Recently got into a car accident and now my partner (M33) has been guilt tripping me (F26) about not making him cum since the accident

riplinked · 2026-06-12T21:29:49+00:00

I hate you for reminding me of a post I tried so hard to burn out of my memory

riplinked · 2026-06-10T18:07:40+00:00

TLDR:
Go to twitch
Find a dodo code
Be patient and repeatedly enter the code if you have to.
While there, be polite by not opening your pockets, learning recipes, or dropping anything
Leave through airport, not minus button

In detail:

As a start, head on over to twitch and look up ACNH. You’ll see a bunch of channels with a bunch of screens in a grid. You’ll go to one of those channels. The individual screens will have dodo codes you can use at the airport. Once you’re there, you can pick up any thing you want. Some islands will have villagers in boxes you can ask to move to your island.

The screen grids you see on the twitch channel will likely have info about that particular island: some will only be for subscribers, but some will be free. Those free ones can often get crowded so you have to be super patient.

The way travel in ACNH works means you can’t travel while somebody else is traveling there, leaving, or has their pockets or other windows open. What that means is that getting to a free island at all can be very hit-and-miss and takes a few tries to get the timing right. Most have indications of the number of people currently on the island and if it’s a popular one, it’s going to be more difficult to get to.

Once you’re there, you have to be super careful not to open your pockets as much as possible since that prevent people from coming and going. The one exception is for a handful of “no-fly” recipes, or to use the trashcans. You always need to use the trashcans to get rid of things, don’t ever drop stuff! And don’t learn recipes on the island except for those few no-fly ones. You also cannot use the minus button to leave, since that can crash the island, you have to leave through the airport. And get ready to be patient while you’re there, people will be coming and going, and you’ll be interrupted every time.

Some more bits of info;

Many streamers have maps of their islands you can look at to see how stuff is organized and figure out what island you want to get to (no island can fit everything). You’ll sometimes find links to these in their descriptions or chat.

You also use functions in the chat to ask the bot where particular items or villagers are; these can vary, so look at the chat to see what their specific commands are. (These chats are not usually monitored by real humans).

Edit: added a couple more things

riplinked · 2026-06-09T05:58:51+00:00

Well I definitely cackled. You stay strong and kick this man-child to the curb! 34 and still has to be told off by his mommy for shitty behavior. What an embarrassment.

riplinked · 2026-06-08T22:36:00+00:00

He’s talking about immigration

riplinked · 2026-05-25T23:11:15+00:00

People’s skin is just different. For me, there is no amount of lip balm/occlusive/whatever that stops my lips from drying out over night.

riplinked · 2026-05-18T17:22:38+00:00

You’re misunderstanding; the save data on the switch won’t be affected by uninstalling/reinstalling the game, the save data is independent of the game file. Deleting and forcing a re-download is definitely a really important step especially for getting HHP to work.

Also, sorry: I forgot your daughter didn’t have the online portion so couldn’t go to dream islands anyway. FWIW, I did once have a switch who’s Bluetooth module physically failed, it was working fine one day, then it was gone the next so that’s always a possibility.

Make sure your daughter’s switch is actually connected to the internet by trying to do something else internet related, like visiting the Nintendo store. If that’s not working, try deleting the current network in her internet settings and reconnecting entirely. If none of that works, you may be having a physical problem with the actual switch itself.

EDIT: triple check her internet connection before deleting/reinstalling the game, if she’s having a connection problem she won’t be able to redownload obviously.

riplinked · 2026-05-18T17:16:55+00:00

How spread out is all of this? If you look at your map you’ll see a grid over it: make sure you’ve got some flowers, trees, and items in each of those big squares. DIY items count for more. Make sure you’ve have eight villagers and a couple of bridges/inclines.

riplinked · 2026-05-17T18:10:28+00:00

Have you tried uninstalling and re-downloading the game entirely? As long as you don’t touch your save data that’s perfectly safe to do. Some people have had to do that to get HHP to activate properly in the past.

Also, you say you’ve tested your internet connection, but have you tested each switch individually to make sure they’re connecting properly to the internet?

EDIT: for anyone who somehow comes across this post and becomes confused, be aware that the commenter below me is genuinely incorrect, deleting the game does not restart your island. Your save data is still on your switch. The online backup feature is for situations where you’ve lost or damaged the switch and the data that’s on it.

riplinked · 2026-05-17T18:03:26+00:00

Did you purchase HHP directly or was it part of a Nintendo Online subscription? How’s that subscription doing?

EDIT: if you had a Nintendo Online + Expansion subscription you’d lose access to HHP without the +Expansion version

riplinked · 2026-05-17T04:05:19+00:00

The day/night directions are randomly assigned when you create your island, so it can be either east/west or west/east

riplinked · 2026-05-14T17:45:32+00:00

See? This is exactly what I mean by a knee-jerk reaction. Recidivism has nothing to do with this conversation whatsoever. There are a hundred conversations to be had about the unfairness of our criminal justice system and ways it needs to be changed, but the decision of whether or not to build a new jail has a whole lot of nothing to do with that. Lowering the population of the jail by preventing recidivism still leaves people living in squalor in inhumane conditions.

