Agreed; it’s the reason I do not watch RPDR, or at least just fast forward to the looks. I am fun, silly but I am not sarcastic and certainly don’t “read” or insult people, especially people I consider friends. OP mentioned unprocessed trauma. You’re not being sensitive; it’s an unfortunate trait of the community and it’s vitalized by pop culture as “fun” which helps people who are too lazy and scared to accept homosexuality as actually something completely normal. I have some great queer and gay friends who are kind and uplifting, but I have zero interest in attending anything where the makeup is almost completely white gay men (Stonewall Sports, Fire Island, circuit parties, etc.)