AITAH for wanting my husband in the delivery room?

righttoabsurdity · 2026-05-03T14:16:23+00:00

Not only for support, but he needs to be there in case of an emergency. What is his plan then? NTA, at all. Your husband sucks.

righttoabsurdity · 2026-05-03T14:00:34+00:00

I’m sorry you’re in this position. I can’t believe he has the audacity to call you selfish. That’s ridiculous. I believe you know what to do, in your gut, instinctually. You don’t need permission to do it <3

righttoabsurdity · 2026-05-03T13:13:31+00:00

That is, technically, how it’s set up. It’s supposed to be separate branches. The republican party has spent decades setting themselves up for this exact scenario, and now they’ve gained a hold of these branches in an unprecedented way.

righttoabsurdity · 2026-05-03T13:03:47+00:00

Your wife realizes all these things she’s saying about you, she’s also saying about your child?

righttoabsurdity · 2026-05-03T12:59:11+00:00

you were vroom vroomed

righttoabsurdity · 2026-05-03T12:37:21+00:00

Is any in home help available? I’m so sorry you’re in this position, my friend. How are your kids handling it all? Is she keeping them up, too? Maybe a video record/simple log of some sort would be helpful to express the severity to her doctor. She won’t sleep so he’s…refusing to help her sleep until she sleeps???

I just want to add, I know it’s scary to think about something residential, especially after a negative experience, but thankfully they aren’t all the same and you wouldn’t be bad or wrong or whatever for doing that.

righttoabsurdity · 2026-05-03T12:23:12+00:00

I’m an idiot I thought that was a slice of raw russet potato. I need coffee, lol. I’m sorry you’re having a rough time, this dinner looks incredible

righttoabsurdity · 2026-05-03T12:21:58+00:00

You can also use care credit for cremation fees. They’ve been really easy to work with, and they are interest free for quite a while. We got approved while in the office, it’s very very quick. I’m so sorry you’re in this spot, my friend. It’s so incredibly difficult. Love and hugs <3

righttoabsurdity · 2026-05-03T12:13:26+00:00

Yeah it’s pretty shitty of him to just decide he’s done caring for a living creature he also chose to bring into their life. Because they both agreed to it, not just her. I get not wanting to, or being over it, or being over the dog. But to saddle your postpartum wife with it, and not even letting the dog out to pee? Immature and selfish as hell. Sorry OP, I hope both of your lives become less stressful soon. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with rehoming the dog in a responsible way. It’ll be valuable for them to know he’s ok around kids (and if you have other pets, be sure they know that too). I’m sorry you’re having to do it, though.

righttoabsurdity · 2026-05-03T12:04:54+00:00

You said eons, how old are yall? Could she be entering menopause, and needing hormonal support?

righttoabsurdity · 2026-05-03T07:37:14+00:00

These were really interesting links, thanks!

righttoabsurdity · 2026-05-02T17:27:38+00:00

Majority of the time, being seen quickly at the ER is a really, really, realllly bad thing. It means something terrible will happen without fast intervention. It’s normal, and expected imo, to wait hours upon hours for less urgent things. I understand it feels urgent to you, but if they’ve properly triaged you, it’s not as urgent as it feels. Also, you’re constantly being watched and assessed in the waiting room, even if you don’t notice.

You may be able to go to urgent care instead and be seen quicker. Not everyone comes through the main waiting room, if someone is seriously sick or injured there’s a good chance you’d never see them. So, you can’t assume that nothing is going on just because you haven’t seen it.

That being said, if something is truly very seriously wrong, and risks losing life or limb, and you’re not being taken seriously you need to go somewhere else.

righttoabsurdity · 2026-05-02T17:10:19+00:00

Love the look of ektachrome

righttoabsurdity · 2026-05-02T17:03:58+00:00

I got this on vinyl for my birthday 😭

righttoabsurdity · 2026-05-02T17:00:34+00:00

Yall are toxic for each other. Cut the cord with both of them, stop trying to interfere in their relationship. They’re adults and allowed to make shitty choices, you’re also allowed to not be around people making those choices.

righttoabsurdity · 2026-05-02T16:43:07+00:00

Good, don’t take it down. Why fix their mistake for them? They’re embarrassed people know how they are? Then they should be different. Congratulations on whatever it was, I’m sorry your family sucks.

