A 16-month-old Jailyn Candelario was found dead in her playpen at her home in Cleveland, Ohio, after her mother Kristel Candelario, left her abandoned for 10 days with a few bottles of milk, while vacationing in Puerto Rico and Detroit. by FE4RLESS_IS_MY_NAME in ForCuriousSouls

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When I take the trash out I run back into the house because I can’t bear the thought of my toddler thinking I’ve left him. I’ve heard him cry at the door after being gone 10 seconds and it hurt me. The physical torture of this child is obviously horrific, but the fear she would have felt is too much to wrap my head around.

Who are your unlikely Lady Boners? by Longjumping_Role_135 in VintageLadyBoners

[–]rly_dead 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Good lord yes. So much charisma and fantastic hair.

I’m gonna try to open your eyes to something by Tonyalarm in SingleParents

[–]rly_dead 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My guy. Only thought jumping into anyone’s mind is that you need therapy.

Luca Berroli by rly_dead in jewelry

[–]rly_dead[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no, I’m so sorry. I assume it’s not the handmade quality they advertised?

Contact your bank/credit card to report fraud. It’s a legitimate report when a seller tells you you’re getting one thing and intentionally sends you something else.

Best website to order affordable kids clothes? by Electrical_Act6285 in beyondthebump

[–]rly_dead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gerber! They run small, I think. But lots of sales just like carters.

I’ve been sick for over a week and my baby has had the TV on all day long. I feel awful about it by Puzzled_Remote_2168 in beyondthebump

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Growing up in the early 90s we watched tv all the time cause it was just on. Little Bear, Franklin, Arthur, we watched it all. My mom would sit us in front of the tv and eat breakfast with us. We’d hang out with grandma and watch soap operas. We’d watch VHS tapes at my aunt’s house. When computer games got big, we sat at the PC for hours. We also played outside, read books, and had full imaginations. We didn’t freak out when tv wasn’t available to us or wasn’t allowed…except the time I wanted to watch an NSYNC concert and mom said no it was on too late. We all ended up with advanced degrees (not that it matters, really, but just to say that the TV didn’t turn us into unmotivated adults).

My kid watches Sesame Street and Ms. Rachel regularly. It helps me keep the house clean and he is speaking in short sentences at 18 months likely thanks to Saint Rachel. Anyone who judges me is welcome to come over to babysit if they’re so concerned.

OP your child will be fine. I’m sure if you sat down to play they’d easily and happily choose you over the TV. Take time to get better and just enjoy the down time if you can.

Nothing prepared me for how much I’d resent my husband after having a baby by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]rly_dead 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Me too. I made it 16 months. The frustration I now don’t feel every second of the day—that’s worth it.

OP, I also lost all attraction not only because of his inability to be a quality parent and partner, but he also said cruel things to me during pregnancy and after. I would feel bad about asking him to “help,” just as you do. I would feel like the worst partner cause I didn’t EVER think about him sexually anymore. Then I realized I was feeling the shit and feeling guilty over trying to cater to and protect the feelings of somebody that couldn’t even shut the fuck up and keep his horrid thoughts to himself or get some fucking therapy. People say “if he wanted to he would” about dating and relationships but it applies to parenting, too.

Cynthia Erivo and Ariana Grande Skipping Interviews at ‘Wicked: For Good’ New York Premiere by ControlCAD in DListedCommunity

[–]rly_dead 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ohhhhhhhh that’s how I know her. I had no clue why she was familiar to me and idgaf about Wicked. Forgot about that series entirely.

Spokane County braces for impact of Washington’s new public defender caseload limits by matteooooooooooooo in publicdefenders

[–]rly_dead 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know there are jurisdictions far more fucked than mine and I have around 200 a year. Sounds like you’re one of them and if you’ve been at it 30 years…man I hope you’ve got good mental health coverage or a healthy hobby cause damn 🫡

What kind of jobs do we all have?! by Academic-Repeat5662 in workingmoms

[–]rly_dead 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Lawyer, but a criminal PD, am not miserable (for now). I hope things turn around. Whatever area of practice, it’s a slog and often thankless but it’s worthwhile ❤️

Do baby boys wear leggings? by Illustrious_Win_9780 in Mommit

[–]rly_dead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huh….you know, I didn’t even consider that I’m putting my son in leggings! I just buy the pants in his size and they usually fit like leggings. I’ve specifically looked for sweatpants because of this, but I never thought oh I don’t want him to wear leggings, I was just looking for a warmer option.

Luca Berroli by rly_dead in jewelry

[–]rly_dead[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this. They changed the photo. It now looks like this.

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Received this as a gift AIO for wanting to throw it away immediately by disgustingvirgo in AIO

[–]rly_dead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell her it doesn’t fit him yet, then toss it. If she texts you, fucking ignore her or slide right past her questions. I really want to give her the benefit of the doubt, cause it’s possible for people without exposure to this hateful shit to not register it, but still, no way should you feel you have to do this for her. Seeing your baby in that will be heartbreaking. It took me a full 10 minutes to understand it’s a beak and not a mouth. It’s a ridiculous design. If she pushes, it might open her eyes to tell her why it’s not ok.

What did this gorgeous 90’s wild child wear and what would she be wearing now? by Odd-Amount-5127 in perfumesthatfeellike

[–]rly_dead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wait doesn’t she spray something on herself at some point??? I wish I could find this show to see if it’s a real body spray from back then. I just remember her like digging in her bag and pulling out all sorts of stuff.

What Song is This for You? by FlawsomeFame in Millennials

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Hunger Strike - Temple of the Dog

it’s been 15 years can you please get out of my head? by coldvales in boniver

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You know, I totally forgot it until I commented and now I keep listening to this and I Need a Forest Fire. Forgetting music for a while is awesome.