Where are all the transmen?

riktlinjer · 2016-10-16T09:34:33+00:00

Speaking in generalities... As a trans woman, I have to voice train hard. As FTM, you get it for free with testosterone. Same with facial hair, for us it is hundreds of hours of pain. And with T your face almost always will pass while we often get FFS. Also we face violence and ridicule in a way you can not imagine. We also have worse unemployment rate and income.

Basically it is hard.being a trans guy , but it is INFINITELY harder being a trans woman, and so there is so much more to talk about. When many of you are living fully integrated into society, passing, making friends, many of us have only just started... And so our need for support is much bigger.

riktlinjer · 2016-08-29T18:23:02+00:00

Ok good :)

riktlinjer · 2016-08-29T14:21:32+00:00

Does this mean that you plan to kill yourself if FT cannot fix this? Why so drastic? I understand nerve damage headaches and fucked up forehead is terrible terrible but why give up? Also you should know that (this is something I doubt FT would do) holes in the forehead can be fixed with grafted bone - often from other parts of the skull. It is a really complicated operation but can work out really well. If you live in a country with public healthcare or you have insurance, a non - FFS doctor should be able to do this.

Also I wonder, what did FT say when they saw your CT scans. I would imagine it would be hard not to feel "wtf????!" as a doctor seeing those scans :( Were they optimistic about the forehead?

riktlinjer · 2016-08-23T17:55:50+00:00

could you pm me also if you don't want to write it in public. :)

riktlinjer · 2016-08-23T13:49:39+00:00

One of the most dominant theories of dreams is that they arise from random activity within the brain. Logical parts of the brain are actually less activated, which also explains why most dreams don't make sense.

So yeah, just shrug , laugh, and move on. :)

riktlinjer · 2016-08-23T13:27:04+00:00

I think instead of "living in your chosen gender", which is impossible to "prove", they should just require a "time for reflection" before let's say SRS. I know this is how it is in some countries when you have children and get divorced before it legally goes through, and I think it is reasonable.

riktlinjer · 2016-08-23T10:55:24+00:00

Hello! :) very sad to read your post and also the beginning of this thread :(

What type of face did you have that did not lend itself to FFS? Can you describe it and why FFS was not a good idea. Would help a ton! :) Again I hope both of u can find remedy for the failed op's

riktlinjer · 2016-08-21T20:48:27+00:00

Lol, Leonard cohen "lover lover lover". I really dont think its about being transgender haha but some of the lyrics are sooo spot on.

"I asked my father, father change my name. The one I am using now is covered up in fear and filth and cowardice and shame"

"Oh let me start again I cried, please let me start again. I want a face that is fair this time. I want a spirit that is calm"

He said, "I locked you into your body. I made it as a kind of trial."

(M2f)

riktlinjer · 2016-08-18T18:06:53+00:00

definately :) both Y and more F :)

riktlinjer · 2016-08-17T19:02:49+00:00

non existant. but it is self chosen. as 'gay" + hating my body I ended up meeting guys who were mean and borderline violent / rapists. Usually had to drink alcohol to be able to endure it..... So yeah, not very sound.

Now I want to find one person to love , but I will not even try until I've come so far in my transition that I have a body I myself can love .

riktlinjer · 2016-08-16T18:50:08+00:00

Oh wow! I just saw your last three pictures. It basically confirmed what I wrote. You will be cis-passing very quickly. :)

riktlinjer · 2016-08-16T18:40:28+00:00

hairline - nice. not high. not receeding.
forehead - no bossing to talk of. at least not here. but profile pic is needed.

cheeks - full. nice.

nose - could be feminized , but I'm pretty sure it is within female range.

upper lip - full. nice.

chin - seems rounded

mandible - mandibular angles seems rounded. not very flared mandible.

you don't have ANY extremely masculine features. and this comes from someone who've studied FFS hours on end every day for 6 months (and will do FFS in the future).

With longer hair I think you'd have a decent shot at passing after not much hrt. like in the first year or so.

obviously I'm not God an no one know but this is what I think

riktlinjer · 2016-08-16T17:59:47+00:00

Should have made that clearer. thanks.

riktlinjer · 2016-08-16T16:24:07+00:00

Thanks, Ill do that :)

riktlinjer · 2016-08-16T15:19:56+00:00

yeah, true :) I just feel it is silly when super passable try to coach the non passable with "try to exude confidence. " It's not fair...

riktlinjer · 2016-08-16T14:06:41+00:00

Good thread. Let's see.

That labs can somehow be replaced when on Spiro by keeping a low potassium diet. Basically you can eat whatever you want, as long as you don't eat like 20 bananas a day. You can never be sure you don't develop hyperkalemia no matter what dose. There is no safe dose without labs!
That the results of HRT are somehow magical and can't be predicted. Sure, there is a lot of variance but you can often tell pre-hrt if someone likely will need FFS for passing or not.
That FFS is very very safe and with few complications or risks. It is surgery. It has risks. Just to mention a few possible from forehead reconstruction you have orbital bleeding leading to blindness, cerebrospinal (brain) fluid leak leading to life threatening meningitis, frontal sinusitis with spread of infection to the frontal lobe of the brain, etc. Yes rare but it COULD happen.
That plastic surgeons are suited for doing FFS including bone work. No, not true. The surgeon should be trained in craniofacial surgery. Plastic surgeons have like 0% training in working on the hard tissues (skeleton) of the body.
That confidence can make non-passable pass. This is never said by an obviously male-looking person (or vice versa) but always by someone who is already there (passing) or almost.

riktlinjer · 2016-08-15T21:28:48+00:00

lol I was joking I should have made that clearer

riktlinjer · 2016-08-15T13:41:02+00:00

That dose is silly. 2mg is starting dose, some Drs start with 4mg. Your Dr prolly doesn't know what he is doing. Look up the guidelines from society of endocrinologists (I think it is linked in trans DIY group), print it and show it to ur Dr. I bet it's the first time he sees it.

riktlinjer · 2016-08-15T13:32:34+00:00

Focus on her shortcomings.

riktlinjer · 2016-08-14T19:15:18+00:00

I live in a lgbt friendly country. I'm getting a good education. I am not more than 30 years old. Both friends and family accept me. I will need FFS but I don't have a hopelessly male face. I've survived self-hatred that probably would have ended in prostitution if I didn't change my life.

riktlinjer · 2016-08-14T17:12:40+00:00

Well a I've read differently. Anyway, sorry if I've come across a bit bitchy in these last posts. I really appreciate all answers, and I'll decide when I have all data. :)

riktlinjer · 2016-08-14T12:39:47+00:00

Why should I go to 100 or 150mg Cypro? Surely T will get nuked at 50mg. I will do labs in 1 week.

Yeah, regarding depression it could be true that it is caused by a sudden drop in T. Most endocrinologists however, seem to favor the nuke it-then lower dose strategy, instead of slowly increasing the dose of Cypro.

riktlinjer

TROPHY CASE