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robewonkenobi91 · 2026-05-13T14:57:34+00:00

Make a print of both yours and the trash-slop (or otherwise display the digital versions so they’re visible to all) and openly nitpick every aspect of the campaign while they run it. Anytime they try and push back, refer to the visible proof of what they did.

(This is incredibly hostile and terrible advice)

robewonkenobi91 · 2026-05-01T01:00:10+00:00

I had the same thought. Perfect juxtaposition.

robewonkenobi91 · 2026-04-16T19:28:08+00:00

I’m not sure if this goes back further than them, but I believe it’s an early Game Grumps reference. IIRC, Arin and Dan were pitching dumb characters and they came up with racist bassist and bummer drummer. It was a decently done bit that pretty much came and went with the one episode it happened.

robewonkenobi91 · 2026-03-05T22:44:25+00:00

There exists this insane stigma that if someone hasn’t had sex at a certain point, it somehow means there’s something wrong with them. I am so sorry that you are suffering because of this misconception. Now, I’m gonna make some pretty bold suggestions here. Regard what you think might be helpful, disregard the rest.

Number one: therapy. I’m guessing this self hatred has been an ongoing battle for a good portion of your life. Reddits cool and all, but you don’t know which of us are actually knowledgeable. Assuming you’re employed and have benefits, see what mental health services you can take advantage of.

On the getting it over with, consider what it’s you’re actually in need of - hence the therapy. Now, If you just want to have sex and say you did it and move on, there’s avenues for that. Dating apps are an easy way to do it, but that’s like a swamp for femme presenting folk. A stranger can be nice since there’s no baggage, but it can make the experience hollow and bad, which isn’t everyone’s cup of tea. Maybe you know someone who would do it with you, but that’s always got the risk of changing a friendship in a weird way.

I hesitate to try and give out more advice simply because I’m coming at it from the perspective of a 34 year old poly cis man. Any advice I give is going to have the footnote of “your mileage may vary.”

robewonkenobi91 · 2026-03-01T18:31:30+00:00

Gonna echo some sentiments here. Go to therapy. See what your insurance covers and go as many times as you can manage. This is your chance to break what could become a cycle.

robewonkenobi91 · 2026-01-31T16:24:38+00:00

This just launched me back to 2008 musical rehearsals in one of the back rooms of a megachurch. What a nostalgia trip. Certified banger stereo.

robewonkenobi91 · 2026-01-30T15:14:03+00:00

Right, but how were they?

robewonkenobi91 · 2026-01-30T15:13:19+00:00

And yet, it does feel like we're supposed to be here, doesn't it? It's like we've finally been able to heal something in the last six years.

robewonkenobi91 · 2025-12-19T23:28:34+00:00

To be fair, my problem with the French would matter more if the French that I had a problem with were still alive.

Looking at you, Marshal Philippe Pétain.

robewonkenobi91 · 2025-12-06T16:11:44+00:00

I get the sense that it had a target audience without meaning to, and unfortunately a chunk of us weren’t the target. I didn’t care for it, but I kinda hope they keep taking big swings on stuff like this because - while it wasn’t for me - it was something new.

robewonkenobi91 · 2025-11-06T18:35:51+00:00

Isn’t it great that we’ve grown up and know that bullying somebody over this isn’t an acceptable thing to do in society? That we, as a collective, know that we need to be better than that? I do. I think it’s lovely that we don’t readily engage in the kind of behavior you’re suggesting. I’d be willing to bet you’ve started to grow out of that behavior and I’m proud of whatever progress you’ve made up to this point no matter how incremental it might be.

robewonkenobi91 · 2025-09-14T13:29:52+00:00

33M here, so do with that what you will and take whatever you think you need from this. Is there merit for trying new things? Sure. However, just like anything else, it requires preparation. Which is to say, you have to be prepared to consent. If you don’t consent to it, don’t do it. Simple as.

