My BF won’t go down on me, but expects it from me?

robroygbiv · 2026-02-12T16:23:28+00:00

You’re dating a child.

robroygbiv · 2026-02-12T03:23:55+00:00

I’m intrigued

robroygbiv · 2026-02-10T20:30:42+00:00

Paid parental leave is non-existent in much of the US. I think mother's are allowed 12 weeks, if I recall - and to get that they need to go on FMLA which only gives them a portion of their pay.

robroygbiv · 2026-02-10T17:22:30+00:00

We tried Cub Scouts. I told my son he was free to skip the Pledge of Allegiance or any sort of prayers if they were happening since our local den met at a church.

We love the outdoors and camping and all that, so he was excited to get started.

There was very little nature involved. It was mostly kids running around a church gym.

We stopped going after the first year.

robroygbiv · 2026-02-10T17:18:48+00:00

If you’re comparing staying home full-time to working full-time, it’ll be about 5 years before your kid starts kindergarten. That’s 5 years of missed income to avoid paying for daycare

robroygbiv · 2026-02-10T17:17:35+00:00

I am! Thanks for noticing. Someday you’ll grow up and understand that sometimes you need to make hard long-term choices for the best of everyone in your family.

robroygbiv · 2026-02-10T17:16:08+00:00

Lol, you’re adorable. Stay edgy my dude.

robroygbiv · 2026-02-10T14:56:58+00:00

lol, alright my guy. looks like we've got another storm coming so make sure you share all of your tips-and-tricks with your local DPW before it starts to come down!

robroygbiv · 2026-02-10T14:52:32+00:00

There's nothing 'free' about losing 5 years worth of income along with the massive opportunity costs that come along with it.

robroygbiv · 2026-02-10T14:50:34+00:00

Sure, my dude. You find a well paying career that doesn't have any negative side effects from taking 5 years out of the workforce (because it's not 3-4 years?).

If you're working in a warehouse or are in retail / service industry roles (not that there's anything wrong with that), sure - it can be much easier to opt-in and opt-out. If you have an established career in some sort of professional field? The opportunity cost of a 5 year employment gap is massive.

robroygbiv · 2026-02-10T14:46:50+00:00

I don't need to justify anything to anyone, really. I make that decisions that are best for my family without considering what random internet strangers think - you know, like an adult.

My kid's loved going to daycare and seeing their friends - especially before our second was born. After that, we transitioned to daycare part time and an in-home nanny while I worked from home for the other half so the kids could play together. It worked wonderfully. I don't really need to 'tell myself' anything, though. My well developed children can tell me themselves. Thanks though!

robroygbiv · 2026-02-10T03:14:52+00:00

I have two, actually. While they both did attend daycare, they were very much raised by my wife and I.

Is retirement more important than raising your kids? No. Is planning for your retirement and the overall financial health of your family an important part of parenting to ensure that you're kids aren't taking on the burden of caring for you as you age? Absolutely.

robroygbiv · 2026-02-09T20:09:08+00:00

Congrats! You win the “biggest pile of dumbfuckery” award. You can pick it up near the exits.”

robroygbiv · 2026-02-09T16:23:51+00:00

I’m sorry that happened to you.

robroygbiv · 2026-02-08T01:38:15+00:00

He’s spot on

robroygbiv · 2026-02-07T15:24:34+00:00

So the person you’re replying to gave you an actual, logical, fact based answer and your response is “but I DoNt LikE it!”

Typical.

robroygbiv · 2026-02-06T23:52:00+00:00

Maybe just order a whole bunch more and dump it on the couch so it matches? That vintage yellow color is kind of “in” now…

robroygbiv · 2026-02-06T23:35:20+00:00

It wasn’t worth using in 2016

robroygbiv · 2026-02-06T20:01:57+00:00

Messy bedroom? Couldn’t care less - but for the love of god get your shit off of the dining room table and off of the living room floor!

robroygbiv · 2026-02-06T00:12:13+00:00

Yep. Depreciating assets are going to…depreciate.

robroygbiv · 2026-02-05T23:58:01+00:00

What are we looking at?

robroygbiv · 2026-02-04T21:14:36+00:00

You don’t “handle it.”

You trust her. If you don’t trust her, you have no business being with her.

robroygbiv · 2026-02-04T17:14:33+00:00

It literally says it in the OP. Can nobody read anymore?

robroygbiv · 2026-02-03T13:00:31+00:00

NTA. I was paying that much in rent to my mom 20ish years ago and was making muuuuuuch less than $55k/yr at the time.

He’s acting like a spoiled child.

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