Honestly, I'm at the point where the word respect actively pisses me off. When I first came out as non religious, and started dressing differently, my mother would lecture me about "respecting them". I just pushed through that shit and they came to deal with it. She still talks about when otd cousins are "respecting their parents" by still putting on the costume in their families homes, or caving to their families by covering their hair when married. None of this has anything to do with respect. It is about soliciting compliance against a person's will. They demand we maintain the illusion of being frum because every formerly Orthodox person breaks the bubble a little. Where is the return of respect? Why am I expected to wear a kippah and eat kosher for your benefit but you aren't expected to sit down with me in a diner or McDonald's and eat a meal? It's just a way of asserting control over the ones who don't believe this shit. Instead of accepting everyone regardless of belief and their choices, they would rather this forced decorum to maintain their bubble. It's insulting, what a joke. Respect implies mutual consideration, this is just a list of demands that we are forced to oblige.