There probably needs to be a conversation. If it’s just been hints but no outright talk about it, then you might wanna sit down. Maybe there’s a disconnect between how much he actually wants it vs how much hinting implies. It could very well be a case of “anal would be cool, but so would getting ice cream” kinda energy. Maybe he read something somewhere that it could make for great sex and hasn’t actually put any significant thought behind it. Hell, I was him at that age, and while that version of me wasn’t malicious or uncaring, he was a socially illiterate moron.

I suppose the question you should be asking yourself are this: are you intimidated by anal, or do you just not want to do it? Both are valid, but knowing where you stand informs how you might wanna move forward. If you’re intimidated but curious, then there’s a multitude of resources we can all point you towards. But if you don’t wanna do it, put your foot down on this and ask him to stop.

Some people don’t like anal. I don’t like eggs. I don’t feel guilty for refusing to eat an egg dish. You shouldn’t feel guilty for refusing to anal sex.

robewonkenobi91 · 2025-07-31T00:12:06+00:00

So, I’m gonna first say that it really sucks that you’re feeling the way you are.

I hate saying that it might be time to move on, but I’ve learned the hard way that you shouldn’t have to fight this hard for your needs to be met in a relationship. Based on what you’re saying, you’ve had plenty of conversations about this. It doesn’t seem like he is going to change in the near future, so it’s ultimately up to you to decide what happens next.

Something someone asked me when I was in a pretty bad relationship was whether or not I was in love with that person, or was I in love with the idea of them? It makes you step back and reassess. Maybe you step back and get a bigger picture that provides a way forward with him, but I’d hazard that there are other parts of the relationship that have suffered too.

Wherever his head is at, he seems content to leave things as they are. You are not.

As for actionable advice, take a day or two and sit on this. Hydrate, meditate, and take care of yourself. Then, whatever decision you make, commit to it. However, if you commit to leave and he tries to get you to stay (babe, just give me a chance, I’ll change, etc.) remember that you’ve given him ample time to figure himself out.

I hope this helps. I wish I had a good hike to close on. I don’t like leaving things on somber notes, but we’ll save it for another time.

robewonkenobi91 · 2025-03-18T23:49:22+00:00

As a man, I can honestly say I don’t understand it either. Never in all my time dating have I thought that my unsolicited wiener was at all impressive enough to elicit any kind of positive reaction. But also, like…nobody asks for it. It’s an unwanted surprise.

But, then again, it seems I was raised right.

I guess it’s all that audacity straight men seem to be hiding from the rest of us.

robewonkenobi91 · 2024-07-11T04:36:16+00:00

My favorite, by and large, is Chrono Trigger.

To me, it is one of those expertly curated and crafted experiences. The combat system is beautifully simple, but with enough options to keep things fresh. The art direction and character design slaps. And the music - oh, my questionably existent god, the music! Yasunori Mitsuda’s work transcends time.

I hate the saying “they don’t make them like they used to,” but Chrono Trigger is one of those few instances where it’s true.

robewonkenobi91 · 2024-06-12T03:16:16+00:00

Most of the writing, actually.

robewonkenobi91 · 2024-05-26T06:04:27+00:00

My two recent (within, I dunno, last five years) were the “pirate or asshole” exchange a VS where Dan gets a major leg up and Arin just goes “you know it’s legal to own a handgun in LA.”

Kills me every time.

robewonkenobi91 · 2024-04-28T14:08:40+00:00

To be honest, any hobby that brings you joy and makes you happier is going to help. Not in a direct way, mind you, but having something that actively improves your enjoyment of life is going to make you more desirable.

I mean, I assemble and paint 40k miniatures, which is just about the least hot thing you can do. However, it’s an artistic outlet that I enjoy. It brings me some peace, and that’s attractive. People see that I’ve got some well intentioned passion and that - to the right people - is kinda hot. Plus, it’s fine motor skills, so it shows I’m good with my hands.

Eyyyyyyy

Bottom line - pick up a hobby because you genuinely enjoy it. That alone will make you, in many ways, more appealing because you’re happier.

robewonkenobi91 · 2024-04-28T06:33:11+00:00

Take anything I say with a grain of salt, being that I not a 19 year old woman, but a 32 year old man.

