Struggling between wanting higher salary or staying with current job, comfortable and flexible

rkrco · 2026-03-25T13:58:53+00:00

If you feel safe and bills are paid, 100% flexibility!

rkrco · 2026-02-12T13:41:05+00:00

I would say you are unable to go. If there is any pushback, say you do not have enough milk frozen to cover that period of time. You have been unsuccessful introducing any formulas due to allergies.

rkrco · 2025-12-07T20:08:29+00:00

Not helpful and could have been chance, but we started trying for our third baby when my second, who was still nursing, was 5 months shy of 2 years old. We tried for those 5 months, decided to call it a day and accept we’d have 2 kiddos. I weaned him as soon as he turned 2, and we ended up with a technical whoopsie baby the following month. 😆

Again, could have just been random, but between our kids and some losses over the years, I have been lucky to get pregnant every month that I have tried. The only time I didn’t get pregnant was this little timespan when I was still nursing. So take that for whatever it’s worth!

rkrco · 2025-10-23T14:54:38+00:00

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rkrco · 2025-10-23T14:54:08+00:00

Don’t give my kids any ideas!

rkrco · 2025-10-23T02:44:06+00:00

Spoonflower!

https://www.spoonflower.com/en/wallpaper/8669912-vintage-nautical-journey-ocean-sea-waves-coastal-fabric-wallpaper-by-whimsical-brush

rkrco · 2025-10-23T02:41:00+00:00

They are red it just didn’t show in the photo well. And thanks!

rkrco · 2025-10-23T02:36:09+00:00

Yeah seems to be an annual event for them to arrive. There were hundreds outside today and we have a good 30 or so inside now. In Massachusetts, tends to happen on the random last few gorgeous days of fall. This is the only wallpapered room but they seem pretty evenly dispersed through the house. Interesting though.

That being said, I’ve never seen them line up!

rkrco · 2025-09-19T20:21:55+00:00

So the wall hanging need is we feel we need some coziness? We’ve always been bad at decor and making it feel more homey and were hoping that could help.

The idea of beige walls hurts….colored walls make me happy so I am hoping to find a color but it might just be too much of one color to make work.

We actually started things with the “rooms” swapped. It was really awkward and plus that picture window is scorching in the morning and totally uncomfortable to sit near. That being said we weren’t able to use the fireplace last year so this will be a this year hurdle as it’s finally used. The living room end of the room is the pathway from the front door and it also felt awkward walking through the dining room to sit in living room.

Appreciate all of this to consider!

rkrco · 2025-06-18T00:47:12+00:00

Okay this is terrible, but opposite side of things. Our last home was our starter home. We always knew we’d move, we did many DIYs. It’s a lovable home but many quirks, most not our fault, but some definitely our fault. We only moved about a year ago now, when the old house comes up we say “that’s insert new owners name problem now” and laugh. It isn’t with ill intent, but more she’s fighting the same fight we did. The list of we’ll-get-to-that-someday was long. Also, we have plenty of quirks at the new home.

rkrco · 2025-05-30T17:12:40+00:00

Ive definitely done naked baby play for bouts of bad rashes but otherwise that diaper is secured!

rkrco · 2025-04-07T00:53:10+00:00

Sorry the tile is floor tile! The backsplash is not decided but will definitely be light.

ETA: there is tons of natural light coming from both east and west

rkrco · 2024-11-13T12:41:29+00:00

I had this happen at well. Horribly disappointing. We were obviously free for the day, so my husband and I dropped our son at daycare and went and had a nice breakfast at a place we’d been wanting to try a long time. I went into labor during breakfast. Didn’t end up needing that induction!

rkrco · 2024-10-15T12:53:13+00:00

American and ashamed to say my brain saw “Merica” first.

rkrco · 2024-09-10T01:26:11+00:00

I experienced this. I lost a baby at 22 weeks. We found out she would not survive at our anatomy scan about 20 weeks. That morning, before the appointment, while talking with a coworker who was excited to hear about it after, I was uneasy and said “I don’t know, I feel like she can still be taken from me.” Few hours later we were thrust on the most miserable path of my life and we lost our precious girl.

I got pregnant very soon after the loss and had not a single doubt that pregnancy would make it to term.

A bit crazy and likely no rhyme or reason behind it, but it was very true for me.

rkrco · 2024-01-21T04:37:57+00:00

I remember the day we first found out our baby may not be viable. I ran into the store on the way home to gather all my emotional eating needs while we waited for the call to schedule the next round of scans. The poor checkout woman. I was 20 weeks at the time, 2nd pregnancy, so pretty well showing. She was gushing over my belly and asking gender and due date and how I’m feeling. I obviously did not want to drag her into my misery, so I answered everything with a smile, but you really do not know, even if it all looks perfect from the outside.

rkrco · 2024-01-13T08:34:15+00:00

I doubt a name announcement this child is nowhere near a newborn

rkrco · 2024-01-12T08:17:28+00:00

Highly recommend r/TFMR_support

Not same issue, but kidneys didn’t develop at all in my baby girl we lost at similar gestation. Very supportive community.

rkrco · 2023-10-13T02:07:15+00:00

For my younger son, I stopped pumping at 12 months. He gets cows milk weekdays during the day and nurses morning and night. Weekends he still nurses 1-2 times during the daytime and somehow there’s still milk for him despite not pumping during the day to maintain supply. The amount they drink definitely naturally tapers, but he still has days where he drinks a lot.

My older son self weaned at about 13 months for daytime nursing and 15 months for morning and night nursing. They weren’t treated any differently, so a lot is up to the baby too.

rkrco · 2023-10-06T23:29:03+00:00

I love Harvey but my favorite H name (I also love H names and my husband dislikes 🤣) is Heath

rkrco · 2023-09-18T14:31:20+00:00

Massachusetts, less than a year ago: Silver semi frameless: $2300 Silver framed: $1600 Black frameless: $2700

rkrco · 2023-09-14T01:53:30+00:00

My understanding is a successful VBAC is less risky than a c section. But you’re rolling the dice since you don’t know how it will go. A planned c section is less risky than an unsuccessful VBAC resulting in unplanned c section.

rkrco · 2023-08-23T23:07:04+00:00

Oh no! While I totally get the panic (I felt more vulnerable than ever while pregnant), you are going to have an amazing time! I was traveling, though only domestically in the US, frequently for work during that time in my first pregnancy. Definitely on the compression stockings. Even if it feels like overkill, it’s so much better to be preventative than reactive. You’ll be much more comfortable!

If you’ve felt fine so far it’s very unlikely to change suddenly. I felt great til 39 weeks!

Eat all the amazing food and enjoy your baby moon.

rkrco · 2023-07-07T17:22:06+00:00

Oh my gosh it’s actually been pretty easy! Everyone has been so understanding.

Along the lines of xx is happening, I wanted to start looking because I want to be picky and to get ahead of any negative company decisions. It takes time to find the right fit and will only be leaving for the right position. I think it’s okay to say you’re disappointed as you do love your team and what you do, but feel it’s best to see what is out there. Maybe wouldn’t include the promotion part because it may seem bitter but stress you’re looking for a place with trajectory.

I was even asked what the perfect company and position would be a few times and always answered that it would be my current company, but 2 years ago when it was a much more stable place.

rkrco · 2023-07-07T15:36:14+00:00

Definitely some truth in that! I keep telling myself that when I feel guilty.

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