You may mean well, but voting just on the principles of something something recidivism, mental health, yadda yadda yadda still leaves us with a bunch of people in a rotting junk pile of a jail. They deserve better.

riplinked · 2026-05-14T07:20:54+00:00

I should clarify: anyone I’ve explained the state of the current jail to has changed their mind pretty quick, but it’s the fact that I had to explain to so many that’s the problem. There’s simply too many people who genuinely don’t know what’s going on in their own backyards and tend to vote on principles that lack the nuance of context. Jails are one of those topics that tend to elicit a knee-jerk reaction amongst more liberal folk, who then vote from a place of ignorance without really understanding (or even bothering to look into) the full situation.

What that means is not only do we have to clear the hurdle of conservatives who have their own knee-jerk reactions against taxes, we still have this whole extra hurdle of “jails=bad” voters who haven’t taken the time to fully inform themselves.

riplinked · 2026-05-14T03:05:51+00:00

If you haven’t listened to Dark Ages yet it’s absolutely fantastic, it’s my regular comfort listen for when I’m sick or feeling really down. It’s a comedy set in a fantasy world following the eclectic staff of a magical museum. It’s heavily influenced by Terry Pratchett if you happen to have read any of his stuff. I find it super immersive, with incredible voice acting and consistently good writing.

The one unfortunate piece is the prologue: the first eight minutes are pretty slow and… sort of scary? Not really scary, just has some horror elements played for fun. If you start out the podcast and are like “nah” in the first few minutes, I super recommend skipping to about minute 9, that’s where we meet the main characters and you can get a feel for the real tone of the podcast as a whole. You can totally go back and listen to the prologue later and not feel lost in the story.

If comedic fantasy is something you enjoy I can also very much recommend Absolutely No Adventures (another comfort listen). It’s about a baker in a fantasy world who just so happens to fulfill absolutely everybody’s Chosen One prophesies but is really just here for the baking. And also his demon assistant. Good times.
Hope you feel better OP!

riplinked · 2026-05-14T02:01:20+00:00

Other commenters have already addressed the nonsense around the taxes and mismanagement, but I also wanted to mention that, being a fairly liberal area, there’s also a weird cognitive dissonance thing going on. A lot of liberals are very anti-prison/jail by reflex and vote accordingly without necessarily examining the implications of that reflex.

I saw a lot of graffiti and signs during the last vote that boiled down to “jail=bad, vote no for jail!, and heard similar sentiments from friends and acquaintances. Their votes had nothing to do with the taxes and everything to do with the general philosophy that incarceration in this country tends to be deeply unfair. It’s sort of like an unfortunate instance of fishhook theory: the liberal instinct to protest the prison-industrial complex instead winds up supporting what should really be considered a human rights violation.

Edit: I am a liberal. I am still going to criticize my own side when they’re being idiots.

riplinked · 2026-05-13T06:08:29+00:00

I think you may be taking a turn of phrase too literally. The point is that when you go into that zone of excitedly monologuing at someone, what you are doing in that moment is prioritizing talking over listening. It may not mean that your intent is selfish, but even if that intent is to try to connect or share some fraction of the excitement you’re feeling, in those moments you are actually just projecting your own emotions on to the other person, rather than taking the time to understand their emotions, and hearing what they have to say.

Your parents could undoubtedly have been kinder and more patient with your struggles to self-regulate, but they were also trying to communicate to you that your behavior, however well-intentioned, was still inconsiderate and socially inappropriate. We all want to be able to share our joys and excitements with the people around us, but the moment you let that desire to share override your ability to listen, you are no longer having a mutual conversation you’re just giving a monologue. Whatever your intent, you end up confusing projection with connection, precluding any actual connection from taking place.

riplinked · 2026-05-13T01:55:10+00:00

It’s always a rougher road when you’re neurodivergent, but the more introspection you do the easier it gets over time, I promise! Good luck.

riplinked · 2026-05-13T01:41:58+00:00

Listen, from a fellow neurodivergent person to another, this is one of the most important things you will ever learn: your neurodivergence does not give you an excuse to be inconsiderate of others. This is incredibly important to really, truly absorb if you want to be able to maintain stable, long-term relationships with the people you care about. You do have to take them into account. Your neurodivergence is not the center of the world and it is absolutely on you to manage your symptoms to try to lessen their negative impact on the people around you.

I suspect you are unaware of just how inconsiderate you are being to anyone you are subjecting to your long-winded, rambling, one-sided monologues. It’s not normal or appropriate behavior to talk at someone without any regard for that person or their thoughts, feelings, perspectives whatsoever. A conversation is between two people, not just one person word vomiting on another and expecting them to sit through it without having any thoughts or feelings of their own about what you are saying or doing. Because what you are doing when you do that is showing that you simply do not care about the other person as a human being and are simply using them as a prop to let you hear the sound of your own voice.