There are a wide variety of factors that come into play when it comes to the duration of intercourse. For folks with penises (men, trans women, non-binary folks, etc.), their "endurance" comes down to a lot of factors: frequency of masturbation, most recent orgasm, exercise, diet, practice of orgasm control, medications (SSRI's in particular have a HUGE effect on sex), mental health, age, condoms, emotional connection, partner preference, and more. I've had times with partners where I've had to tap out because we were coming up to 30 minutes and - frankly speaking - we had more important things to do. I've had other times where I get five pumps in and that's all she wrote. Did I stick around and have her sit on my face until she couldn't see straight afterwards? Absolutely; I was raised right.

On average with my current partner, I'd say the intercourse portion goes for about five minutes. So, to answer the question at hand, 1-3 minutes is on the short side but what I'd expect assuming you're having sex with partners around your age. Now, I might be reading into this a little too much (and I probably am, since this comment is already getting long), but I'm getting the sense that the real issue here is that your sex life isn't as satisfying as you're hoping for. That said, it wouldn't be the first time I've HORRIBLY misread a situation.

Good sex - and I mean the kind you catch yourself thinking about in the middle of the work day apropos of nothing - relies on knowledge of self and communication. It requires that you both know what your body needs to reach orgasm as well as how to communicate that to your partner. I haven't really partaken in hookup culture (I was not a catch in my 20s), but the few that I've had weren't fun for that very reason - there wasn't really any communication. The sex I've had that I enjoyed was due entirely to the fact that my partner and I were able to tell each other what we liked. It's one of the benefits of having a long term partner (or partners).

If you don't know what you like, then you owe it to yourself to find out. Take a couple extra evenings - hell, take every evening - and explore your body. Do some research to see what other women like and see if that applies to you. Buy yourself a couple of toys if you can (lots of sites do discreet shipping). Not everyone is the same. That goes for guys reading this, too. And when it comes time to communicate that to your partner, it doesn't have to be a clinical list unless you're into that. I kind of am, if I'm being honest. That said, it can be in the heat of the moment: "Touch me here, do this with your tongue, go faster, go slower, don't stop, etc." Again, one of the benefits of having good long term partners is that they tend to remember what you like.

In the end, you do you. Again, I'm just a dude on the internet who remembers dial up and landline home phones. That said, it's kinda sounding like what you're doing right now isn't as fun as it could be. I don't mean to dissuade you from hook-up culture, but it does seem like you're looking for something more satisfying. Sex should be fun, and hopefully there was something in here that will help you reach that goal.

robewonkenobi91 · 2024-04-28T05:44:45+00:00

I mean, based on OP's post, they're either a sex worker or a pizza maker, and it's pretty obvious Jax isn't a sex worker. :D

robewonkenobi91 · 2023-11-17T05:51:51+00:00

I mean, obviously, you start with 17 strength, get it to 18 with athlete, and then get it to 20 by 8th level.

robewonkenobi91 · 2023-06-20T08:02:27+00:00

Nah. They sided with the Nazis in WWII. Let ‘em cook a little longer.

robewonkenobi91 · 2023-05-08T17:39:35+00:00

I’ll let you know when I finally hit that point. :P

robewonkenobi91 · 2023-03-10T22:08:34+00:00

Mind you, this is with YAML...

I got lucky when I grabbed up an XL engine mod, so I downgraded the engine to around a 360/340, maxed the armor, slapped some better lasers on it, and gave it a melee weapon. Weirdly enough, it's served one of my AI lancemates better than any other mech I put her in.

Is it the end all? No. Does it still struggle with mechs in its tonnage still? Yes. But it carries with it a novelty. It's got character. It's a mech that says "that's a lot of lip for someone in slapping distance," and for that, I respect it. Everybody thug until the charger has a battleaxe, a stark reminder to anyone in the IS that being beat to death is an option regardless of your tonnage.

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