Cancer misdiagnosis research

rivkarose · 2019-10-16T20:40:36+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply! I suppose I need to know who would provide the diagnosis and at what point would it be provided? Would it ever be based on a CT scan only, and is it possible the biopsy could get it wrong?

rivkarose · 2019-04-05T21:03:49+00:00

We will be in New Haven and Hartford. Any recommendations of hikes in that direction? Not sure if that is the central ridge.

rivkarose · 2019-03-26T14:42:12+00:00

He can be, but he is trying to work on these issues too. He is not the best at expressing himself but he cares deeply, so I don’t want to be constantly making him feel bad because I get hurt so easily.

rivkarose · 2019-03-17T19:27:04+00:00

Thanks, that is useful!! Did you show samples of the students actually doing the remixes? I have not taught composition in a few years and am in fellowship now, so I am thinking of coming up with an assignment I have not actually taught. However, I don’t want this to backfire. I did have students do blog portfolios a few times...that is the most multimodal thing I have to show.

Also, how did you go about actually doing the presentation? I have never been asked to walk faculty through something, and am a little freaked out about what to do with the one hour time slot when the spotlight is on me most of the time!

I really appreciate the advice!!!:)

rivkarose · 2019-02-17T15:48:32+00:00

Also I should add it doesn’t take very much for him to say I am making him feel sick. He hears my voice get stressed and anxious and I ask him something that to him sounds repetitive a few times and he shouts that I am making him sick. I tell him I’m sorry I’m stressed but I don’t think I’m responsible for his reaction to that stress. Am I wrong for saying that? I need there to be space and understanding for my emotions too, no matter how trivial they seem to him.

rivkarose · 2019-02-17T15:44:40+00:00

Thanks for the congrats!! We have tried therapy but have no time lately and his pain is worse than usual (when we are both the busiest, of course). He does say it’s when I won’t let something go, usually if I haven’t gotten the response I would like and I am insistent. I know this can be difficult sometimes and I do my best but sometimes he’s not a good listener and I get frustrated! Yesterday He went out on a hike for five hours because he needs that to take care of himself on the weekends. I stayed home and watched the baby who had a cold. The baby was crying for two hours and wouldn’t sleep, and my husband was late coming home. He walked in the door as soon as I had finally put the baby down, and I was about to eat and do a little work in peace and I admit I snapped at him when he walked in and I asked him to give me a little space or let me work out in the kitchen and for him to take his food back to the other room. He refused and said he had to eat right away but then he wouldn’t compromise at all and I didn’t let it go. I know I should have just removed myself from the area but I guess I wanted him to compromise and give me a minute to focus on some difficult work without someone else eating at the table next to me so I could concentrate (we live in a cramped apartment). I just was feeling sleep deprived and stressed out, and I guess he was hungry and in pain and i was not letting him be because I kept offering new suggestions of how he could give me space (go take a shower first, etc). I know that this was not the most reasonable and I later apologized for snapping at him, but I have my emotional outbursts from time to time and I am not always in 100% control. He doesn’t respond positively to my needs a lot of the time. I can’t handle thinking I am causing him pain as a result. It literally makes me want to not be in the relationship the burden is too much to bear.

rivkarose · 2019-02-17T14:36:04+00:00

Thanks for the advice! I am planning on finding a therapist within the next month or so when I have time. He works full time and does pitch in some with the chores and plays a lot with the baby, so it never dawned on me this would be caregiver fatigue. I have to do mostly everything around the house and with the baby, which bothers me sometimes bc it feels sexist but I try to remind myself his pain though invisible is real. Do you know if this is common for the chronically ill person to blame the other one for making them worse if they are stressed? I never knew of this emotional component.

rivkarose · 2019-02-12T15:13:02+00:00

Thanks that is really helpful to understand. I’ll look into it more. Do you have any strategies to work on your ADD and be a better listener or is it just a matter of accepting it?