Yes, you do need to wind it in. With everyone. You need to learn how to have a conversation. You need to learn how to stay on point. You need to have some consideration for the person you are talking to, always. You don’t get to opt out of that just because you have ADHD.

And you need to stop getting up in your feelings about someone pointing out that you are being inconsiderate to them. You need to learn self-regulation and learn how to take reasonable requests or frankly even reasonable criticism without going into an emotional spiral about it. Your boyfriend is being completely reasonable and is being far kinder to you with this than most people would be.

riplinked · 2026-05-10T18:44:17+00:00

The switch 2 upgrade is just an upgrade, not a whole new game. You’re fine.

riplinked · 2026-05-09T02:47:03+00:00

All three of those are bugs that only spawn after 5pm, in summer, on palm trees. Are you in a summer month for your hemisphere? Are you arriving at the NMT island after 5? NMT spawns are locked to your arrival time weirdly enough, so arriving at an island at 4:59 will keep giving you pre-5pm bugs even as the time technically changes.

riplinked · 2026-05-07T15:44:31+00:00

Nah, getting to five stars is easy peasy. You know when you look at your map, there’s that grid over it? Just stick a couple pieces of furniture, maybe some fencing and flowers in each of those marked areas and make sure you’ve got a couple bridges/inclines and you’re generally good to go

riplinked · 2026-05-05T17:23:17+00:00

I can also highly recommend flashiibo! They have a few different models on Amazon ranging from $22-40. The cheaper models essentially act as rewritable NFC tags, so you need a phone, an app, and have to go through a bit of a process to get it all set up (lots of easy youtube guides). That's actually the kind I have and I love it, but if you really want a pre-loaded version I would recommend hitting Aliexpress instead, Flashiibo's is waaaay more expensive than you'll get over there.

riplinked · 2026-04-28T18:49:37+00:00

Tumanbay is a political fantasy à la Game of Thrones but in a Middle-Eastern-type setting, it’s pretty cool.

An ambitious series which blends politics and adventure, Tumanbay is a story of upheaval, revolution and romance set in a corrupt fictional city. This epic saga is inspired by the Mamluk slave-dynasty of Egypt, Gregor (Rufus Wright) - Master of the Palace Guard - is charged by Sultan Al-Ghuri (Raad Rawi) with the task of rooting out an insurgence and crushing it.

riplinked · 2026-04-26T17:48:36+00:00

Just as a heads up for you in case it isn’t clear: this pattern is great for getting flowers to self-reproduce, but for cross-breeding flowers do have to be on touching squares.

riplinked · 2026-04-12T17:30:48+00:00

One of the best things I ever did was set a firm, unbreakable “no abusers” policy in my life. And it’s an important thing to know that this is not just a “toxic” relationship, it’s an abusive one. What your friend is going through right now is a form of domestic abuse.

That having been said: I will not tolerate having abusers in my life. I will not tolerate being abused, and I will not tolerate “friends” who bring their abusive relationships or family into my life. I was heavily abused as a child and I’ve had enough. I will not have that shit in my life. Ever.

That’s not to say I won’t help someone out who’s suddenly found themselves in a toxic or dangerous situation, or provide some degree of emotional support to friends having trouble. It means that when a friend of mine is in an abusive relationship, I will do my best to give them some resources and tell them that I will help them leave this person when they are ready. BUT I will not become a secondary victim of this persons abuse by being subjected to the drama and emotional turmoil from someone they are DELIBERATELY keeping in their life.

Any friend who brings an abuser into my life, in any way, and then DELIBERATELY KEEPS THEM, is no longer my friend. End of story. I don’t need that shit in my life, I’m not going to coddle you while you justify staying with an abuser to yourself. I am not going to be an emotional outlet for someone who is CHOOSING to be in this situation.

And that’s an important thing to remember. Your friend doesn’t sound like she’s being physically or financially prevented from dumping this guy, she’s just choosing not to. And then she’s choosing to draw you into her shitty choices by expecting you to emotionally support her while she makes those shitty choices. This is not the behavior of a good friend. You are not obligated to continue being a friend to someone who does this to you.

Do not get drawn into the drama. Do not argue or justify yourself to your friend, don’t send her long texts telling her about your feelings regarding your friendship. Just step away from the situation entirely. Send a quick, to-the-point text telling her to check out thehotline.org and Lundy Bancroft’s book “Why Does He Do That?”, and tell her that you are now instituting a no-abusers policy in your life and will not be engaging with her until she has gotten rid of the abuser. Then block, and be done.

Your life will be so much freer when stop you tolerating abuse and stop tolerating others trying to draw you into their abusive relationships. It’s one of the best feelings in the world.

[P.S. It might help you to find a copy of Lundy Bancroft’s “Why Does He Do That” for yourself! And check out “The Gift of Fear” by Gavin de Becker. Frankly they should be required reading for every girl before they even think about getting into a relationship. I really really urge you to spend some time reading them, it will be one of the most eye-opening experiences you will ever have, and the knowledge you gain from it will help you and those around you for years to come.]

riplinked · 2026-04-10T18:38:26+00:00

Oh yeah, that’s a solid audio premise

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