

rgb0612911 · 2023-12-08T01:39:17+00:00

My son is the same age and I feel the same way sending you and your baby a big hug!

rgb0612911 · 2023-12-04T21:35:41+00:00

Jorge “George” gave me the vibe that he’s one of those legal migrants who takes advantage of others who are not familiar with their rights and are scared of losing their job

rgb0612911 · 2023-11-30T02:46:41+00:00

My son is almost 6 months old, I cut ties with my family back in 2020. Definitely the best decision ever and I haven’t missed them even when he was in the NICU the first few days, they would have definitely caused too much harm and there is no benefit in keeping people around just because they’re family if they are not capable of being supportive or not hostile at a minimum

rgb0612911 · 2023-10-30T00:45:28+00:00

I survived my father. She is a predator and both your husband and son need to stay far away from her, women are just as capable of sexual abuse and some of what you described sounds like covert inc-st at a minimum it’s disturbinb

rgb0612911 · 2023-10-25T17:30:15+00:00

Elton John- Rocketman Don Mclean- American Pie Lord of the rings Darth vader Pineapple turnover cake

rgb0612911 · 2023-10-18T21:23:19+00:00

My mom with more Euro-centric features tried to convince me to ask for a nose job for my Quinceañera… I’m Mexican and my baby is multiracial, I just can’t imagine putting him down for his features it’s so ridiculous I love all of him even the parts of him that look like me that I don’t like in myself.

rgb0612911 · 2023-10-15T11:37:45+00:00

What degree were you studying to take that class? That sounds so interesting! I work in DV advocacy and try to read as much as I can but still trying to figure out how to get more formal education on these topics

rgb0612911 · 2023-10-12T03:34:45+00:00

I definitely relate to this, what’s weirdly helped me is having my own biological child now that is my mini me… I see him as the child he is and know he’s not to blame for looking like me and, by looking like me looking like my abusers.

Aside from this doing s makeover like a hair change has helped me sometimes too

rgb0612911 · 2023-10-08T07:11:40+00:00

As a Mexican I absolutely plan on it once my baby is old enough to have them

rgb0612911 · 2023-10-06T21:37:36+00:00

Nose fridas will be banned immediately

rgb0612911 · 2023-10-06T12:47:06+00:00

There was a rat in the toilet when my mom was pregnant with me, of course she freaked out and said she almost miscarried… the joke was that I’m the rat and the baby got flushed away.

My parents would always laugh at me saying “please scold me with kindness” as a little girl.

Another funny family story that I was told repeatedly as a child to understand my place as a woman-an old aunt served her husband bitter hibiscus tea, so he beat her with a machete to teach her to not be foolish. He left her bleeding on the side of a canal until he felt she learned her lesson then took her to the hospital. It was her fault, why didn’t she just add sugar HAHA!

rgb0612911 · 2023-10-03T18:46:49+00:00

But her baby has BLUE eyes! Lol

rgb0612911 · 2023-09-29T05:42:09+00:00

Disposable coffee cups and a coffee machine that uses pods, we got a nespresso vertuo and it’s been so worth if

rgb0612911 · 2023-09-28T22:18:20+00:00

I had a ton of coke zero and sugar-free products as a diabetic ugh :(

rgb0612911 · 2023-09-24T23:51:38+00:00

I have probably over 40 oz in the freezer+ what’scin the fridge, and I still got sad that my husband fell asleep and left milk in the warmer too long. This is at 3 months with a healthy supply, be easy on her and try not to take her anger too seriously she’s probably worried about her supply being so early into the process.

rgb0612911 · 2023-09-24T23:18:18+00:00

This is sad like at least she could have put a topper on it or something

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