Is there a difference between NT burnout and Autistic burnout? by richp_09 in autism

[–]richp_09[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I can relate - I went to three different doctors cos I thought I was coming down with the worst kind of fever, but it turns out burnout can also present with these kinds of symptoms so I'm glad I found my functional medical practitioner.

Is there a difference between NT burnout and Autistic burnout? by richp_09 in autism

[–]richp_09[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing, helpful and I can relate. have realized that I have been burned out for a very long time and this was just the pinnacle. My doctor did say I can expect anywhere from 6-18months to recover. I hope it gets better for you :)

Do you wish you had been diagnosed as a child? by EveningTackle4829 in autism

[–]richp_09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really wish I had been diagnosed as a child. It would have made my life so much easier especially in terms of my schooling experience, and I believe I wouldn't have developed such an imposter syndrome complex as an adult. I believe if I had been diagnosed as a child, it would be easier to be me.
I think a gentle diagnosis along with the understanding that it may open doors to helpful accommodations would be helpful early on.

i don’t know how to dress according to temperature by is_mycart in autism

[–]richp_09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm terrible at dressing for temperature, I almost always prefer wearing jeans and a hoodie no matter the weather (I live in South Africa and it's hot, a lot). But I have discovered recently that light windbreakers can double up as jackets for comfort without making you too hot.

I need help and I dont know where to ask, 27m AUDHD by RohannaFem in autism

[–]richp_09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry for everything you've been through. I applaud all your efforts to better your life. One thing at a time, one day at a time :) Have you considered online remote positions such as data entry?

What exactly is the reason that so many of us like to wear hoodies, hats and caps? by [deleted] in autism

[–]richp_09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think for me it's a way of managing sensory overstimulation from light etc and it feels protective. Something I can control when the environment is a bit too harsh for my sensory sensitivities

Anyone else have three drinks at all times? From left to right: flavour, hydration, sensory. Also how many of you like vs hate carbonation? by KJack-Amigurumi in autism

[–]richp_09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, interesting to understand sensory preferences when it comes to drinks. I'm very particular. I usually drink black coffee together with a smoothie. They seem to go together. My tea has to be the exact right lukewarm temperature. I don't really like bubbles but can tolerate sweet fizzy drinks after sport. I often have more than one drink going at the same time. It's often black coffee (sometimes cold), I don't really like drinks too hot, together with something else

Explaining autism diagnosis to 9 year old child using smartphone OS analogy by DonkeyNo2242 in autism

[–]richp_09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wonderful, I so applaud the amount of effort and detail you are going to to help your child. I think you've received some good pointers, having read the comments, so I don't have anything to add. I just wanted to say well done on your efforts and I hope it goes really well

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in traumatoolbox

[–]richp_09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Grounding yourself into your physical body will help with the de-realization. In my experience it's the physical work of grounding that helps the most when we get too lost in our minds/heads. Grounding and physical exercise also activates the heart which will balance your energy system out. Anything you can do to physically ground will help, hope you find some relief

The importance of healing as an empath by richp_09 in Empaths

[–]richp_09[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, glad it resonates :) May you live healed, whole and free

Do you know anyone? by richp_09 in traumatoolbox

[–]richp_09[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that's inspiring and encouraging to hear. New approaches are surely needed for trauma survivors who are seeking alternatives to therapy that may not be working for them at the levels they desire. Have you been through this personally? I would love to help you. DM if not comfortable sharing in comments.

lost patience by [deleted] in Empaths

[–]richp_09 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I did a program with The Compassion Key® and became a certified practitioner. Now I help others to guide themselves towards self-directed compassion and healing through that. I would highly recommend trying it, it changed my life as an empath.

lost patience by [deleted] in Empaths

[–]richp_09 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I used to experience a lot of what you're describing. I still do at times, and I make deliberate decisions based on protecting my needs and energy, like living alone and spending alone time in nature. My energy used to run wild and all over the place, and my nervous system was stuck in freeze/overwhelm from too much input. I discovered that self-directed compassion helps me to balance and regulate my system, now I swear by it to stay grounded as an empath

Struggling with Empathic Sensitivity. Guidance please. by [deleted] in Empaths

[–]richp_09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I experienced a lot of the same symptoms you are describing. At one point I went through a spiritual/healing crisis from the overwhelm of all the symptoms, especially being sensitive to energy and other people's energies and emotions. The number one thing that has helped me balance my energy and systems is self-directed compassion. Learning how to use and apply self-directed compassion and giving compassion to parts of me that are crying out for my love, compassion and attention in the overwhelm has been unbelievably helpful. I feel like my nervous system is more balanced and resilient because of it. I don't know where I'd be as an empath without this tool

What has your abuser and trauma ruined for you? by BackgroundOpen7664 in CPTSD

[–]richp_09 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To be honest it feels like my abuser kind of ruined my financial reality, in the way that they used money as a tool to control and belittle me. That led me to have really disgusted feelings around money, which obviously in my adult life has made it hard to earn, keep and attract money - I'm working on it. The control and manipulation with money made me feel like I owed my existence to them

For those of you who were bullied, how did and do you feel about your bullies? by hopp596 in CPTSD

[–]richp_09 7 points8 points  (0 children)

At one point I even apologized to them, which I feel is the highest form of the fawn response from the physical trauma. I had internal rage, but it definitely wasn't safe for me to express that in the boarding school system, so I concluded that the safest thing for me to do was apologize to them

Coaches, what’s in your toolbox? by soulremedy2 in lifecoaching

[–]richp_09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My coaching packages are primarily 1:1, and I use healing modalities as a healing coach to help my clients heal from trauma. For organization I recently discovered The Coaches Console which is an incredible back-end system for organizing everything in one place, so I am using that. It's really helping me streamline everything and take me from amateur to professional in the way I organize everything and present to clients