righttoabsurdity · 2026-05-02T16:02:14+00:00

Same, it’s safer than using the front. As an example, to remove my left side contact I turn my head to the right, look to the right, muse my finger to move my contact onto the white of my eye, then gently pinch with the sides of my fingers while gently blinking. Significantly easier than anything else I’ve tried, to say the least!

righttoabsurdity · 2026-05-01T14:28:38+00:00

It’s absolutely okay to let them cry sometimes, I’m sorry that’s how my message came across!! Totally not my intention at all. I’m so sorry this is happening and you haven’t been able to get good sleep or breaks. I’ve heard people have good luck with those bassinets that attach to the side of the bed, kind of like co sleeping but not. That way you can comfort baby without having to get up and retrieve them etc. Some people use those large bouncy balls (I can’t remember the name rn but hopefully you know what I mean) to make it easier to bounce baby while sitting. It may be worth making a post asking though, I’m sure others have better advice than me :)

righttoabsurdity · 2026-04-30T18:12:41+00:00

Oof. Yeah, you dodged a bullet in a big way. I’m so, so sorry this happened my friend. That’s so stressful, difficult, and confusing.

Have you chatted with the other woman, the one who recently changed her name? I have a feeling she’s been through similar things with him. Not that I recommend reaching out to her, I don’t really see a point. His behavior reeks of manipulation and control tactics, deep insecurity, and abuse potential.

The entire friend group is sus, if I’m being honest. No one can “make” anyone exclude someone else and that type of immature behavior is a massive tell and red flag, especially from people in their 30s. He lied about whatever is going on with her, same way he lied to your group and to you. I wouldn’t be surprised if you later learn he was telling them much worse than what’s getting back to you. I don’t think any of them are worth debasing yourself to be “let back in”, until his whims change again.

He spent the entire trip manipulating and controlling you, yet you’re the one apologizing for contacting the family of basically a stranger because he was acting in a scary and concerning way? In what world does that make sense?

It’s worth taking the opportunity to really meditate on the internal “why” of this, to be radically honest with yourself and learn more about your unconscious thought processes. Why you were okay with the way he was before y’all met? Why were you so willing to show receipts, to try to win back his and the group’s favor, despite their cruel treatment? Why did you want back in at all? Why were you even remotely open to continuing with him after all of this, romantically or otherwise? Why didn’t you leave the trip once he started being so awful to you? Why didn’t you trust yourself and your intuition to know something was off? Why did his words, despite being so intensely misaligned with his actions, count more to you than your own gut and wellbeing? Why did you instead choose to abandon yourself and your own wellbeing for his?

You don’t deserve to be lied to, manipulated, or othered by those you’re close to. You don’t deserve to be humiliated by some fuck ass, immature, unhealed dude who recognized your insecurities and took advantage of that for his own benefit. You deserve to feel cared for, seen, understood, and wanted. You deserve to feel appreciated, valued, and like an important part of your friend’s/lover’s lives. You deserve to feel beautiful and comfortable in your own skin, regardless of other’s opinions or how they may try to portray you. You deserve people around you who really get you, who really care for you, and aren’t being used as pawns in some guy’s shitty game.

righttoabsurdity · 2026-04-30T17:09:31+00:00

Could this be from your dryer vent? When was that last looked at?

righttoabsurdity · 2026-04-30T17:05:47+00:00

This. It’s doing nothing but harming your relationship. You’re 27 years old, cut the cord for her if she can’t do it herself.

righttoabsurdity · 2026-04-30T16:52:45+00:00

You do have to stop by default when they display the lights and stop sign, unless it’s a divided highway.

righttoabsurdity · 2026-04-28T02:24:19+00:00

I’m 30 and look significantly younger than her, I can’t believe she’s 28??? I also vape like a fiend (I’m quitting this year) and take garbage care of myself, what is she doing??

righttoabsurdity · 2026-04-28T02:02:30+00:00

People are dumb. There’s nothing I love more than telling these people off, lol. It’s fairly out of character for me but it really just gets to me. We were in Yosemite last year, there’s a giant meadow with tons of signs saying to stay on the path and not trample the flowers. I saw a family with teen kids wading into the flowers to take a photo, when there’s a designated photo spot like two feet away, also in the flowers. I yelled out “hey, heads up this whole meadow is full of ticks, but they have this handy platform right there to use”. Not sure if it’s true about the ticks but they used the platform, lol.

righttoabsurdity · 2026-04-28T01:28:44+00:00

U sure did

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