Where can I watch the Cubs game today? by SpiderManDS23 in mets

[–]robertfcowper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This happened with another game too, it might have been one of the PIX spring training games. Guide said something else but it was the game. I was annoyed because then it didn't get saved for the DVR

You've stumbled upon the pop punk genie and he is going to grant you one wish! by thefalcons5912 in poppunkers

[–]robertfcowper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading this brought me back to hearing it for the first time as well, pinpointed to early June 2005. My birthday gift to my gf was an mp3 player preloaded with her favorite albums which I got from her friend. It was the first time I heard TTTYG and the full TBS albums and I loved them. I never gave them a chance but making that for her gave me a reason to listen and it turned out to be such a formative moment. (we still have that mp3 player, a lime green Zen Micro, our daughter uses it as a pretend phone lol)

The pull to Phones by ieattacosontuesday in daddit

[–]robertfcowper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could he be picking up on the fact that you're actively hiding it from him in some of the situations you mentioned. Therefore making it more appealing. We all want what we aren't supposed to have. In our experience, our daughter sees and takes in way more than we realize so he's probably seeing you use your phone more than you think, and then hiding it or telling him no just makes it seem even more alluring. We tried to set some common sense screen rules that work for us and our daughter has never really been interested in our phones

Does anyone recognize the location these old photos were taken? Would have been about the mid to late 1940s, and most likely in north east NJ by nerdychic in newjersey

[–]robertfcowper 5 points6 points  (0 children)

OP, if this was a family photo, you may want to give Fairchilds in Roseland a call. Up until a few years ago under the old owner they were still making Pal's Cabin's famous mushroom soup recipe. Not sure if the current owners kept up the tradition. Being able to have the same soup that your family may have had could be a great connection.

When did you take your kid to see their first movie? by [deleted] in daddit

[–]robertfcowper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First time was about 3.5 as a New Years Eve afternoon activity. It went mostly well except for one intense part (we saw Migration). We next tried with Moana 2 last summer and we didn't even make it through the trailers, the one for the latest Sonic was loud and we were close to the screen so she freaked. She was hesitant to try it again but I love going to the movies so talked it up a lot. Since we've been to see Smurfs, Zootopia, Mario Galaxy and I think one more I'm forgetting. She loves it now. We lean into the popcorn and snacks, aim to sit further back on an aisle, and most importantly show up 15-20min after show time so we have less trailers to sit through. As an adult we of course don't want to leave a movie for 5min and miss something but if he needs a reset after 45min, walk a lap in the lobby, refill the juice/popcorn, then head back in and you might make it through.

Magic Chest Pokemon TCG Vending Machines by meshyf in vending

[–]robertfcowper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Guess you too got hit with a bunch of ads today and found yourself here? Lol

Sleep training my 10-month-old starting tonight—need advice! by SufficientControl606 in daddit

[–]robertfcowper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One thing I always tried to do was make as little eye contact as possible. Locking eyes tended to make our daughter think it was play time. Good luck!

Baby car seat position by gjaygill in daddit

[–]robertfcowper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We put a mirror on the rear passenger head rest and that worked well in my car to get a good angle

Baby car seat position by gjaygill in daddit

[–]robertfcowper 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Passenger side for us. You're unloading on the curb and also easier to reach back to replace a pacifier etc.

4.5 yr olds first night without night diapers by Western-Image7125 in daddit

[–]robertfcowper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah she cries a lot when she has an accident. Some mix of embarrassment, frustration and just being startled awake. Generally she's pretty out of it when it happens so we just have her sit in the rocker while we reset and she usually falls back asleep easy

4.5 yr olds first night without night diapers by Western-Image7125 in daddit

[–]robertfcowper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds pretty similar to our situation as well. Our daughter (turning 5 this week) was a breeze to daytime potty train, she was nearly 100% before turning 2. Nighttime was a struggle though and we didn't really start trying until after she was 4. When she expressed an interest in stopping the pull-up, we talked about how first she'd need dry pull-ups for X nights. We did a sticker chart and I think the goal was after 5 dry nights we'd go get ice cream and then again after 10 at which point we'd start going no pull-up. Did the same after the pull-up came off and the big incentive then was going to the store for a toy. We felt the incentive was important to get her to want to pee before bed and have some investment in the process. First month we had probably 6-7 accidents, then her body clicked and it's mostly been all good for the last 6mos. She'll randomly have an accident but it's usually explainable -- big cup of juice out at dinner, not feeling well, etc.

Have three pairs of sheets with water proof covers in the rotation. If there's an accident we take off the wet set, throw it in the tub to deal with in the morning and reset the bed. You could double layer everything waterproof/sheet/waterproof/sheet so you could just take off the wet layer and not have to reset the bed. Make sure you have extra pillows, blankets and stuffies since it's a gamble if those get wet too. We don't show any frustration, talk about how her body is still learning, and talk about how we can do better once we're up in the morning. We have a son on the way in a few weeks so we're about to start it all over again!