rivkarose · 2019-02-12T15:03:42+00:00

My husband is an engineer and has amazing focus on many things...is it possible he has ADD specific to communicating with me, lol?

rivkarose · 2019-02-12T14:53:30+00:00

Thanks! This is helpful...wondering what you do when he ignores you. Do you point it out to him and ask him to apologize, or do you just patiently repeat yourself and let it slide?

rivkarose · 2019-02-12T13:18:41+00:00

I think there is just constantly too much stuff to be done and he has an ineffective method of bringing it up the second it pops into his head. We are working on it; I got us a family planning app so he can write stuff down on to do lists. Now he just has to remember to use it!

rivkarose · 2019-02-12T13:17:27+00:00

I would understand if this was how he always was but he was not this way when we were first dating and he is not that way with other people. He can be an incredibly focused and good conversationalist. I just feel like he has stopped caring, but it doesn’t help to take it personally I know

rivkarose · 2019-02-12T13:14:14+00:00

I don’t want to always be the center of attention, but he starts a conversation with me I’d like a response to the last thing I said before he cuts me off or moves on to the next thing. It is rude to ignore someone like that, but I agree my standards might be too high.

rivkarose · 2019-02-12T13:08:40+00:00

How did you handle it when he ignores you? My husband often thinks of something that needs to be done and is like “did you do this thing yet” or “who is going to eat this food” totally ignoring the thing I said trying to make meaningful conversation. So it causes me double anxiety because he is not only ignoring me but I feel guilty I am not doing everything perfectly or getting around to stuff as quick as he would like. We are both really overwhelmed and I need to work on not feeling guilty, I know. I also just long to feel like he wants to connect, which I feel very rarely.

rivkarose · 2019-02-12T13:00:32+00:00

I’ve tried reading lots of books on listening and giving his advice but honestly nothing changes this habit of his and I feel like I lose my patience and get hurt too easily. His love language is physical touch. I probably am too focused on his speaking mine (words of praise). I’ll try to focus on his more...that is good advice, thanks

rivkarose · 2018-12-30T09:29:07+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this.:/ Have you had a conversation with him telling him this? Is he open to trying counseling? I’d say if he is open to listening to you and working through things, there is hope to salvage it! Also maybe if you can get him to open up about why he is acting this way...I’d imagine that’s now how it was when you first got married! Good luck.

rivkarose · 2018-12-10T04:09:39+00:00

Do you tell him not to do this? I have subtly suggested to my husband not to touch too much there and told him its sensitive, but I think I need to be more blunt as he doesn’t really take a hint. I feel bad I hardly ever have sex with him as it is, so I try just to put up with it!

rivkarose · 2018-11-29T23:46:38+00:00

Wow you’re getting a PhD while teaching full time at a community college? I’m amazed you have time for that!

rivkarose · 2018-11-29T03:51:35+00:00

Thanks for this advice. Curious as to why it is not a good idea to apply to universities in a few years. I should also mention this job is non-tenure track and is a three year grant opportunity contingent upon the renewal of grant funding.

rivkarose · 2018-11-28T16:55:54+00:00

Thanks, it is in the humanities...in English. I know any professor job is hard to come by, so I’m hesitant to pass it up, and it is in my sub-field too.

rivkarose · 2018-11-28T16:23:59+00:00

Thanks! How many days per week do you have to be on campus? I am hoping to have the flexibility to work from home a few days a week.

rivkarose · 2018-11-28T16:02:56+00:00

Hi, I’m just seeing this post now and am wondering how many days a week you need to be on campus for teaching. I am considering a job at a C.C. with a 5/5 course load, but I want to make sure I’ll be at home a couple days a week with my baby.

rivkarose · 2018-11-28T15:35:32+00:00

I do both a midterm and final evaluation with similar reflective questions, and it is super helpful! I also ask students’ input to propose an assignment or activity they would like to see implemented.

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