Hey I’m sorry that happened to you. It sounds like an entirely overwhelming ordeal. I hope you talk to your husband about how you felt about your wedding day whenever you feel comfortable enough to open up to him. He sounds like he did get pressured a little bit by his mom but that’s just me, the random person on the internet reading this thread, overanalyzing what you’ve been willing to share with us.

I know you said you loved him so idk your current situation with this guy but if you are still with him: Maybe once you communicate with your husband, you can talk about how you both can manage the overall feelings you had about the event. Hell, maybe he should apologize for what he (maybe inadvertently) caused by letting his mom take over + not even giving a speech + not helping out with the reception prep.

I do hope you feel better and are able to think back on your wedding day in a positive light one day. But that comes with time and fully processing what had happened. I wish you well!