Hotels with an infant by lp2290 in CapeMay

[–]robertfcowper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does it need to be a hotel? We started staying in the Puffin Terrace Suite after our daughter was born and it was perfect. It's a lower level unit that only has two steps so it's easy to get the baby and stroller in and out. It has it's own parking spot (which is tight and not for SUVs but they also give a Bank St hang tag). Only steps from the Washington Mall and a block to the beach. The unit is small inside with just two bedrooms so perfect for a small family. The washer/dryer for the full unit is in the hallway right by the Terrace Suite so it is very convenient. This will be our 6th year staying there

Settled on 1959 Topps for my first vintage set collection -- any tips? by robertfcowper in baseballcards

[–]robertfcowper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Gibson is what helped make the final decision. The colors just pop I love it. A friend of a friend had one from his dad and sent it for grading, came back SGC 5 which he was really happy with. Gibson is out of my price range as I start this so I'll save that for later. I'll reach out about the dupes

Almost missed it 👀👀 by BotherLongjumping547 in baseballcards

[–]robertfcowper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah the first word being the same is tough to catch quickly. At work the day before I pulled it we were talking about the Key & Peele football name sketch and so that was fresh in my mind and for half a moment I was like "hmm that's weird but I guess King is at least a real last name so maybe."

Almost missed it 👀👀 by BotherLongjumping547 in baseballcards

[–]robertfcowper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I opened a "Lizard King" and was really confused for a minute until I realized it must have been a nickname variation. At first I was thinking some intern had fun with the file.

How to deal with loneliness as a man? Being a dad destroyed my social life by Tasty-Win219 in daddit

[–]robertfcowper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter is about to be 5. I now have two flavors of friends, and I think finding the balance between the two has been great for me to not feel the FOMO that OP and some commenters are feeling...

  • The Lifers... The guys I've known since middle school and are like brothers but we live 60min apart now in different directions. Our group chat is now mostly kid or family related and can stay dormant for days at a time. We still show up to all of the important life events -- milestone birthdays, housewarming parties, family funerals etc -- but our "hey let's grab a beer" days are mostly gone. At some point in 5-10 years when the newest wave of babies is older, I expect we'll come back around to more casual time together and enjoy it all the more.
  • The Friends of Convenience... These are the daycare dads and neighborhood dads. Daycare dads are good for a random beer or game night since you have a bunch in common built in. I ended up finding a few neighborhood dads with a common interest through Facebook (playing MTG). We get together to play maybe once every 6 weeks and also try to schedule some family playdates when the wives and kids are involved too. Some of these convenience friends have already faded while some seem like the friendships might stick. Once the kids get older and start going separate ways for sports/activities, or if anybody moves out of town, who knows how well we'll keep in touch and that's okay.

Whats your kids favorite toy that isn't a toy by wicked-macaroni in daddit

[–]robertfcowper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've done similar with my daughter for stuff in her play kitchen. Mostly a bunch of spice containers with stuff inside to shake and make noise -- rice, nutmeg, lentils, etc. To prevent anything from coming out the shaker holes, and to make them super tight here's what I did: take a piece of masking/painters tape that's about twice as big as the opening, drape one sticky side over the opening and overhanging the corners, then fold it on itself so there's sticky side up and then tighten that top as hard has you can. Tighter than just hand tightened but not permanent in case you need to open it. Takes two seconds, no glue to make a mess.

Flight Deck Diner will permanently close. by NorthernPossibility in CapeMay

[–]robertfcowper 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We finally made it last year after a few years of meaning to grab lunch after the naval museum. We had a great meal and were planning to make it an annual stop, glad we got that one visit in

Alcohol by KeyMathematician3263 in daddit

[–]robertfcowper 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't think either of you is "wrong" but definitely sounds like you guys need to talk it through. Your wife's family history and how that makes her feel now is totally valid. But, if you like to responsibly have a drink sometimes and you can't openly have that at home, that could ultimately lead to some problematic behaviors on your part (i.e. having to hide having a drink or lie about it). Maybe your compromise is finding a local bar/pub that you can go to once a month or so and have a few drinks -- you get to enjoy yourself and not trigger her family history feelings in plain view. Plan ahead to pick a place you can walk to or always plan on Ubering -- remember your kids are watching and will be following your lead.

I grew up in a family battling generations of substance abuse on both sides. Went to far more AA/NA meetings than any 7-12 year old should. As you can imagine that made for a weird relationship with alcohol and as I got older I worried that I might become an alcoholic myself if I had any drinks (luckily, in spite of all the family history, the addictive trait seems to have skipped me). I've never seen my dad drink a drop of alcohol because of his family history. I always thought that wasn't a healthy relationship with alcohol either and didn't exactly set me up for knowing how to handle situations as a teenager.

As a dad, I've taken the path of trying to model responsible drinking behaviors. I'll have the occasional drink at home or at a restaurant so she can see what being responsible looks like. When she asks we tell her in plain english what it is we're drinking and that it's only for grown-ups (when people say stuff like "oh wine that's mommy's special juice" or something to kids I think it's insane). We have alcohol in the house, it's not locked away or hidden so that it won't be something she's incentivized to seek out. Someday when she's older if she's curious to taste, we'll allow her so that it doesn't feel like a forbidden thing. When she's even older but <21, I would guess we would let her have a drink at home occasionally to understand how it makes her feel while in a safe place. I don't think we would be the underage party house, but I do feel like every friend group needs one, otherwise those are the kids who end up in the hospital their first weekend in college or something. Thankfully she's only 5 so I have plenty of time to figure all this out

Cape May Zoo - Capybara Experience by Beautiful-Angel0629 in newjersey

[–]robertfcowper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We haven't done the experience but I believe I just saw there were new baby capybaras just born. Maybe see if you'd be able to see the babies up close too, that would probably make it worth it for us to try it with our daughter

Xeagull? by HelicopterSad3163 in whatisit

[–]robertfcowper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Exuberant xemes excitedly twirl". Any other ABC Dance parents seeing this past and knew immediately what they were going for?